2007-03-16 04:43:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Rachelle it is easy for me to just say if you had to ask than you should pass. but the reality is i do not know how old you are, how old he is, are you in school? if so than he should not even be talking about it... I will tell you this any one who wants to start a family that will last, will be willing to take their time (both the man and the woman,) because a good family needs a good foundation. so if he is unwilling to take time for this, than he is not the man you need to have Kids with. Remember in the long run the Kids are the most important thing in a family. hope this helps. God bless.
2007-03-16 06:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by mike c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy. He has introduced you to his parents, You have spent time with them so they know you and you know them. Be aware of their values. Their son will have told them that he loves you and he plans to marry you. They should be involved in those plans somewhat - you are becoming a member of their family (aunt to their grandchildren by his other siblings, etc.). You will get to know his siblings and their spouses. You and he will have shared some goals that you are going to work towards together.
That's a serious 'wants to have kids with you' scenario. If the guy is having sex with you and you two have no future together other than shacking up, well, that's what your kids get and so welcome to single motherhood! Maybe he thinks telling you that is a turn on and basically he has nothing more to offer than silly declarations like that - to pump up your ego (Gee, he must really LOVE me!).
Ask that guy where the ring is and when's the wedding - you'll talk about kids after you're married. If he's not serious, watch him shrivel into an excuse-making confused whining boyfriend who thought he'd never have to worry about getting laid again because he thought he'd always have 'my baby's mom' around.
Whoa. Maybe you have a serious guy already and the wedding's already planned and it's happening soon, like tomorrow - in which case, why are you asking that kind of question?
2007-03-16 05:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After he marries you! Seriously, until you two have walked back up the aisle, with the papers signed, how do you know that he will support you if you do get pregnant? How do you know he's interested in more than free sex? Unfortunately, 9 (maybe 8) out of every 10 guys is a self-serving a**hole. Sometimes, when they get older they snap out of it. If he's in his teens or early-mid twenties, chances are he's in the self-serving stage. Don't trust him. We want to feel loved, and guys know that. They will say the right thing to get what they want. Being a single-mother is not the end of the world, but it makes life very difficult. By the way, what are his friends like? You can always tell what someone is like by the friends they keep.
2007-03-16 07:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Elise F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the phantom said, plus YOU are over 18, have graduated from high school and have some plan for your future other than making babies. You should also have some work experience and skills you can fall back on in case he is lying or simply changes his mind later on and leaves you with a house full of little mouths to feed and care for.
And one other detail: He's willing to marry you first.
2007-03-16 05:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh.
Don't believe that lying bastard.
Like, don't take that as an insult.
But anyway, he just wants to get in your pants.
He knows that girls like "sensitive" guys so its just a load of shittt
For real.
How are you gonna feel in a year or so, having a kid to take care of, all by yourself, dropping out of school and wishing you never believed him.
Unless he proposes, don't let him.
Just don't become another statistic of girls 18 and younger who have a child and not a high school education.
2007-03-16 05:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know he loves you and is serious about having kids if he marries you FIRST!!!!!!
2007-03-16 05:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mariah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this probley isnt what you want to here but if you cant tell hes seriouse and you ask a bunch of ppl you dont know.. id say think about it....
2007-03-16 04:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by cowboyslikerockandroll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he's over 18, has graduated from high school, and has a full-time job.
2007-03-16 04:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
same as the phantom says and make him take a polygraph test
2007-03-16 04:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by ubermeisterscottie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you arent you too young to worry about kids??????????
2007-03-16 04:58:32 · answer #10 · answered by cubana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋