who is your first priority -- spouse or kids? Why?
2007-03-16 05:08:10 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Definitely spouse -- I will be with him long after our son has moved on with his own family. I have a sister who put her kids first, and now that they are in college, she and her husband are having a rough time. They are total strangers! I want to maintain a great relationship with the man I plan to spend my retirement with!
2007-03-16 05:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kids, honestly. Because the spouse is a grown adult, the kids need care. The spouse can reason and understand, the kids cannot. The spouse should be able to "get over it", the kids shouldn't have to. That's my take. Tough call, though. I'm certainly not suggesting that the kids should have all attention at the expense of the spouse. There needs to be some balance and compromise, and some making up for lack of attention, etc....
2007-03-16 05:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by taotedan 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They both are you should give both priority more for the kids but dont leave the guy out cause he is part of the provider and if he feels left out then you are fighting and what not and the kids suffer they need attention to and lets face it men are like kids so love all around
2007-03-16 05:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel my kids are right now, we made a decision to have them we new it would change our lives and while i don't devote every second of every day to them i feel they do come first. don't get me wrong i do love my spouse. he feels the same way, it's family first then we have our time granted it may be late at night when we talk, or in the car but we do still have our time. it works for us married almost 14 years in June. have 4 kids from 5 to 17 years old .
2007-03-16 05:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by sassy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married, but for this question, ...
my spous and kids are my first priority, but if I had to choose, My child comes before anything else in this world, no matter what. I wouldn't care about my spouse, my child is everything.
Good luck
2007-03-16 05:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children no matter what. Men can come and go in your life time. My husband may not always be here but I am a mother for life. They are the single most important things in the world to me they even come before me. I do not care how much I love my man the love between a mother and her children is true and pure love. A mother could love there children no matter what. I would not jump in front of a buss for my man but I would gladly die for my child to have life. Weighing the odds my man don't stand a chance.
2007-03-16 05:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by savannah_smiles25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just asked a question every mother on earth is wondering about.
With children, you can't have balance in your life until they are already grown up and moved out of the house.
You should focus more on children, but a couple times during the week, do something special for your husband to make feel like he is still the person you are in love with, not just the father of your kids.
Make him feel like part of the family, not excluded.
2007-03-16 05:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by peachy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a tough decision to make - it is like, what do u want - the forefinger or middle finger ! I want both to be on first priority. I believe there is enough space on the podium for the winner to top priority.
2007-03-16 05:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by Cant stop thinking 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spouse, otherwise you will be a single parent.
Why - read Charlie Shedd's books. Kids develop their sense of security from the parental relationship.
2007-03-16 05:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
isn't that supposed to be a team work to raise kids ?if kids have a prob...you talk with your husby to treat the prob...if any situation demands your desicion between you and your kids...still you need to talk ... what relates you with kids is a type of love and naturally given responsability and instinct ,what relates you with your partner ... is another type of love , and choosen responsability ,and also certain instinct , as a woman you need to distribute your attention without making anyone rejected ... but explaining that in certain times ... a desicion based on external demanding situations will be necesary so placing situacion in numerical order will be necesary even when all situations are equally important and you equally love all them involved , is almost an art , but do it with charm...with kisses , smiles ... and lots of love
2007-03-16 05:35:55 · answer #10 · answered by robertman30s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋