Sometimes happily married women are attracted to other men. Why?

Question

Sometimes I read questions in magazines where married ladies seek what-to-do advices since they face a problem like: after ...years of married life they are attracted to some younger person and some even engage in physical relationships! Surprisingly they also state that there are no big problems in their own family lives..they may have children etc. I do not understand why this might happen. Do you people believe that such things really happen and if so then why?

After reading some of the answers I would like to ask this to those ladies who think that "seeking sexual gratification is normal" -- suppose you are allowed to have a physical relation with any person you like .... you meet someone who is HOT...now will you forget the world and engage in physical relationship? what after that? how will you feel? I think the gratification will be spoilt..but give your OWN opinion honestly..have you ever engaged in such a relationship?

Answer 1

Sexual attraction is human nature for all men and woman. It is normal to seek out sexual attention from other people. Learning restraint is another issue all together

Answer 2

It's somewhat normal, but the fact that you've only been married a couple of months and you are feeling this way already is troubling. I'm sure you've heard of the 7-year or 11-year itch....that refers to seeking attention of other people, wondering what it would be like with others, etc, or simply just feeling like you want to get out of the "rut". This happens to a lot of people, but you've only been married two months....you haven't had time to fall into a "rut"! You will never have that spark you had when you first started going out. PERIOD. That's the simple beginning spark and it goes away in EVERY relationship. There's other feelings that develop in long-term relationships, but you don't get that initial butterflies-in-your-stomach feeling anymore. You won't have that beginning feeling again, but that's not saying your marriage has to be boring. Go out on dates with your husband, try new things in the bedroom. Talk about your fantasies. Do fun activities together. But the fact that you are feeling this way after just two months of marriage is not good. Why did you get married...was it the excitement of the whole marriage thing or the right reasons? I have a feeling it was the excitement, not exactly that you were really ready for it. But you're in it now, so I'd do what I mentioned, and if that doesn't help, seek marriage counseling now, before things get really bad.

Answer 3

Come on... this happens day in and day out...
that is why in olden days they married people at a young age and there urges were controlled by way of rituals, religions, beliefs, society, family status etc

But now as these restrictions are removed and people are allowed to explore and seek new dimensions in their life.... in some societies sex before marriage is accepted....In some societies sleeping with the father in law is accepted.. some accept multiple wives... during days of war many civilizations including some Indian cultures allowed one man to take many wives (there were just less men in the society)

Due to social / economical / cultural reasons in todays world the accepted norm is a marriage of one man-one woman anything out of that looks "weird" thats all...

What we are today is only because we have evolved like that... so one day society might accept a married man or woman seeking a younger partner?

So dont think it as weird about what you hear...

Answer 4

By nature every human are attracted with nice things. It is not wrong for a women to get married with younger men's!

Answer 5

I think some women get bored after a while. If the thrill or romance leaves the marriage the woman still wants it. It takes a different kind of person to cheat. It shows a lack of character and respect for themselves and their marriage. Men on the other hand are attracted to women that are not their wives as well. As I said it takes a different kind of person to take it to the next level and act on those feelings.

Answer 6

I don't understand what all the fuss is about. Married men do it all the time so why can't married woman??? Haven’t you noticed that anything a man can do a woman can do better. Anyway the percentage of woman doing it is minuscule so live and let live.

Answer 7

Great question. In my opinion, such is life, we are all human, You can have a satisfying relationship at home, but since for many, familiarity breeds boredom and contempt, as in, the longer you live with someone, the more they can annoy you, also, attraction fades with kids, family demands and routine, so woman and men may seek outside excitement.
I am not saying, mind you, that this is a good thing, obviously, once you make a commitment you should have the integrity not to cheat on your spouse/life partner.
But life is not a fairy tale, to err is human.

Answer 8

If a man or woman after getting married involves fully in their family life path with full affection with the spouse with ...hard work,family affairs,attending friends and relatives,looking after the children and elders of the family there is little time to think about the bad ways of life:

The cinema,TV serials & etc medias are spoiling the life.
So if there is bad thinking the happenning will be bad: Donot think like this

Answer 9

These things indeed happen. Some marriages might be happy but sexually staid and boring. Some adventurous women in such cases might seek out a different sexual partner to bring some spice in their jaded sex lives.

Answer 10

Only cold heartless women would do this. And I use the word "woman" loosely here as a real woman is true to her man and family and would never do anything to intentionally destroy it.

A man is the head of the home.

A woman is the heart of the home. She does not allow her heart to stray, nor her body.

Now stop trying to incite controversy here.