It sounds kinda deep but sometimes a person might just want the marriage to work out well i.e. allowing AND SUPPORTING the other in whatever he does, having healthy joint discussions issues on kids, housing, etc , encouraging each other to pursue his/her interests and so on, BUT he/she may not love the other person or just disagrees with the other person's way of handling things.
So, it is like, I respect you but I don't love you.
2007-03-16 06:08:06 · 15 answers · asked by ah_loong 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why would anyone want to save the marriage if the relationship was platonic anyway; those are called friends....
2007-03-16 06:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so.
If you don't save the relationship, what point is there in continuing the contractual obligation to one another?
The marriage IS the relationship. If there's no relationship there, it's just a roommate that you sleep next to.
2007-03-16 06:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sure that's possible and actually happens more than we think. Some start out loving each other, others simply never really have. There is security in knowing you're not alone. Children are being put first and the marriage is held up to provide for them a family and stability. Financial reasons. Who knows.
2007-03-16 06:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by VW 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
With out love and a relationship . there is no marriage !
2007-03-16 06:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by joel s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there are circumstances where two people can remain in a marriage without being in love with each other. There can be situations that can keep them together, because it is in their best interest, such as children, financial support, religion, companionship, etc. Both must understand and agree that this is the boundaries of their relationship. There must be a mutual respect and love for each other (not meaning "in love") and both must make a commitment to making it work. My in-laws have made this work for 50 years. It didn't start out that way, but for the last 30+ years, this has been their marriage. They are in their late 70's and they are still together, supporting each other and their children and grandchildren but sleeping in separate beds. Sounds odd and it might not be the ideal marriage for most people but it can work.
2007-03-16 06:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by bebe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, its possible, but kind of sad. people stay in marriages for reasons like til the kids are older, fear of being alone, fear of never finding anyone else, like that. it could work if both are in agreement about this but usually one party still wants the relationship to be something like it used to be. so then it wouldnt work out too well. if kids are involved and the communication is good, living seperately at least for awhile might give both the freedom to figure out what they really want.
2007-03-16 12:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a marriage, that's a friendship.
2007-03-16 06:14:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can't imagine how you could stay married to someone & not have a relationship with them on one level or another.
I believe you can have a relationship with someone & not have feelings of true love between you. For example you have a relationship with the people you work with, but you don't necessarily LOVE them.
Furthermore I don't see how it could help you remaining in a loveless marriage. Don't you want your children to see an example of a loving caring & nurturing environment in a marriage? You, & your husband are role models for your kids. Maybe it's fine for you to be so self-sacrificing & noble by staying in a marriage without the intention of loving your partner, but is that the model you want for your children?
You can teach your children to respect anybody such as a Police Officer, or a grocery clerk, but don't you want your kids to know what it's like to have a loving relationship?
2007-03-16 06:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, they call it the "green card" effect.
It doesn't have to be that way though. Everyone has good qualities. I could easily dislike many of the women I've been with, but I looked past their negative qualities and focused on their good qualities. Right now, I'm married to the most beautiful, intelligent, and wonderful woman in America.
2007-03-16 06:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah but if your in a loveless marriage what are you teaching the kids that it OK to settle and be with someone who doesn't love you but respect you come on be for real when your in a marriage it about love comprise and trust and so on.
2007-03-16 06:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by randrnorman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋