my friend's and i had a huge fight about 3 weeks ago and we didn't talk until to days ago. and now they want to work everything out. but i dont really want to work things out cause they would talk about me in. but they want to work things out and i guess we did but i still feel like we can never be best friends again. and they talk about everyone and i dont know if i ant to be their friend again. what should i do?
2007-03-16 05:16:37 · 18 answers · asked by ~Emmalee~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i'm not 12 i'm 17.
and i didn't even do anything.
2007-03-16 05:27:56 · update #1
Make up but if you really feel strongly that you DON't want to be friends (and it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and have outgrown talking behind backs) try to see them less and less. That way they can't hold the fight against you and you'll get to end the relationship slowly so they may not even realize it. If asked, just tell them you have other interests at this time of your life and want to spend time doing them.
2007-03-16 05:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by Helen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya know, i feel ya sister. My 2 best friends and i all had an argument after one of the girls and I tried to tell the other some very important information concerning our mental/physical health...and our other friend didnt even want to listen, all she wanted to do was say, "...BUT I HAVENT HAD SEX IN TWO MONNNNTTHHSS!!" cuz she was trying to get laid by a manwhore instead of listen to her BEST FRIENDS. So after told her to either come with us, and listen to what we have to say, or be a hypocrite and ditch her plans with us so she can stay the night and get laid. She chose the latter...
So we stopped talking to her. The sad thing is, she got to my best friend and they made up and wanted me to...I did NOT want to at all. I heard her out (when she was drunk again, IMAGINE THAT. real sincere huh?) and realized "Im sorry, no you are NOT my best friend. you arent even a friend". So i didnt talk to her for months. she was so desperate to contact me! Then she officially 'ended' the friendship. Just ignore her ***. She'll get the hint that she sucks.
2007-03-16 05:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Your friends are making you unhappy and this is not a good way to feel. You already have doubts and you already are expressing that you dont think you want to be friends. So this is ok. Find new friends that dont want to talk about and pick on you. There are lots of good people in the world. You dont have to be stuck with people who make you unhappy and nervous.
2007-03-16 05:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Emily, you are the one in the driver's seat on making this decision. A lot of it is based on whether you feel you can be comfortable with these people as friends. If you can't, then you will find yourself drifting away from them, anyway. Trust is the most important thing in any relationship. When it is missing, the relationship is no good.
2007-03-16 05:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 23:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you are not going to feel good about making up with them because you did it just to make the fight go away but it wont you need to be honest and tell them what you really think and if that means they are not your friends then so be it if you dont like the things they do tell them and if they are talking crap about you then they were never really your friend anyway
2007-03-16 05:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be friends with them anymore, just start ignoring them. They'll get the hint. They don't sound like good friends at all, anyway. Real friends don't say bad things about you behind your back. Try to find better friends to replace them.
2007-03-16 05:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by Garnet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to me it aint no friend if she talkin about you she really aint no best friend and really wasnt a bestfriend from the start. but truefully if you have a whole lot of friends to let that one go then move on boo thats what life is about moving on youll get over it be real tell her that your not cool with the talkin to her and see what she say and if she not with that then 4get her dont stress yo self,
2007-03-16 05:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by keepin it real 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say be honest with them and tell that because what had happened your view of their friendship has changed and you no longer want to be their friend.
If they still try to convince you to be their friend, just tell them No you won't.
Sometimes you have to be very blunt about how you feel and subtlety doesn't work.
2007-03-16 05:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by lremmell64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends grow apart. it is a fact. tel them thatyou dont think that you canbe as close as you were. no one can be your bff ifthey talk about you behind yur back. tell her that if you are bff that you can talk to me to my face. if she doesnt get angry an dtakes it almly maybe you can become close again
2007-03-16 05:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋