that once they see you and know about you, about your life, how you feel, how you look. your baggage, they wont want to know you or accept you? so all you can ever do is look at somebody, a nice girl, and wish you could have her in your life, but in reality, she wouldnt accept you. after all you cant make somebody like you, or fall in love with you. see what i mean?
2007-03-16 04:34:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
That's easy. They won't want to get involved once they find out what you're like
2007-03-17 21:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by Richard E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is self-confidence. You're starting out with such a defeatest attitude, how can you possibly expect anyone to like you? Would you honestly want to be around someone who has your attitude?
Go and stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself that you're a wonderful person. You have so many positive qualities and so much to offer a girl. You just have to give her a chance to get to know you. Nobody is perfect, and you're no worse than anyone else. Maybe that wonderful girl that you've admired from afar has more baggage than you. You'll never know until you talk to her.
Are we just talking about girlfriends here, or friends in general? If you're talking about friends in general, join a club or something. That way you'll already have something in common with the other members of the club (i.e. a common interest in whatever the club's about). It maybe even be helpful if you see a doctor or counsellor, because having such low self-esteem isn't healthy and I think you may need more help than we can give you on here. I really hope you see things in a more positive light soon.
2007-03-16 05:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by jammycaketin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one will like you and fall in love with you if there is nothing that you like about yourself. You need to stop putting yourself down. Im guessing that what is happening with you is that when you do meet someone (potential friend / or girlfriend) it is your self esteem letting you down. Try to live your life for the moment, take each day as it comes and try to enjoy something from each day. Stop focussing a lot of your time feeling sorry for yourself because it is not an attractive quality. Laugh when you dont feel like laughing and smile when you feel sad because doing this fools your brain into believeing that it is happy, not sad. Start to feel proud of yourself for achievements in your life - no matter how small they are.
From reading your other questions that you have posted on here, it seems that you are depressed. Are you still seeing a Counsellor or Psychologist? If so, then let them know what you are telling us. No-one on here can give you the answer that you are searching for and that is likely to make you feel more depressed. You need to find a way to release all these feelings and you need to do that with professional help.
I wish you the very best of luck in your future and dont forget to keep your chin up, nothing is ever as bad as it seems. Out of every mistake and misfortune in life, something good will alsways come out of it.
2007-03-16 05:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're absolutely right on the point where not being able to control other people's feelings or attitudes is concerned. However, you can control your own feelings and attitudes, and people are more drawn to confident, happy people as a rule so show that side of yourself in public, not the worried, insecure side. Things will begin to change for you, you'll see...
2007-03-16 04:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you still wittering on about your problems? This is Yahoo answers, not a counselling session. Sorry to be blunt, but there's only so much people can tell you!! Get out there and start living! Get off the computer and join a club and make friends. No girl is going to go near a winging, miserable, self-loathing guy - LIFE IS TOO SHORT.
2007-03-16 04:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Its called paranoia. by the sounds of it you have been hurt a lot in the past and are paranoid it will happen again. All you need is a little confidence in yourself and just go out there. if they don't accept you for you then just say to yourself that they are not worth it that you are better than them. its worked for me and for the first time in a long time I'm happy
2007-03-16 04:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by Deranged Insanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibilities-low self-esteem.depression.social anxiety disorder-probably a combo of all 3.there are treatments-speak to a school counselor about finding help.good luck.u are down on urself.the most handsome and intelligent man i ever knew-killer looks,sky-high I.Q--thought of himself as stupid,ugly and worthless.none of it was true!his depression had blinded himself to his own virtues,gifts and strengths.please find help!dont let urself go thru life feeling "less than" everyone else!ur better than u know-do urself a favor and ask someone in a position to help u,for some assistance!
2007-03-16 04:47:58 · answer #7 · answered by kyra k 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the point of asking if you don't take good advise?
I mean really, you keep asking almost the same question over & over & over. You've gotten plenty of good suggestions. Start implementing and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
2007-03-16 05:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by ♫Silvi♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they dont accept you for who you are then stuff them,they are not worth it in the first place my friend!!and things arent always what they seem anyone that nice girl probably isnt perfect anyway after all who is? she pobably has deep dark secrets somewhere,so im sure you are fine as you are !!!
2007-03-16 04:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by lainaloo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How would you know she wouldn't accept you? Life is full of surprises. Keep having faith!! Smile more and your confidence with shine!
2007-03-16 04:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by Noneyabusiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋