Here is a question for the men!!?

Question

I am sure a lot of women can relate to this. Some men are just obnoxious, selfish and childish. I have met some women that have told me that her husband started out immature but they have changed over the years... is time the only way to make a man mature or can something else happen that will make them grow up?

Answer 1

Some people grow up faster than others. Some never do. It's not really any different for men then women - I know plenty of women in their 40s and beyond who are STILL drink party sleep with whoever, never work, mooch from person to person......it's alll about them them them.

Time matures people, but so do increasing expectations. If people have no reason to mature (i.e. everything handed to them anyways) then they often don't. If people need to look after themselves, they usually will (after an initial resistance).

Answer 2

As a man, the best advise I can give you is to look for the qualities that you want and need in a man before you get too involved. You can't make a man change into what you want him to be. We change in our own time just like women do. Find what you are looking for in a guy and don't settle for less. Don't get involved with an immature guy if maturity is an important thing to you. Yes, men grow up but we all have a little boy inside of us and when you try to make us change we revolt. Never marry someone thinking that you will be able to change them. It may be a very long, unhappy life with that person.

Answer 3

Everybody is different.

And the same way you get many men like that, you also get many women like that too.

But in general, growing up and becoming a mature adult requires time, and depending on the environment you are and how you are and your personality, you will reach it faster or slower, or you won’t reach it at all.

For most cases, when a man has a kid, things change. If he can appreciate the fact that he is now a father, and that little thing is depending on him (and the mother of course) to survive, then he changes a lot, and becomes a real man.

But is not the only case. A real man will take care of things and will be the man of the house when he confronts the world. The help from a woman is very needed just like she needs him, but as individuals we can also make it on our own.

Again, it all depends on many things.

Hope this answers somehow your question.

Now gotta go keep playing with my toys… LOL… j/k

Answer 4

You know I asked the same question about my ex-wife. Will she grow up. If you are worried about things like that, then don't marry the guy. I seen plenty of flaky women too. So it's not just the guys. There was this one gal and she was all of 5'4" around 115lbs and all she could ask me was, "Do I look fat?" On top of it she drank like a fish and wore clothes that were more appropriate for a 15 yr old. She had a great body but no brains or common sense. That's why I told her to make like dirt and hit the tail. Did she ever "grow-up" not that I know of. So as you can see. It goes to both sides of the street.

Answer 5

Some men never mature.
If you ever know a woman wanting to marry an immature man, in the hopes he'll mature over the years..... give her a good smack. Marrying an immature man just give him an excuse not to mature. When you marry someone you are saying "I accept you for who you are" NOT "for you you may one day be"

Answer 6

Myself I may have 2 grow old but refuse 2 grow up. The difference is inmature.Knowing when 2 & not 2. Thats up 2 him???

Answer 7

Children will change a man very quickly. It forces you to think about someone other than yourself.

I always thought that I was a good husband but when we had our first child and my wife told me that I was agood husband
then I knew for sure that I was maturing.

Answer 8

I think it depends on if he wants to change, for me it was becoming a father that put me in the "it's to grow up now".

Answer 9

It depends if the guy wants to change or not...Maybe time can make them realize they should move on and grow up...

Answer 10

why would you want us to grow up
from the immortal words of rodney dangerfield (rest his soul) 'relax youll live longer'