I wrote this a week or two ago here...
"I'm in my 40's, married a long time, happily mostly, and now divorced. I dated a few women, and slept with them, following the divorce. Then I met a guy, and, he asked to sleep with me, and, I did. He is quite nice, sophisticated, masculine, and, I did not realize he was gay until he asked to sleep with me. I loved the sex with him, really loved it. I never have really looked at other guys or have ever felt myself gay. But now, naturally, I am wondering. What is going on here?"
OK, now, I am like falling head over heals for this guy. Like, I get tingly inside, can't wait to see him, and, well, sleep with him almost every night. I never thought this was possible, and, am a little distubed by it all. I am left leaning, have worked with gay folks all my life, just, never thought this was possible. I am really both disturbed and really, really, happy about this.
Is this natual, to feel a bit freakish?
2007-03-16 07:01:27 · 9 answers · asked by goldandsilver 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Dude..there are so many guys in your same situation. It's natural to feel a bit "uneasy". That will pass.
2007-03-16 07:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes definitely it's ok to be freaked out by this. Are you only into sleeping with him, because I wouldn't define you as gay for wanting some action on the side, no matter where it comes from.
You have to think of human sexuality more fluidly. Sexuality is not something set in stone, like we may be led to believe. People change, and there's nothing wrong with that.
best of luck to you, but I say you slow down on the sack sessions, you shouldn't want the relationship to be based solely on sex....because that's lame
2007-03-16 19:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not freaking out. You are experiencing some very strong emotions. I would suggest, as hinted at in your ?, that if you perform a rigorously honest review of your life, that you will see that you have been gay since the day you were born. I am so glad that you have found somebody to be so very happy with. Good luck and be well.
2007-03-16 07:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by voodooprankster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I want to say you sound over the top happy -- isn't that an indication that something great is happening.
Congratuations. Of course you would feel all kinds of emotions, that is only natural. DO your best to enjoy this time and have some fun.
May I also add PLEASE HAVE SAFE SEX!! No reason to cut your new life short!
2007-03-16 07:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to be OK. Just give it some time, just be happy that you are in a good relationship. Whats so wrong with that? Quit worrying so much, just enjoy it. You only live once, so, live healthy, live strong, live proud, and most of all, live happy.
2007-03-16 07:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by The One and Only 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is natural to feel the way you do. There were emotions, feelings, etc. that are strange to you and never knew you had but everything will work out.
2007-03-16 08:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by jasgallo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's completely natural it's just a time and place of you're life where your mind and soul are just at ease with your own desires in this case you heart.It's totally normal but my advice is don't dwell on it too long because you might end up scaring him out.
2007-03-16 07:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by eliteguard91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on! . . . Please understand that you are gay. Do not wonder what is going on, you have just realized it and are trying very hard to come to grips with that fact.
Enjoy the feeling and sensation you get. Run with it and don't let the bastards get you down!
2007-03-16 07:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by SRKoense 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you're adjusting to the fact that you're bisexual.
2007-03-17 15:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋