2007-03-16 04:39:10 · 16 answers · asked by peter e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
depends on the person
2007-03-16 04:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by ladybug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Coming from personal experience, I took others advice, "go out anyway" - it was hard...yet when I finally was able to go out and be free of the emotional connection (I thought) I was approached by a girl and I had a hard time when she was inviting me home with her..another time I was on a date, prearranged, and we went to her place for a movie - she statrted making the moves and I couldn't go through with it, the next night she invited me in and I refused - she was furious. No man has ever turned me down!" "Well darlin, there is a first for everything"...1 year after the divorce I was still attached, 2 years, getting unattached, 3 years less attached but still emotionally deep down...looking back and seeing my mistakes that partially caused trouble between us...I wish I could redo alot that would change the rest of our lives...expecially for my son (8) - now she is getting married...and my son is having to be forced to like this guy - he doesn't at all - so now it is a new chapter. I don't think one can turn love off and on...I don't think God does either.
My ex started socializing two weeks after the split up and continued on until she met her fiance. She would sometimes disappear for the weekend and then appear at my place during the week. She put me through hell keeping me dangling. Even the day of the divorce we were having a picnic togetrher with our son. I paid her billls for 6 months becasue I couldn;t stand seeing her and my son living on poverty....when she started working again...she treated me like sh^&.
Women can do things men cant...
2007-03-16 11:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by RealEYES 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to go out even if you are not in the mood, just for an hour or so, spend time with friends and people who care for you, volunteer, take night classes, join a gym. Seek therapy or counselling if you feel that you are sinking into depression, do all you can to move on. It will get better in time, do not give up, life is too short to spend it moping around.
2007-03-16 11:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took a friend of mine 6 months to begin to enjoy himself socially again after his wife of one year left him out of the blue. I'd like to think we gave him a good network of friends, never pressurised him to go anywhere he didn't want to but it did seem a long time. Two years later I'd say he is still only back to 90% of his old self.
Obviously it takes time and you're just going to have to work your way through it.
2007-03-16 12:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by finch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take little steps. Even if you only go out for an hour to start with you have got to boost your confidence. I know its not about meeting someone. But its a hole different world since you were last single. Good luck and have fun
2007-03-16 11:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by Psycho Chicken! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did not want to divorce then go right out and do what you want... It was not you it was the other person so dont feel bad that you want to go out....
2007-03-16 11:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how freed you feel. Some people are out dating that night others wait awhile.
2007-03-16 11:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont you think you should be looking to the future instead of dwelling on the past.get on with your life, if you bump into your ex in the process then great.
2007-03-16 14:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take your time, before you know it you will soon be back into the swing of things.
2007-03-16 11:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
took me two years,thought about suicide,became a recluse,smoked dope,spent my savings,but guess what,ive found a good woman now and im happier than ive been in my life,
2007-03-16 13:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by rebel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋