I have been married for 3 yrs. I love my husband to death, only his mother is the one i cant stand. she works with handicapped people and brings them around me and my kids. the one guy trys to fondle me when shes not looking. I am soo tired of it. I told her not to bring them around but she insists I stay in a seperate room when hes over. she threatens the other grandparents she will sue for grandparents rights if they dont let her see the other grandchild-my brother in laws baby. she talks about our money to strangers, and braggs how great my husband is,,, NOT me. im just raising 4 kids. i have NO backbone.:( she tells me im to stay home and take care of babies. She never raised hers! she drinks and gets delusional. how do i end this? whenever she shows up (everyday) I get this Hate feeling. I just feel like my life is controlled by her. Im affraid to tell her things due to her input and my soul being crushed. she bad talks my mom and tells everyone shes more of a mother than my own
2007-03-16 06:47:03 · 8 answers · asked by thumbalinapink 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Your hubby sounds like the coward. Get him to stand up to his mother for you. If he loves you the way a husband is supposed to love his wife then he will.
2007-03-16 06:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by darkchild39702 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, That is really horrible and if i was you i would not take it anymore. What does your husband say?. I would tell the mother in law exactly how i feel even if it was not nice because apparently she isn't very nice herself. Don't let her get away with treating you like that. Stand up for your self. If you are too scared to than tell your husband to. Don't go to her house or invite her over to yours. If you Hubbie wants to fine, let him go alone. You and the kids can all stay home.
2007-03-16 14:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband about the situation. He needs to be aware of what is going on and make the point clear across to his mom. If and when she does come around, try to leave the house (go to the park or library with your kids if they are home with you, go for a nice walk, go to the grocery store, or catch up on chores that needs to done outside the home). I'm so sorry to hear about your situation... she is an alcoholic and clearly needs help. I've been through it and there is nothing that can be done without cutting ties. Alcoholics have different faces of personality and you never know which one will come out.
2007-03-16 14:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by Holly Golightly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds liek the same kinda problem my naibhor is oging through, she just got married and her husband doesnt even like her, he goes out and he even had an affair with this other girl, n shehas his child, that poor girl who just got married comes to my house andshe kinda knows my mom and she crys so much, her mom is in india and she doesntknwo anyone here andher motherin law and her husband hate her. her mother inlaw goes out to like temples and tells all the other people how bad that girl is, that she sits at home and does nothing, i feel so sorry for her. just to tletu know there are other peplin this world with worse problems. ofcourse they put on a smile and pretend its all good and we thinkthier life is perfect but its not! u just have to tell ur self its ok. and talk to ur husband about it. if he loves u he will do something about it....
2007-03-16 13:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by angel_93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a serious problem. What does your husband say about this? Does he know? If he doesn't - then how will you think he react? If hes not a momma's boy and if he's rational enough to consider your point of view -talk to him. Tell him all this stuff. And tell him you don't want your mum-in-law in your house everyday. Tell him you think their relationship will be better if you see your mum-in-law only on holidays.
2007-03-16 13:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly would not trust her with any information about your finances or anything else you don't want to become public knowledge. I have some similar relatives and inlaws and I just try to keep to conversation to innocuouse topics like the weather, current events. etc. I know this is hard if you are around her a lot, and some would yell at me for just avoiding confrontation, but it works for me.
BTW - What does your husband say about this situation?
2007-03-16 13:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by KYRealEstateGuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then you need to stand up to her and tell her that she is not allowed in your home unless she is by herself and if she has nothing nice to say then please so not come over!!! Your husband needs to be the one who tells her. If he will not then you do it and re consider how great he is!!! It might to be a good idea to get EVERYONE ( brother in law ) tog. to talk to her.
2007-03-16 13:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly have a problem there. Can your husband not say something to her? She sounds as though she might have a slight mental problem, could you not somehow get her to see a doctor.
I hope you can find a way out of this, it's a difficult one.
Good luck.
2007-03-16 13:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋