i have a freind (well she was ) who has been going round telling people lies about my other friends she has said some real nasty things about them and i know she is lying ! i know she will be in alot of trouble if i speak up at the moment she seems to be getting away with being a two faced horror !! what should i do ?
2007-03-16 04:58:31 · 26 answers · asked by maddie xx 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ROZ M yes i do feel drained and she split me and a good friend up once we are friends now but the damage is now done ! her boyfriend thinks the sun shines out her back end so does everyone else ! i know her she is crazy enough to try and kill herself if no one speaks to her !
2007-03-16 05:18:23 · update #1
im not in high school im 25 ! this is why im so worried as adults dont go on like this !
2007-03-16 05:19:57 · update #2
Firstly Adults do go on like this...I have seen this happen first off. Sometimes guys even act two face and get involved in drama. I worked at this place once where everyone was involved in drama...it was like a freaking soap opera. So and so told so and so about so and so and then told the other person something good to there face.....and talked about them behind there back...it got so bad that our boss had to call a mandatory meeting and discuss whether we were trying to work at work or try out for auditions in soap opera(s). He was upset productivity was in half because everyone was stabbing each other in the back and there were little clicks formed......it sucked....but one lady everyone said was a major backstabber had always been that way. So it is in someones nature, either they are a backstabber or they are true to there nature they present to you.
Remember once a backstabber always a backstabber watch out! I would ditch that friend totally.
2007-03-16 05:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is saying this stuff around you, then take her with you to that person and ask the one she is talking about whether it is true, stating that this is what your "friend" is claiming. This will force her to be held accountable for what she is saying and will quickly reveal her to be a liar and a gossip.
If you are hearing about this from others, then take the person telling you and approach this girl with the accusation. If it's shown to be true, then you take her and approach the one she has been talking about.
What this all does is force people to be accountable for what they say. I'm assuming this is in a High School, so unfortunately, since this is a gossip issue, I don't think there is much the teachers can do about it unless it is starting to become very disruptive and harmful to the school.
Understand, this girl may get very angry with you and may start talking about you, but this course of action will take a lot of her power of gossip away because people will begin to see that she has no integrity.
2007-03-16 05:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mr_Masks99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Up to a point, we all can be a bit two faced from time to time, however, if this girl is really stirring up nasty rumours all the time, you need to distance yourself from her. Avoid this sort of friendship as the poison will seep in, she also might (if she's found out) try to lay the blame at your door, these sorts often do. Out of interest, do you often feel drained and generally down after being near her? If so, you really need to free yourself from this person, as she possibly feeds off your energy and ideas, leaving you exhausted. Find friends that make you feel uplifted.
2007-03-16 05:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't seem to care about who she gets into trouble so why not get her into trouble?? if she is sayin things about your friends then you need to speak up and tell your friends otherwise you aren't being the friend that you should be!!! tell them what is being said and leave it at that at the end of the day you and your friends know that it is all lies and that is all that matters. she will soon see the error of her ways and want to come crawling back when she has no friends left!!!
2007-03-16 05:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by gypsygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She seems to have caused all her own problems yet you seem the one to be suffering by getting all stressed out. Stop taking her so seriously. Let her see that you and your friends are really happy and maybe she'll move on to annoy someone else! Good luck.
2007-03-16 07:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my days, a day in the life of the female species how do you ladies do it. The truth will evolve in time, it'll be forgotten in about a few wks, or placed to the back of the mind & your all be happy again. Tell her your position of power.
2007-03-16 05:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by A . Z . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you "know" they are lies, and when I say know, I mean proven facts. Then speak to her about it. Indeed, it is mean to spread rumors true or false about some one, there could be a reason behind it. Talk to her about it. And if shes doing it just to me mean, than that means she could turn around and do something like that to you as well.
2007-03-16 05:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by heaven_forsaken_dark_poet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this girl is no longer your friend, then you should protect the friends you do have by speaking up and letting them know that this is happening. Who cares if she gets in trouble,she isn't your friend anymore!
2007-03-16 05:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by Bridgeridoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stay out of it. People might turn on you, thinking you're saying lies about this other girl. If she lies about you, definitely do what you can to clear your own name. Otherwise, stay away from her. Your other friends will notiec your distance and will figure out why.
2007-03-16 05:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a simular situation, and I can't STAND two faced people, she used to say stuff about people, and then be nice to their faces!
Just keep your distance, you don't need friends like that!
2007-03-16 07:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋