i am 23 and married to a 45 year old man who is just the most beautiful person i have ever met! we have been married for 2 years and together for 3. older woman seem to not respect my me as his wife......... whats your opinion
2007-03-16 05:40:37 · 27 answers · asked by Boxer girl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think it's up to the individuals... but i already raised my kids.
perhaps your husband is not emotionally mature enough to relate to women his own age?
2007-03-16 05:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know a few people who are married with a HUGE gap in their ages. None of the couple have had trouble like you have had. I say if a 45 year old man can get and keep a 23 year old woman, he's my hero. No, seriously, there's nothing wrong with that age difference in my opinion. As long as both parties love each other and are 18+, there's nothing wrong with it, anyway lol.
2007-03-16 06:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably think of you as a "gold digger" with him being your "sugar daddy". People still stereotype people into categories they dont undertsand or know anything about without first finding out the truth. This is a typical situation. As long as you two love each other then no one or nothing else really matters. This is your age showing thru as this question tells me this is bothering you or you wouldnt be on here. The older women have nothing in common with you and view you as a youngster with no life or marital experience. They probably all have kids as old as you so you can see where theyre coming from too. There will always be an age factor here but the sooner you can learn to accept it and deal with it, the better off youll be. Good luck
2007-03-16 06:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not trying to be mean, but my opinion is women who marry men that much older are in it for the money he has earned for himself, a man that age can afford more then a man younger. I don't have an issue with the age if you are in love but trying to let you know what other see. they might also see you as nothing more then a trophy wife to this older man too.
2007-03-16 06:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 26 my fiance is 46, and he makes me completely happy. He is everything I have looked for in a man. We are getting married late summer this year and plan on having a kid of our together, because we both have children from previous marriages.
I think it is great. Age does not matter as long as the person treats you right and he loves you,
2007-03-16 06:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by clints_wench 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he respects you as a wife, be happy. This IS a very large age difference - it is not "wrong" but it's unorthodox. And anytime you do something that stands out from the "average", there will be people who don't agree with it. Live your life the way you see fit, and don't worry too much about what other people think.
2007-03-16 06:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They dont respect you because they feel threatened by you, Not so much that you are going to steal their husbands more like oh no my husbad is going to want a younger female too! You know what I'm saying, its hard, and even when you try your hardest you are probably not going to be able to fit in. They are too threatened by your presence. Who wants to be around ignorant individuals like that anyway. They obviously are if they are not spending time getting to know you by who you are not how old you are. As long as you are happy and your hubbie is happy is all that matters. Those type of people will never understand. God Bless...
2007-03-16 06:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you act like a mature adult and a spouse, there's absolutely nothing wrong at all, keeping in mind that you may have some different interests and opinions which is healthy. If you act like a needy child, or a teenager with a crush, then that's a different story. The older ladies are probably just jealous of you. Just ignore them.
2007-03-16 05:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
JEALOUSY!
Listen to me: I met my husband when I was 23 and he was 38. Until recently, we've had:
Guys high five him
Guys calling him their hero
Older women hitting on him
Younger women hitting on him
Lawyer "friends" assuming (and waiting!) for us to get divorced
Assumptions that I'm a gold digger
His best friend after me (if my husband could get me, why in the world can't him?)
"Pitying" looks from older women
Older men hitting on me
Younger men hitting on me
... This is not merely because we are beautiful!! It's like holding up a mirror to themselves. Threatened City. Luckily, after ten plus years, we look more ourselves than our ages. Hang in!!!
2007-03-16 14:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age is a number when i was 19 i married a 36 year old and we have 2 girls together
2007-03-16 05:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by lisaanndubay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 24 and my husband is 35 and our relationship is wonderful. I don't think that age makes a difference at all. It is proven that men mature more slowly than women, so it doesn't matter. Love has nothing to do with age.
2007-03-16 06:59:27 · answer #11 · answered by stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋