im attracted to men but its hard for me to express physical affection such as kissing,slow dancing etc...i'm really afraid to express physical affection.
2007-03-16 06:44:19 · 33 answers · asked by natalie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If that were true sugar, then all the men who can't express themselves, even to women they love, must all be gay. Don't be so hard on yourself, there is some reason you are so protective of your feelings...thats not necessarily bad.
2007-03-16 06:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by LoneStarLou 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your 'shyness' about 'expressing physical affection' towards a man is something that you have been 'taught' by your parents and your early childhood experiences. If you were a lesbian, you would 'feel nothing' twoard men at all (you say that you are 'attracted to them) but would have those 'feelings of attraction for other women. Being a lesbian is the same as being 'gay' ... it's 'born in' and not a 'trained trait' like your difficulty with 'physical afftection.' You say that you are 'afraid' of that for some reason. I think that your 'fear' is more 'irrational' fear that you could be a lesbian ... and that it is actually a 'very good thing' that you don't want to show 'physical affection' toward a man ... because that means that the men you are dating are not 'the man for you' and your 'fear' is your response to 'knowing that' subconsciously. This so called 'fear' you have may need to be 'examined' in counseling if it is 'harming your relationships with people' in general ... but for now I'd just take it to mean that you are NOT 'ready for sex' and that you 'prefer to wait' until your 'one and only one man' comes along. You'll KNOW when that happens, because the 'fear' of physical affection will be replaced by a new emotion ... "JOY" when the two of you 'touch' and when that happens NATURALLY, the world becomes a 'magic' place and your whole 'view of the world' will change with your new 'feelings' ... that's called 'falling in love' ...
2007-03-16 06:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has nothing to do with whether or not you are a lesbian. Your reaction to men is not that relevant. What matters (as far as being a lesbian is concerned) is your attraction and ability to express physical affection towards a WOMAN. Sexual attraction to the same sex makes you gay. If you do not have this, then your problem is an emotional problem with affection, not a matter of you being a lesbian. If you DO have a sexual attraction to women, then you are probably a lesbian. If not, then go talk to your doctor about it. You may have an emotional problem that may require medication or therapy.
2007-03-16 06:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol Madlith you dork = P
Not necessarily. Many straight women have reasons why they are afraid to express physical attraction. You could just be shy, there doesn't have to be a sound answer to why you're afraid. You also really shouldn't jump straight to an orientation issue and most definitely not right to lesbian. You could be A-sexual for that matter until you figure out what your feelings are with women. Try asking yourself "what is it I'm afraid of" see if there might be a reason you can think of.
2007-03-16 06:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No It Doesn't Mean Your A Lesbian. If You Were Not Attracted To Men Then You Would Be A Lesbian. But You Can Be Attracted To Both And Be A Bi Sexual.
2007-03-16 06:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No not at all that does not mean your a lesbian.....that just mean that you might not have yet found that one guy that makes you feel all those feelings......But everyone is different you don't always have to enjoy kissing and slow dancing with a guy maybe you should try new activities and meet new people!!!
2007-03-16 06:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by ~Sexy Rose~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The signs of lesbianism are attraction to women, not the absence of affection for men.
2007-03-16 06:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is hard question for me to answer. It may just be you are afraid of feeling attracted to men for some reason or other.
It may just be you are too young and you are not mentally ready, as yet.
It could, of course, be you have some homosexual deviation of sorts.
I think the best for you would be to check with a professional, meaning a psychologist... You could get the adequate help from him/her.
Curious98
2007-03-16 06:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by curious98 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Being a lesbian is having an attraction towards women.
2007-03-16 06:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I disagree. I think that straight females are much more open to lesbians nowadays. As a college student, I have plenty of gay friends--female and male. I also have plenty of straight friends, and of those, I know several men who refuse to come to parties at my house if there are gay men there, whereas the women do not care one way or the other whether there is a gay female over or not. I think men are much more inclined to be homophobic.
2016-03-29 01:48:41 · answer #10 · answered by Lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋