I am one of five children in my family, 17years old. I am the third born and i was the first girl. My parents already have grandchildren from my oldest brother. they think it will feel more special if they had grandkids fom their daughter. You see, my parents are a bit , how should i say this, old and if i had no children they would probably never get to meet my younger sisier's kids because my parents were already old when she was born. i dont think i could handle the responsibility of kids, but i feel so guilty because i dont think i want any. should i feel guilty that i might not give my parents any grandkids???
2007-03-16 04:43:13 · 21 answers · asked by ILoveGreen ZipZapZop 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Where the hell in my question does it say i want kids?? lainaloo read the question CAREFULLY!!!
2007-03-16 04:53:55 · update #1
I WASN'T talking about having kids NOW. i would be stupid to have any now lol.
2007-03-16 05:13:55 · update #2
"a womans" this is for you: i have to say you are such a rude, ignorant person . i am not a lesbian!!! I really don't know what time YOU are living in but honey, this is the 21st century: nowadays, reproduction is not the only reason for a womans existence.
2007-03-20 04:27:03 · update #3
U need to stop being so damn selfish young missy,how brazen of you.I hope your father will discipline you.
2007-03-16 04:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by BAKKUS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should not feel guilty for not wanting children.
How selfish would it be to bring a kid into the world when you don't really want it and your own parents (who you would be having it for) will only be around for the first few years of its life?
The only reason you should have kids is if you suddenly feel it's the right thing to do for yourself. If you think that nothing is more important than having your own child. Bear in mind you are only 17 and might feel as you do now for several more years. You may change your mind when you're older anyway.
2007-03-16 04:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by finch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi no you certaainly shouldn't feel guilty. I know you probably want to keep your family happy and do what is expected of you but if you don't want to have children whether that be now or never thats fine its your choice. Remember its your life you run it they don't. I don't want to sound dis respectful but you are 17 you shouldn't be thinking about having children you should be enjoying life and living it to the full. As for your sisters kids if your grandparents never get to see them then you can't blame yourself for that, whatever is to be will be and no one can change that. I don't know if you belive in this stuff or not but when Grandparents pass over (die) if someone then goes on to have a child in the family they always visit from the spirit world to see the little one. I hope this helps you. Take Care
2007-03-16 05:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by poppet3783 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 12:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I for one don't think you're selfish for not wanting children BUT, I think you are too young to make such a decision yet. You might meet Mr Right in a few years time and want to have at least 1 child with him.
You say that your parents are old but age is just a number in my opinion.
If, after a few years, you still don't want children - DON'T HAVE ANY - you might end up resenting them and your parents.
Whatever you decide - I wish you a happy future.
cheers Morsel
2007-03-16 04:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Morsel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 17 it's likely that you may change your mind! However it's your life not theirs and only you can decide what is right for you!
I would have liked grandchildren but neither my son or daughter have shown any signs of even wanting to marry or settle down and both are in their 30's. As long as they are happy with their lives (which they are) that is all I as a parent should hope for!
2007-03-16 05:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by willowGSD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 17 and have a lot of life ahead of you - you shouldn't be thinking about having children to please your parents because you 'think' it would. Only think about having children if and when YOU are ready to have them and when you would be able to cope with them. Many people, including my sister in law, don't have children until their much older, she was 41. You may feel guilty over it, but it is your life and you would have to live with the consequences. My aunt has grandchildren from both her son and her daughter, but doesn't feel any different about them. If you're that worried about it, talk to your parents.
2007-03-16 04:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by rhi1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the exect same feelings when i was your age and theres nothing like the pressure of being the only girl to carry on the bloodline and having older parents. Dont waste any more time worrying about it.enjoy your freedom while you can im sure they would rather see you happy than tied down with a kid besides being a young mother they wont be around forever to give you support.hope you sort it.
2007-03-16 07:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not at all...Kids are the ultimate sacrifice for life. If you want to take care of yourself first then you go for it. I think this day and age there are way too many people having kids too young and then they end up in endless lowpaying jobs. I saw go to college, get a career and make sure you understand life and yourself before you even talk about havig kids.
Your parents will be proud of you for it I am sure.
2007-03-16 04:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is yours and yours alone . For starters you are too young for babies, you dont want to ruin the best years of your life, You shouldn't do things just to make your parents happy espically have children they are so much responsibilty, time energy you need to put everything you have and more into thier care and you parent if they are good g-parents will only relieve you of them when they feel like it. Have children when you want and dont if YOU dont want to. Why would you bring an unwanted child into they world they would only be resented
2007-03-16 05:08:53 · answer #10 · answered by ppetss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no , don't feel guilty! It's your life and you can't have kids just for your parents sake. Grandkids are grandkids whether its their son or daughter who has them. I'm sure they would rather you happy with no kids than being unhappy with kids. Anyway it's your life and you must do what is right for you.
2007-03-16 20:27:18 · answer #11 · answered by foxy4t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋