Dads, when your wife/partner was pregnant with first baby, how did u deal with it? What were your thoughts and fears and did u find it completely different once the baby was here? For instance, did u think that it would be harder with a newborn than it actually was, or worse? did u have to give up all your interests or did u manage to find a balance around work/play/family? My partner is a little freaked out at being a first-time dad in 10 weeks so im trying to get some info from experienced dads - thanks
2007-03-16 06:30:12 · 4 answers · asked by Serry's mum 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
:) how cute lol, well my hubby actually handled our first very well. Like yours he was very nervous, he didnt know how to deal with having a new baby, he was worried that his life was going to almost stop lol. He was worried about money, and how we were going to afford for me to stay home, making sure we were driving safe cars things like that. When i had our first son he became very attached to him, in fact his father skills came very natural. He learnt how to give baths, change diapers, do laundry, make bottles. Everything :) it was wonderful. I became a stay at home mom, and his life if anything has become much more balanced. We do get out once in a while, he has drinks after work with the "guys" every once in a while. You truly do find a balance in it all. Life becomes more about your child then it does about "you". Life all of the sudden has a huge purpose. Its amazing how much love children bring to your life :) I promise he will be fine in it all and as you have time being a parent you learn to make adjustments where needed and you become more responsible. We went from renting a small place, to owning a place, land, 2 new vehicles, a motorcycle, boat. Everything. My hubby has more toys now then ever because we learnt to budget and work for what we want. Our kids have everything they need and i still manage to be a stay at home mom. Kids definitly settle you down, but you DO still have a life :) Goodluck with the new baby!!!
Mom of 4 boys and 26 weeks with boy 5!!
2007-03-16 06:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a mom and my hubby was scared also about money and how he would handle a baby. Our child was horrible ( love her to death but....) she cried all the time and was VERY colicy so me and my hubby were both VERY surprised about how much work it is!! He managed to still do what he likes ( working on his truck ) and helping me out too. Yes you have to give up some time but after the first few months you Can spend more time on what you love to do. I think for both of us ( we are young parents...21-22) it was having to give up our free time to a baby... no more going out near as much and forget after they turn about 5-6 months staying out any were late ( you want them on a schedule so they will sleep all night)We both have VERY involved grandparents so they will help us out every other weekend if we want to have a night out.
But, we both would not give it up for anything
2007-03-16 14:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was worried about money that he may be born with health problems.. some people we knew split up over this But it turned out ok for us...
2007-03-16 13:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Grand pa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(if my angel would ask this question )
dear daughter having fear is normal it will continue all the nine months of pregnancy but when the baby is there everything will change believe me
2007-03-16 13:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋