we have been in a relationship for 5 1/2 years with 3 kids should i break up with him or just kill them both and move on with my life.
2007-03-16 05:16:14 · 32 answers · asked by Baby Candy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him. Start over.
2007-03-16 05:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This can be sticky but here is what I think Men where made to cheat the question you need to ask is why he felt he needed to. Does he want something that you haven't been giving him? is he happy ? Is he having what I call the mid mid life crisis it happens to allot of people when they think they should be some where else in their life other than where they are and they start looking. You also need to ask yourself if you can forgive him. Can you still love him and when you forgive you need to forget as well so that you don't hold it against him later on in the relationship. Sounds like you both need to do a life evaluation both separately and together.
2007-03-16 05:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by squekie0874 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just found out then the anger and hurt right now is very, very intense and it is hard to think straight. We want to lash out and hurt those who hurt us, especially when it hurts as bad as the betrayal you just experienced. After that phase, you will go through the "blaming myself" phase where you doubt your attractiveness as a woman and wonder what you could have done different. After that you will go through the , "look at me, I'm sexy, too and can also find someone" and will probably spend money on your hair, nails, new clothes, etc. . . After that phase there is calm. Make a decision then.
If you two can't be in the same house right now without a lot of conflict that would be harmful to the children, suggest he stay with a family member or friend as you need some time to think things through before you can talk calmly about what happened.
Either decision you make is right. You just need to give yourself time to make the right decision for yourself.
Also, please don't take any revenge actions againts him or her, you will only regret them later. Keep your dignity. You will get through this, you really will.
Hang in there.
2007-03-16 05:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have life to live, beautiful one, away of this jerk. But wait first may be it was a big mistake and may be he regrets it till death, and would never do it agai. If this was true, see if you can firgive him or not, and always consider forgiving before hatred, especially when it comes to such a relationship like yours.
If you believe, however, this is not the siuation, just break up with him, move forward, and believe me you'll meet in the future some real man who'd appreciate the treasure he has, provided you'll not be rushing it.
2007-03-16 05:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by RareBird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you kill them both, you won't be moving on with your life, you'll be in jail and your children will be in foster care. I know you are angry and I know it hurts, but you have to think about what's best for those kids. Yes, leave him, he broke the trust and there's no getting that back. You will hurt for awhile, 5 years is a long time, but you will get over it and will make it through. Good luck and God speed.
2007-03-16 05:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what has probably happened is the two of you have grown apart seeing how you are raising 3 children. If you love him you will work through it, and if he loves you he will stop the behavior. Sit down and talk about what made him want to cheat. When somebody cheats it means their are relationship problems. If you do not love him leave, move on. Don't let this steal your joy.
2007-03-16 05:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him to leave. Tell him that he has broken your trust and has destroyed your relationship. If he wants to work things out, I recommend considering it (you do have 3 kids together) - however, you should both go to counseling in order for this to work.
Reason to kick him out: he must know the consequences of what he has done and feel the sting. If you simply forgive and forget he will think it is okay to behave this way.
Reason to consider forgiving him (and this is only after he has been out of the house): you have children together and this might have truly been a mistake - go to counseling and see if this can be salvaged.
good luck!
2007-03-16 05:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by Neenah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually prefer setting the cheating folks on fire while they commit the act of adultery. But thats just me. If you dont think that you can make it past the cheating enough to repair the relationship then move on. Better you found out now rather then if and when you married the slug.
2007-03-16 05:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him if you have hade a relationship for 5 years than you should try to do more stuff together get a babysitter and go out to eat, dress nice, and just wait and if he does it again than you probably need to dump him hes not worth having as a boyfriend if hen cheats on you.
2007-03-16 05:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating has always been a deal breaker for me, so I would leave. My husband and I both agreed that was the only reason for divorce before we even got married, and I feel so strongly against cheating I would leave in heartbeat if he ever did it to me. Do what's best for you and your kids :) Good luck!
2007-03-16 05:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by FirefighterWife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes!! Kill em both.....! Oh hang on though....did you want child support? The dead aint that great in paying..LOL....Honey get a Lawer, get every dime he makes in child support, lets see how 'attractive' the girlfriend finds a broke father of 3, hold your head up, move on and let someone else take care of his laundry from now on..! Wishing you loads of luck & Best wishes xxx
2007-03-16 06:12:22 · answer #11 · answered by clare s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋