2007-03-16 05:41:31 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
smile.. well you don't say how young you are. If you ask the question, "am I too young?" chances are...you are wondering yourself. Young people so want to 'belong' to someone. That's understandable. However, whenever I have an important decision to make in my life...I try to 'role' play it out in my mind. Am I ready for what this decision will entail and how will it change my life?? Marriage to someone is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make. Please don't make the mistake of thinking, if it doesn't work out, I can always leave. So many lives are never put back together from divorce and you carry many hurts with you for the rest of your life. Divorce not only affects you, but all those who love and care about you. Once married, the fun of dating and meeting new people is over. You are not free to choose and make your own decisions, but now must consider your mate, his/her desires, etc. The responsibilities of finances, household duties, future children...all take a toll on all of us...and even more so on those who are young and haven't yet experienced many of the dreams of youth. You have a lifetime once you marry...don't rush into it.
2007-03-16 05:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between getting married and being married. Being married requires understanding, patience, and compromise.
In general, if you are under 20 I would NOT suggest getting married. I would establish yourself as an adult outside of your parents home before you get married. Some alone time will help with growth and maturity.
I know 17-18 yr olds who have gotten married and years later are very happy. Honestly I believe they are the exception rather than the rule.
2007-03-16 05:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All marriage is, is a peice of paper you paid some one else to sign infront of the people who know where your heart lies. As far as you and he can tell, aren't you married, you have been together long enough, you pay bills together (if you don't, than you are definetly too young) and you are seen in public as a couple. If the both of you are so serious and dedicated to each other, then wait until you can't ask your self this question any more. I'm sure you have atleast 60yrs of life to share. Chill and enjoy, you have atleast 60yrs to share, but only 60yrs to live, live it up!
2007-03-20 01:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by Winchester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried about marring this guy because you are too young you should think twice before you take the step, remember when we are young we are tempted to change our personality quite often, for example today you might think that pink is the most beautiful color but few days latter you decide that now blue is the one, the same is with our heart, you can think that you are deeply in love, but like I said think one more time before you do it, there is nothing wrong on using your brain to do what is best for your heart.
2007-03-16 06:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by Luna* * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No age is just a number. I got married right after I turned 20, and its been over 3 1/2 years.
2007-03-16 06:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found that most people's personalities, wants, needs, etc... all CHANGE once they turn 21 or 22. It has nothing to do with being able to drink, it's just a natural turning point in your life. You graduate from college, get jobs, etc...
Life changes a lot at that age. You may feel someone is right for you now, but it could turn out to be totally the opposite in the future. Don't rush through life, enjoy being young. I wish I'd listened to my own advice when I was younger.
2007-03-16 05:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make sure your ready for marriage and both love each other enough for a lifetime i was 20 when i married my 1st husband my kids dad i were talked into that marriage we fought all the time but then it was too late to leave after i had my two daughters i divorced him ten years later i wasn't happy with him but i adored my kids i raised them so no matter how old you are be sure but don't marry too young i don't know how old you are you didn't state it but 20 itsn't too young to marry if your not talked into it you find your own mate and know its real love
2007-03-16 05:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really, if you are under about 24 you are too young. Lots of people get married younger than that, but you arent ready till after that!!!!
2007-03-16 05:49:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are afraid you are too young, then you ARE too young. I was married the first time when I was 21 and it was a huge mistake. We divorced when I was 29 and it was the most liberating thing I have ever done for myself. I am now 33 and just recently married a wonderful man who knows how to treat me right.
2007-03-16 06:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
WELL SINCE I'M NOT SURE HOW OLD YOU ARE, I WILL ASSUME YOU ARE OF AGE. IF THAT IS TRUE, FIRST OF ALL, I WOULD HOPE HE FEELS THE SAME WAY TOO. IF THAT IS SO, AND YOU BOTH LOVE EACH OTHER, AND MOST OF ALL TRUST EACH OTHER 100% ( VERY IMPORTANT) MARRIAGE IS WONDERFUL. LOVE IS WONDERFUL.. FOLLOW YOUR HEART, BUT ALSO REMEMBER THE FACTS! WITHOUT TRUST NO MARRIAGE LASTS FOREVER.. SO IF YOU ARE OF AGE, AND YOU BOTH HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO HAVE A GREAT MARRIAGE, GO FOR IT! LIFE IS SHORT. ENJOY YOUR LIFE WITH THE MAN YOU LOVE!! SWEETIE BE HAPPY AND GO FOR IT! I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK KATHY
2007-03-16 05:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by kathy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋