i love my husband and he say he loves me but he doesnt act like it, actions speak louder than words, we have started marriage counsling, i do love him and i cant imagine being with anyone else, but at the same time, we argue so much, i find my-self thinking maybe i should leave him. and says he loves me, but at the same time he always tell me that he wants me gone and out of his life and he wants me to take r 3 month old son and hit the road. he says he just wants to be single and for it to be just him and his other kids that he has full custody of from his previous relationship. i dont know what he really wants i am so confused, i feel like maybe i should divorce him and find a man that will treat me with respect and love me for who i am. any advice.
2007-03-16 04:58:06 · 8 answers · asked by greengrass 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He needs to give a little too. If he couldn't compromise, I would leave. Everyone deserves to be happy.
2007-03-16 05:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my what a conflict of words. I don't think marriage counselling is going to really help. By the sounds of it.. its not working...
You don't need to get a divorce just take a break.. a separation.....for your own sake. I don't know your financial situation...Can you afford to live on your own with a baby? If you can I think it would be in your best interests to leave.
Reason is you have a 3 month old and the last thing you need is the Baby Blues to appear. Honey all he is doing is being selfish and hurting you incredibly bad. You could end up with low self esteem over this and your already feeling rejected by him. My god this man is being so rude and self centred.
I'm sure he does truly love you.. But there has to be something that is making him say this... and for what ever reason he isn't sharing it with you. There has to be more to it. And right now I dont think your getting to find out why either. He is pushing you away.
I dont think finding another man at this moment would help you much.. Because you will be on the rebound....I hate to say this but once you leave... try a fling.. only for sex and a bit of adult converstion. You will need the conerstion just to keep you from feeling over powered by baby talk all day long. And it will help at night so your not always thinking of your husband. If you want you can email me and we can chat in messenger.. You need to vent a bit and talking with another female and outsider just might help.
I wish you luck.. Im sorry this is happening after having a baby.
2007-03-16 12:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok just a thought but maybe your big problem could be the fact that you have a baby... babies are hard in the first yr... my fiance and I fought the whole time I was preg. until that baby was around 6 mos old... babies and other children put alot of stress on you... we split up when I was 6 mos preg got back together after the baby was born and then like I said had problems for another 6 months... Maybe a good idea for you would be to have a date nite with only you 2 so you can see why you guys fell in love in the first place... go back to when you first met and do this at least 1 a week try to rekindle your relationship again... It worked for us maybe it will work for you... Good luck and I hope everything works out for you...
2007-03-16 12:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give up, did you try praying for him, only God can fix our hearts, but we have to surrender everthing to God first, we have a loving God, He loves us so much that He sent Jesus to die on the cross for our sins, He came to give us life, and life more abundently, all Jesus wants is for us to invite Him into our hearts, and He will help us through everything.....Jesus loves you
2007-03-16 12:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should leave him. if he tells you to leave then he really does not want to be with you, love or not. OR maybe he's just stressed about the new baby.
2007-03-16 12:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just read what you just wrote the answer is right in front of you.
2007-03-16 12:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are right, it is time to go and find someone who will treat you right.
2007-03-16 12:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by ladybug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him and find someone who will treat you right.
2007-03-16 12:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋