This is something that can be hard to understand, because we break up with them for a reason then when they are gone we miss them so much even if we are with someone new. I know people who was abused by an ex, cheated on by an ex and lied to by an ex. Now why do we still miss and love people like that when they are gone and out of our lives, leaving us to start over new.
2007-03-16 06:55:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess some people just miss the idea of them. Especially when its from a long term relationship. They miss those happy times.
I know from people who are seperated that they miss the idea of being a husband/wife.. they got so used to one idea that they can't imagine anything else.. even when they have found new people. Its a weird world i guess
2007-03-16 07:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only say that I really don't miss my ex at all - my marriage to him was a dreadful, stupid mistake that I regret. I miss the opportunities that I lost by wasting five years on that idiot, and I regret the way I let him treat me, but I could never miss him. I was on my own for 18 months after I left him, and I didn't miss him even then. Once I met my partner, I knew what it's like to be really happy. And now all I wish is that my partner and I had met when we were in our twenties so that we could have had 50 years or more together.
I have never, ever, missed any man after a relationship has ended.
2007-03-16 15:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is for me. Am in that saturation right now. It's crazy. My ex. My husband were not yet divorce. I let him go for good Sept.06 He was cheating, he was abusive and a lire. We spent 10yrs together and raised 5kids. 2 where mine and 2 where his and we have one together a 9yr son. anyways. He living with a other women across town and am in a new relationship myself. The most we do is talk on the phone and sometimes picks up his son, but he never comes in. When we do talk when we can when where by are self's, he says he missing me a lot. And I do miss him. I wake up the first thing on my mind is him and during the day and at night. I really miss him, the man I feel in love with. Not the man he became after he meet this other women. He told me he wants to come back, but I think it's to late. My boyfriend now has been really good to me and honest. I am to scared to go back to my husband because of all the fighting and cheating and lies he told me. I think we miss the person because of all the time we spent being together and we give excusing to why they cheated and why there abusive. We want to think about the good times we did have together and while your missing them you fantasy about how it could be again. We got use to that person being around and when a person is gone, one day just gone something missing and it's that person. It's like losing a arm, but in time it will grow back, because you never lost your arm in the first place you just got lost. And I think when am missing my husband because I can still feel his body around my body, his smell, his smile. And I miss him right now, I still cry for him. Down deep inside I want him back. He told me last week he will leave this other women and for me to get rid of my boyfriend and he will come home. But something tells me not to. But I do miss him. Am just afraid that he will cheat again and be bad and I don't want to take that chance no more. I forgive him before when cheating with the same women over and over. But now it's different. I know he really don't love her, because this women he fooling with use to be his best friend girlfriend and she also sleep with my brother-n-law, my husband brother. He tells me she was just for fun and now he missing his wife and son. Am hoping this missing him, for me will go away, for I can really move on.But it really hurts, the missing part.
2007-03-16 15:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were with your ex for a long time, you both got to know each other (you don't have that same comfort with a new relationship), you grew to know what they liked to watch on tv, eat, what you liked in sex, what kind of music, weather, outdoors sport, clothing, what made you laugh, cry. It is hard to move on and you will likely have feelings for this person forever. Been where you are at and sometimes it is just the way it is.
2007-03-16 14:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, speak for yourself. I could care less about my ex... he is an ex for a reason. Why dwell on the past when you could be having a great future right in front of your eyes.
2007-03-16 13:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by Valentina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same reason you would miss your brother or sister .I'm sure you had good times with that person and he or she was once part of your family
2007-03-16 14:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant be with with someone for any long period of time, and not have some feelings for them. Thats just how it is!!!!
2007-03-16 14:03:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember, you always want what you can't have or what may not be the best thing for you. Just stay strong and move on!!!!
2007-03-16 14:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by stephanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋