After you miscarried what helped you heal the pain left in you heart?

Question

I just recently miscarried and I know that it will get better eventually but what helped you cope with the loss of your baby? Any suggestions that you have for us to try would be appreciated.

Answer 1

they say time heals all wounds, but not completely in my experience, i had a miscarriage 6 years ago and while i dont think of that baby every day, i still do think about him and wonder what went wrong and what he might have been i have a wonderful little girl now and she really helps too its sad but unfortunately it happens way too often to so many women. i had a really good friend that i would talk to after it happened and just talking about it was painful for so long but it really does get better with time just allow youtrself to grieve this little life that was lost it helps

Answer 2

My husband really helped me cope. Also, talking to my friends and family helped too. I cried a lot and honestly that probably helped me the most, just letting it out. You may never truly get over it, but time heals all wounds. Just pray about it and remember that it's not your fault, that everything happens for a reason. Maybe my story will encourage you a little. My husband and I got married in may 2005. I found out I was preg in July. I misscarried at 10 weeks and have to have d&c in Aug. It was one of the hardest things I have ever been through. I got preg again in Feb2006 and I gave birth to a healthy baby boy on Nov.12,2006. He is the most wonderful thing, so just give it a little time and it will happen. I am praying for you. If you need someone to talk to you can email me.

Answer 3

I have always been told that when you have a miscarriage there was a problem with the baby. This is sometimes nature's way. I hope you have success with bearing a child sometime in the future.

Meditate and prayer and this will help you cope with your loss. Talking to a close relative or friend will help.

Answer 4

For me it just took time. I also had to come to terms with the fact that it was just not "meant to be". The reason you miscarried was because something was wrong with the actual 'make-up' of the baby. It was for the best. I know that is hard to heard, it was for me too. (I miscarried at 8 weeks). But it just meant the baby was not going to develope right. When the time is right for you, you will have a happy, healthy pregnancy and baby.
Good Luck, and prayers to you.

Answer 5

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I myself have experienced 3 miscarriages and it is not easy nor do you "get over it". I can tell you that my husband is the best and he makes me think of the positive side of everything!
I am one that needs to talk about things to get over them, he is not. so I have turned to the wonderful Internet world and have had a lot of support from others that have been thru it as well. I also have break downs with myself that I may cry here and there, but I promise it gets better. Please just send up lots of prayers and ask the Lord to guide you!
Try to take up some type of hobby. We actually went and got a new puppy right after wards and it kept me very busy!
I hope things get better for you!

Answer 6

Time was the most important thing. And finding a way to grieve-that was a real baby, and it deserves whatever rituals you need to heal that.

I leaned a lot on my husband, and on friends who had been through similar losses.

The hardest part, was learning not to blame myself. And even now, almost a year later, I still have moments of that.

Give it time, and grieve in whatever way helps you. There isn't a right or wrong way to deal with this.

I hope you can find peace soon.

Answer 7

I found that talking about it really helps me even to this day and its been 2 1/2 years. I never forget her and I have poems I wrote that I read sometimes and I'm planting a tree for her.. Something that will live a LONG time and give shade and oxygen to my other children! Time, prayer and support are all important in the recovery. My prayers are with you! This is a rough time, but it will get better

Answer 8

.....I know exactly what you are going thru.I am so sorry for your loss.The only thing I can tell you is put this in God's hands.It is going to take time.But it will pass.I looked at it like this.
The child may have been deformed or worse ,dealing with brain damage.That meant that you and the child would have had to endure many heartaches and pain.In all of HIS great wisdom HE chose you to learn a life lesson.Nothing is guaranteed.WE accept what we are given.and don't take for granted all we have received.I lost my baby at the age of 17.I wasn't ready to have a child.much less one that might have been disabled.I was still a baby myself.I believe that God did the right thing.I hurt over the loss,I thought I was being punished.But in fact, I was been blessed.I had my babies 3 in 3 years.So don't worry.Your time will come.I think It would have been alot harder on me if he had been born alive and then I lost him..Surrender your sorrow to God and get on with your life.God knows what Hes doing.I bet by this time next year you'll be PG again..Good Luck and relax.... it will come to be.God Bless the both of you.

Answer 9

me and my husband have had 4 misscarages in the past 4 years we had almost gave up trying but we just kept close to each other and talked about it together and with friends and family and they really helped we never got down about it we knew that when the time was rifht it would happen again now we have a Beautiful baby girl sometime its just not your time yet dont loose hope please its worth it in the end

Answer 10

u can never heal the pain in your heart. i had an ectopic pregnancy 2 years ago and i live with the pain every single day, probably for the rest of my life. good luck with ur next pregnancy. sorry this has happened.