We bought an old house that needs alot of work. I want to fix the house up. My husband wants to go on vacations all the time. We have 2 small children and he says that they need to experience the world. it's always a fight and I always seem to lose. How can I get him to take pride in his home? I didn't go on alot of vacations as a child and had a nice home. He on the other hand lived for vacations. Help I'm at my whits end.
2007-03-16 04:54:17 · 8 answers · asked by gettingfit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It doesn't have to be all or nothing. Sounds like you both need to compromise. Plan a certain number of vacations and a certain number of household projects every year.
To an extent, it also depends on what exactly needs to be done. Cosmetic fixes are not nearly as important as structural ones. In other words, your home should be safe and livable, but it doesn't need to be a showpiece. Your kids are only young for so long, when they grow up they aren't going to remember how the tile in the kitchen coordinated perfectly with the counter tops, but they will remember how much fun you all had together camping in Yosemite or snorkeling in Hawaii or whatever else you all do together.
If you and your husband are unable to reach a compromise then it's time for some couples therapy as the issue is bigger than vacation vs. home improvement disagreements.
2007-03-16 05:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by Laureling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you try a comprimise. When i was a child my family only worried about their home and i didn't get a vacation till oh wait i still haven't had a vacation!!!!! I would love to have my children see the world as well a have a nice home but i feel its more love than stuff that makes a nice happy home
2007-03-16 12:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by ppetss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is something that my wife and i have to deal with. we travel alot and we have the house that need to be fixed up. we sit down and go over the financial. in regards of how much for travel vacation & how much for fixing the house. we do one major project a year and one big vacation. it seems to work out fine. as long as we both agree.
2007-03-16 13:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just strike a compormise somewhere in between. Like tell him if you guys get one room fixed up then you will plan a vacation for summer, etc. bargain. there is no reason why both of you cant get what you want.
2007-03-16 14:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by misfit1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry a child? There is no0thing wrong with "seeing the world" but this "baby" is too selfish to put this in the right order. If he thinks differently he is eveen worse.
Show him this and if he thinks differently it shows how very immature he is. Toss him out!
2007-03-16 12:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
And what makes you think his priorities are not straight? You are trying to force him to adhere to your value system without paying any mind to what's important to him. You both need to compromise to get what you want.
2007-03-16 12:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is basically Just a Lazy PIG.Go find yourself a local bull to have on the side.
2007-03-16 11:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by BAKKUS 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Laurelin gave the perfect answer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT IS RIGHT ON!!!!
2007-03-16 12:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋