How do I keep my mind calm and have peace?

Question

Someone please teach me how. Had encountered many problems in my life now and when I try to memorise anything, it is really difficult to do so. What can I do to obtain peace and tranquility in order to memorise well? Some people said that meditation helps, but I can't keep my mind off the loads of problems to meditate. Anyone have any other ideas, please tell me, I'm literally going crazy already.. help.

Answer 1

Meditation.

www.meditationthai.org

Answer 2

Someone please teach me how. Had encountered many problems in my life now and when I try to memorise anything, it is really difficult to do so. What can I do to obtain peace and tranquility in order to memorise well? Some people said that meditation helps, but I can't keep my mind off the loads of problems to meditate. Anyone have any other ideas, please tell me, I'm literally going crazy already.. help.

Answer 3

First of all try talk therapy.If you feel that it's not working try a anti-anxiety or antidepressant and retry therapy(therapy will not work if you have an imbalance).Don't expect total recovery overnight and do not put a time frame on it.A good therapist will help you understand how you react to occurrence's is determined by your perception of things.My heart goes out to you because i've been there and I know what your going through.Make this the top priority in your life.Believe me nothing is more important then your mental health.In the long run you will be glad you did.For what ever reason whether it be an imbalance in your brain or not, You have a hard time dealing with stress.Get help fast and take it seriously.Unless you take care of this problem now you may end up breaking down.Don't let your pride get in the way and do not blame yourself.Don't make any excuses.If you think you can't afford to pay for treatment your cry for help is an sign that you can't afford not to.Above all never,never give up.
I wish all the best.

Answer 4

Problems are part of life on an ongoing basis; the only thing that changes is the way you cope with them. Imagine that you drop dead right now.... Life goes on and problems as well. People tend to spend more time thinking about a problem v thinking about the solution. Those problems you cannot resolve let go, the others that you can just resolve them. Live responsible & making smart choices so you do not have to deal with consequences.
Finally, are you punishing yourself for something? If yes, forgive yourself and move on.
Problems are check points in life that prepare you for better opportunities. Peace and tranquility is not to be accomplished but it is to be lived in the present moment.

Answer 5

In order to attain peace and tranquility, you have to be willing to do some work. No one can hand it to you. You have to decide in your own mind and with your own mind that whatever you are experiencing is unsatisfactory to you. Then, with a certain amount of resolve you have to decide that you want to change it. Then, with a certain amount of reason and analysis of your current situation, you will conclude that whatever you have been doing to attain this desired result is not working. With honesty, and with patience and with courage, you then recognize that what you want to do and what you are doing is not the same, is not similar. In fact, what you want to do and what you are actually doing are not at all alike. This is why you are experiencing suffering. You seek to allign your thoughts with your actions and this is not an easy feat in this most degenerate age. First and foremost, what you are seeking to do is not easy, not without challenge, but it is not at all impossible. You must approach it with confidence and a willingness to work with it, not against it, but not with an impatient or brash attitude or look at it like something other than what it is...It is a mental exercise. Just like physical exercise, at first, you wouldn't want to do it. Then, it becomes a little easier, you don't feel sore. Then, you might be able to see yourself looking forward to it. Then you might get a little better at it and add a new exercise or different exercises. You may then start to pay attention to what you eat, or how much water you drink, or how much sleep you are getting. You may then refine your technique, or seek help from someone who has the physique you seek to attain. Not obtain. Attain. You don't "get" anything. You work towards it, you build your familiarity with it and then you experience the result of the cause. So, if you want to have the experience of peace and tranquility, you will have to cause these things. You can very easily begin to cause these things by conjoining the activity of body, speech and mind. You can go for a walk, whistle or sing while you do it and think about the benefits of walking. This is a coarse example of a combination of the three, but it's a start. Then you can move into the kitchen. You can clean out the junk drawer, scrub the floor on your hands and knees, and do all of the dishes and clean the cabinet under the sink, and all the while you can think, I am cleaning up my physical environment while you sing your favorite Spanish song - but what you really are doing is conjoining the activity of your body, speech and mind to produce a result. What will you feel after you clean the house - good. You didn't sit around and watch t.v. eating ice cream and obsessing about how many mistakes you've made. You took an active role in improving the situation. You asserted yourself and used your wish to improve to improve. This is meditation. After any of these simple things, you can then move onto a more advanced application of this same foundational method. Think of The Karate Kid. Daniel had to apply the wax to something, I forget what, anyway, he had to apply it in a circular motion, thinking "wax on" and then with the other hand "wax off" and saying it aloud. He didn't know this, but at the time he was learning, in a coarse way, how to perform an inside-outside block, or an outside-inside block with both hands while he thought he was being punished and kept from Karate training. This is no different. Lastly, anytime we begin to think about our problems or to-do list, it grows and grows - it begins to seem that there is nothing we can do and we begin to feel apathetic, reticent and lazy. Then things really get out of hand. We may even feel like giving up! This is not good and certainly not what we should do if we can posit that this is a precious human life and that with this human life and human basis we have a mind and this mind can be pointed at worthwhile things. You don't have to solve a thing in the next five minutes. In fact, if you have read this all the way to here, read it again. Read it aloud. That is meditation. You are on your way to becoming an expert!

Answer 6

From a psychological and Buddhist standpoint here's my 2 cents. Life's difficult, and there's no shame in seeking help in making sure you're not suffering from depression or any other issues beyond your control... believe it or not, sometimes, if needed, medication can be a BOON. In order to make sure you get a balanced perspective, check around and make sure you find someone who keeps a mind open to various forms of "therapy" and isn't going to drug you outright if other things can help first. Sometimes just talking can offload a huge chunk on your shoulders.

So find someone who can guide you... if you wish to read up on meditation at the same time and give it a try... Buddhist meditation, where you focus only on the breath or some other object and let thoughts go without judging yourself nor the thoughts might be of some help. Check out buddhanet.net for guided instructions if you'd like.

One doesn't have to be Buddhist to derive benefit from this kind of meditation... and if you still can't settle, again, try to find some compassionate help... life's really rough sometimes, no shame in getting a shoulder to lean on.

In the interim I wish you great success in finding your peace and you have my support. Friendly cyber-hug to you!

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Answer 7

Well, let me be frank. Wait, that's you. Let me be honest.

Learning to control your mind to have peace is something you have to learn. It's a choice you make - you will always be bombarded with information and have the choice to take the information in, notice it and let it pass, or ignore it.

Medication may help in certain instances, for example, a drug for attention deficit, but it you can train yourself to relax on cue, that is much more beneficial, and cheaper, and no risk of harmful side effects.

I am a massage therapist. I think massage is a wonderful way to learn to relax at will - not from being forced into relaxation, or exhausting yourself into relaxation, but to arrive at a mental place of relaxation by choice. I am also a personal trainer and can teach you to relax by exhausting yourself, but that is far less helpful for mental clarity. I recommend massage.

Answer 8

During Insight Meditation, we allow ourselves to see, observe our problems, wihthout being attached to them, and without trying to intellectually solve them.
Sounds unusual to most folks, but in all actuality, as we face them, and clearly see them for what they are, they slowly dissolve, and we are set free. Our primary focus in always on the breath !
As we experience these problems, anxious distractions which veere us off the breath, we patiently, gently and kindly bring the focus of our attention back to the breath.
As we go through this process, of continually, patiently bringing our minds back to the breath, we Clearly See our problems as they really are, and we Let Go of our Attachments/Clingings to them.
Then we truly begin to have insight to the very nature of things in life.

*This is a process which the meditator must choose to practice daily, with a sincere committment, then mindfulness and insight will be developed and daily cultivated.
This insight into the very nature of our being
gives us the clear comprehension of who we really are. Mindfulness Meditation is giving the Gift of you, back to yourself, whole and complete.

*There is an excellent book out called:
"Mindfulness in Plain English"
By: Bhante Henepola Gunaratana.
It is an easy to read/to follow Book on
how to meditate. Very Encouraging, and a Quite helpful book for anyone who is a beginner, intermeditate or an advanced meditator.

Thank You for Giving me the opportunity to provide you with "an" answer to your Excellent Question.

Answer 9

In the METTA NISANGSA SUTTA(Discourse on Benefits of Loving-kindness)The Buddha speaks of the eleven benefits of the practice of Loving-kindness.What are the eleven benefits?

1.Sleeps well
2.Wakes up feeling good.
3.Does not have bad dreams
4.Well-liked by fellow human beings
5.Well-liked by non-human beings
6.Protected by heavenly beings
7.Never be harmed by 'fire' or 'poison'
8.ACHIEVES CONCENTRATION FAST AND HAVE GOOD MEMORY
9.Facial complexion is healthy
10.Die peacefully
11.Reborn in the heavenly realms.

You do not need to be a Buddhist to practice loving-kindness and compassion.Benefit no:8 will help you to improve your memory.

May you be happy and healthy.

Metta to all.

Answer 10

make a list of what your problems are, decide what is the most important and don't worry over them, then decide what is not so important and don't sweat the small stuff, handle one thing at a time , the rest will fall into place. keep a journal day to day, and watch what happens.

Answer 11

Meditation hun. it takes awhile to get to the stage where your mind does not wonder dont give up keep tryin and if it wonders off treat it like a little child bring it back to where you want. I push yoursel to much it will come to you as i said it takes time to learn and get in the right peace of mind you want.