And his Dad works full time ,and the boy who is 14 told me today he is very angry with his Mom and he knows he needs to go to school to get a good job. Where should I start by trying to help him?
2007-03-16 05:41:43 · 7 answers · asked by wilma 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Let me see if I understand. He was home schooled? If you're in America, he has to go to school. If he has a birth certificate, then at some point he has to go to school. And now Mom has died?
You need to talk to his dad. Offer him any support with helping him get his son in school and adjusted. Because you are not his guardian, your role is as much support as you can give. Don't listen to advice that you are completely limited. This kid needs an adult that cares and can give him some guidance. You can be that person and I hope you are.
Good luck.
2007-03-16 05:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not illegal to not go to school as long as the boy is receiving some form of education...like in our state (Washington) the mom or primary caregiver has to attend a homeschooling class and the child has to meet certain educational milestones at certain times and demonstrate progress. If he wants to go to regular school, and Dad is not opposed, maybe you can help by giving him the ride into the local high school to get enrolled. Another option is Adult Basic Education (mainly geared towards adults who could not complete traditional high school, but it's a diploma program and not a GED) which will be through your local community college. A third option is alternative high school. Either the high school principal or administration will be able to help you and him decide what is best for this child. You will need Dad's written permission to sign any forms... or possibly custody papers... depending on where you live. But since it sounds like its your son's friend - probably the Dad will have to make the final choice and sign the papers to get him enrolled in an educational program.
Good job for trying to help. He sounds like he really needs a concerned adult in his life and that is sweet of you to help.
2007-03-16 13:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Angie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to grieve his mom and anger is part of that. but, then he needs to let it go and focus on more positive memories of his mother so that he can get on with his life and not "act out" towards a woman who can no longer deal with the consequences.
i highly reccommend your friend read "The Teenage Liberation Handbook" (just google it)
It is totally false that you need to attend school to get a job, or even to go to college. Many colleges actively seek out homeschoolers.
If he wants to go to school so badly, he should do some research and put together a convincing argument to present to his father.
There is a very helpful homeschool section here on YahooAnswers. There are probably also yahoo groups and other orginizations that can help your friend make an informed decision.
2007-03-16 13:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by Terrible Threes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the Dad to enroll him in school.
2007-03-16 13:13:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If dad isn't willing to enroll him in school, I'd report the family to social services and let them handle it.
2007-03-16 12:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing. I would start by talking to his father and see what they say. If he refuses to let him go to school, I think I'd call the school system and see what they say to do.
2007-03-16 12:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if his dad is willing to enroll him in school first
2007-03-16 13:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by cherryvalley2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋