I caught my bf chatting to a girl again for the third time. I actually have access to his PC so I was able to know his password to a dating site. There I saw the messages he sent to the girls. One message really hurt me most. He told the girl that he´s looking for a serious relationship since all of this past relationships didn´t work out. He said that he´s single and looking for his princess. I confronted him about this. He just said that he was making a back up plan after I told him that I´d like to go back to my country soon. On the contrary, he said that he doesn´t like to lose me and he wants to marry me. I´m really confused whether or not I will believe in his words. Guys out there, share your points of view. Ladies can of course answer to this as well.
2007-03-16 04:45:38 · 16 answers · asked by SeriouslyInLove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Unfortunately, I would not trust him. I dated a guy in college who I adored and thought he felt the same about me. Late at night, and sometimes right in my presence, he would talk on the internet to another girl....on MY computer. I would confront him about it and he would give me an excuse like "shes going through a hard time and needs a friend". On one occasion, I sneaked up behind him under the pretense that I needed something from my desk and saw that he had written to her "if only I had met you a few months ago, things would be different". When I confronted him about it, he gave me an excuse about how he would have warned her about this guy and whatnot. Obviously I didn't believe him completely, but I still trusted him. We broke up soon after that, and no sooner had we broken up, but he started seeing her and sleeping with her. Well, months went by and we started speaking again and he swore he had changed and he missed me and he was sorry and wanted to get back together. Well, being the fool I was, I gave him another chance. It soon went back to the old routine and before I knew it, another girl had created a rift again. Well it ended and once again , we began talking... we didn't get back together, however it almost happened until he hit me... and even then, I allowed myself months later to fall into a trap with him. We "hooked up" twice after and it was the biggest mistake I could have made. Now he dates my old college roommate and they are perfect for eachother (I despise them both at this point). What it comes down to is that some people change, some don't. What really matters is if you honestly believe he means it when he says he loves you and wants to marry you. He could mean it, but before you do anything, he needs to prove that he does mean it. Don't just take his word for it.
2007-03-16 05:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His actions raise a big red flag! If he really loves you he would not be looking around and "making a back up plan". A guy that is worth having and really loves his woman is with her and her alone, and later down the road, should you actually move back to your home country, then, and only then, are you both free to pursue other relationships. Also, when a guy truly loves a woman, he usually needs a little "mourning" time before he is able to move on. Although, it has been my experience that most men jump from one relationship into another rather quickly. I must say though, that 2 of my adult sons were very much in love with their girlfriends, and both of them had a full year go by (after their breakup) before they were even interested in dating again. I asked them both why and they both had the same answer "No one else compared favorably to their ex". This is because they were both in love. Dump this guy. You deserve sooooooo much better!
2007-03-16 04:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's intresting. If that's what you read then don't take his words for it, because it seems like thats what he believes and thats probaly what he tells other girls when you are not around, if he really loved you and really wanted to marry you then, he would never do that or come across that beacuse he would appericate you since he loves you, and he would never hurt you. Don't fall for it there is more fishes in the SEA!.
2007-03-16 04:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by JAMILAH D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl dump that low life loser you can find bigger and better guys you best believe there are way better fish in the sea and if he think he needs a back up plan and it's not going to work out with you 2 then tell him he drooped a dime and now someone else is about to pick it up
2007-03-16 04:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by priceness45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if he is having a back up plan in place, you should also ensure some for you. As for marriage and all, it is too early to decide.
2007-03-16 04:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by Yako 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, absolutely not. He has demeaned your relationship with him and reduced it to nothing more than some fling he's having. If you respect yourself you will stand strong and dump this fool immediately. Should you decide to remain with him, your just setting yourself up for heartache.
2007-03-16 04:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry no real man has a back up plan if he loves you he's lookin out for himself becareful with this one he;s bad i am amale ive see it heard it all guys that have back up plains are ussally looking for someone else iam sorry to inform you of this but it is the truth i my be chaestest amung all males for telling you this them so be it crazy nate
2007-03-16 04:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by nathaniel w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt beleive him im too eme\otional if he can call himself single it mans in his heart he feels single dont wait for drama therell always be an element of u not being enough
2007-03-16 04:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by ladyluck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he wants 2 marrie u he will stop goin on those sites and if he doent than tell him to take a hike.
2007-03-16 04:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by Vanessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy told you he is making a BACK UP plan.
If it was my b/f, he would be my ex b/f by now.
2007-03-16 04:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋