i need help asap plz....?????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

heres my problam. lets say u have been looking for ur father for 11 years. and someone was helping u find him and stuff and u have a phone number for someone who maybe ur grand parents and u want to call but u are not sure if u should if u did call what would u say. and would u be ur self or say u are someone elts??? i need help plz

Answer 1

Call them and be honest. You don't want to start a new relationship on false pretenses. Good Luck!!

Answer 2

this is a stressful moment huh? well if it were me id call,but depending on ur age and what youve been through can u take a rejection?sometimes people just dont want to found, it sad and heartbreaking i know,but how important is it u find ur father? what was the circumstance that left u with out him all this time?youve got to ask urself these questions,i know it hard and u r excited,u have every right to be but look at it from both ends like my hub always says hope for the best expect the worst that way the disapoint me is there but not as bad,give it a try and at least u can say hey i tried,and im a wonderful human being and they r missing out on knowing me,good luck sweets,hope everything works out

Answer 3

Make sure your info is correct, and then take a deep breath and just call. The longer you stress over it, the worse it's gonna be. Be honest, and say who you are, and see what you can find out. You must realize tho, that the end result could go either way. Just prepare yourself for both scenarios. Good luck, and leave a comment letting us know.

Answer 4

My fiance went through this a few years ago and she just called and said the first thing that went through her mind...now, it was a little different cause she knew for sure it was her dad's number but she still did something she had been longing to do for a very long time. You should probably open up the conversation with something like..."hello." Is your name ____? I'm ___"(they'll know who you are when you tell them your name). Then start talking from your heart...you'll know what to say.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Well thats tough. I would be myself. I am not sure of your age but after 11 years I think they would be happy to get a call from you. Then again that is if they know you exist. The only way you can get closer is if you speak to them. I am sure your father has been thinking of you and they will be the ones to get you back in touch with him. But please don't delay. I found my father after 14 years but I had to go see him at his grave site. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

Be honest, say my name is ____ and i'm looking for your son ____. I believe he may be my father. I'm not trying to cause any trouble or hurt anyone, I just need to know.
If they get mad and hang up, so what at least you tried. If they don't then have some questions prepared to ask so you don't get tongue tied and offend anyone or say something stupid. Be polite and don't take any resentment or anger you have out on them, you need their help not their anger. And if it turns out your right and you father won't talk to you, at least you'll have a set of grandparents you didn't have before.
Good luck and God Bless You, I hope it all works out :)

Answer 7

Some thirty years past and I spoke to my grand parents my grand mom. I wish I had never called her because it brought back the pain of what she had been throw and her lose.

My cousins contact me via the internet sometimes, just be careful you may hear another reason for your seperation one you may not like at all.

Answer 8

Good Luck. My sister gave a baby up for adoption 23 years ago. She reunited with him last year and now he has two big families instead of one and the two of them are so very happy he did this (my sister and her son). It may not work out for you this way but there's always the hope. What have you got to lose?

Answer 9

Call them... just stick with the facts that you have. Your biological grandparents may or may not have known of your existence, but you have the chance to find out many things about yourself... what was your father's side of the family like? How have their genes impacted your life?

Answer 10

Listen...I went through something similar to this. Just call these people, explain the situation, introduce yourself, and see if they can help you. You will surprised by how much people are willing to help in situations like these. Have faith in people...they still have emotions...and by the way, Good Luck!