wife wants to work things out?

Question

my soon to be ex wife thinks Im being to harsh because I dont want to work things out.
she was caught (with photographic proof) having sex at a bachelorette party with 3 strippers (guys) at the same time. her best friend showed me the pics. we are now seperated and I do not want to work things out obviously and told her the mass population would agree with me, she claims Im the only one without a heart and most people in relationships would work through it.... your opinions would be greatly appriciated

Answer 1

Wow! Well you know the saying, love concurs all. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 2

If she was having "Sex" in those photographs, save yourself the time and heartache and let her go. She is so disrespectful to you for having done it. She is being dumped and noone likes being dumped. Dont let her get the best of you. i'm sorry this happened but, you should not have to put up with anything like that, it was totally uncalled for. She has no self respect, dignity, or class. Dont let her drag you down as well.
But then again this is your choice, you do what you feel and if you can get past those seeing those pictures then the rest is up to you.

Answer 3

Helllll no! Do not get back with her! This is why bachelorette parties are so stupid and immature.

Stand your ground! Be a man and don't put up with this kind of crap from anyone. You have a heart and you're going to open it up to someone that deserves your time and that wants to be committed to you and to you only. She's the heartless one.

Answer 4

With the little information you gave us, it's hard to give you a yes or no answer. If this was the only time, then I would want to work things out.

I would hope that the man I love would be willing to work through problems, to eventually forgive, and work together with me to make the relationship stronger and better than before.

But if your marriage has a pattern of dishonesty and cheating, then it's best to move on.

Answer 5

First, I dont believe once a cheater- always a cheater. I believe everyone makes mistakes. Big or small, moral or not. Its if you learned a lesson and the other believes it was a one time thing.
Proof that she cheated is enough reason to want to end a relationship. In your case, this is what you want, I would side with ya!
But on the other hand, maybe she was full filling a fantasy. lol

Answer 6

I would say there's nothing left to work through. Where was her heart when she was with those strippers? God knows where those strippers have been. You should get checked for STD's, and move on.

Answer 7

She doesn't love the strippers. She just couldn't resist their hot bodies and big c-o-c-k-s. Thestrippers were just having fun, none of them want a relationship with your soon to be ex.
Your wife doesn't want a relationship with them either, she just wanted screwed, that's all.

Answer 8

I believe in giving everyone a second chance. Yes she screwed up and you have the pictures to prove it. Do you love her? Can you forgive her? If you can't then move on but if there is any doubt whatsoever give it another shot. Good Luck to you.

Answer 9

Ultimately, it's up to you. It's about you and your feelings and what you are able to deal with and not about what "most people" would do. "Most people" is not who is in your relationship.

If you feel like you can't trust her again and you do not want to work it out, that is your choice and you need no one's approval.

If it matters, if I were in that situation, I would walk away, too.

Good Luck!

Answer 10

I agree w/ ya you shouldnt try to work things out b/c if shes out doing that shes evidentley not happy in your relationship and shell probably do it again if shes not happy.