I'm just suspicous because she's gone back to school this year and is so busy that we never seem to have time for sex (like once a month is lucky!). We've always had a healthy sex life before this, but she spends so much time now studying or with her friends, I'm starting to wonder. Am I being paranoid?
2007-03-16 06:10:51 · 29 answers · asked by whomever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude, trust me when a woman get involved with a new activity sex is the last thing she is thinking about, doesn’t mean she is cheating it just means you need to make an adjustment to your expectations, sucks don’t it.
2007-03-16 06:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably just being paranoid, she just probably trying to get her studies wright, you'll know if she really has time for you or not, try to do something with her instead of just letting her run off with her friends. If she really had no time for sex and she has time for her friends then that's just excuses and she rather do something else than sex. If she's studying then just snatch the book away and go down on her or something, if she gets mad or she is still dont want to then she's either loosing interest in sex or she's seeing someone. Watch out for her if she shaves her legs every few days just to go to school and she dont even wair a skirt or something. That just might be a sign that she dont want the other guy to see her with harry legs. A person that has no time forgets to do things like that. It takes alot to study so just dont acuse her of something that you're not sure of, unless you catch her cheating, if you suspect she's cheating then watch out for things that she never use to do, usually they would mean something.
2007-03-16 13:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Lucky Charm♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I think it is great that you have been so supportive of your wife as she looks to better her life by going back to school. She is very fortunate to have you. I bet it is pretty stressful being in school, studying, and perhaps having a job, and of course her relationship with you. My gut tells me she may be a bit overwhelmed. It is a pretty significant change, and her energy is going into work now...but it probably just for now. You know I bet you could have an open conversation with her and get to the core of the issue, which is probably that you feel a bit neglected right now...and just see where the conversation goes. No, I do not think she is cheating at all. I do not think that is the issue in this particular case.
2007-03-16 13:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being paranoid. She is trying to make a better life for the two of you. Unfortunately, she has to put some things on the back burner. Don't worry it will all work out you will get your healthy lifestyle back. Don't go and start accusing her of anything cause you know it's going to bite you in the *** and you won't be getting it once a month.
2007-03-16 13:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Set up a date and have some time for just the 2 of you.... Tell her you think you need to have some 1 on 1 time to talk . That you think your relationship is suffering and you just wabt to make sure you all are sttill on the right track. Be open and honest BUT not accusing and mean. A soft answer turneth away wrath(anger). Just let her know that you miss her and you know that she has alot going on but that you really need some time with her.....
2007-03-16 13:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by Simple Life? HAHA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your being paranoid. I didn't go to school but as a stay at home mom with 2 kids of my own under the age of 3yr. and baby sitting another I still managed to have sex at least once a week!! I think you definitely need to talk to her.
2007-03-16 13:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know for a fact she is studying, it's no big deal. Tell her you are feeling a little left out, and that she needs to take some of her "friend" time, and spend it with you, if she has a problem with that, then you may be right about her cheating.
2007-03-16 13:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by no1bucsfan26 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her because I agree with the others that it should be more then once a month and I know she busy with school but you always make time. Good luck
2007-03-16 13:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by randrnorman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
school is very hard, and takes time, all the study. but if she has time to run around with her friends than she should be able to give u time too. your not paranoid, what u are feeling is your reality even is she isn't cheating, your feeling abandoned and left out, all u can do is talk to her, tell her how it is hurting u. but if she isn't showing any of the typical signs of cheating i would not jump to any conclusions unless i knew for sure.
2007-03-16 13:18:07 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not having time for sex doesn't mean your spouse is cheating on you. Has she changed her look recently? Gotten any personal calls from someone you don't know? Smelled different? THEN you can be suspicious... let her know that you're one of her friends too and that you'd like to spend more time together.
2007-03-16 13:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋