Feminists dont want to clean and cook for their husbands or look after the children?

Question

they dont want the husband to stay at home with no income cleaning and nuturing while they are at work eithier. What do feminists want ?

Answer 1

They want their cake and eat it too. I'm a woman and I don't agree with Feminists. The movement started out as a positive thing, women's rights, fair wages in the work place and so on. But it got so big and the Agenda got so out of hand and mangled that they have created a world where the parents are never there, the children run wild and no ones there to lead them the right way and Marriage will become a thing of the past. I am completely against what the Feminists of today stand for.. I understand the original movement had a true legitimate reason, women who's husbands left them to raise the children alone had to go to work and deserved to be paid the same as a man would for the same position.

Answer 2

Your statement is false, so I'll address it:

Feminists dont want to clean and cook for their husbands or look after the children?
Actually, SOMEONE has to do that, and unless you can afford a cleaning lady or a chef, it's going to be the family who does the chores. Feminism as a movement doesn't teach that women shouldn't contribute to the household - it merely says that that shouldn't be the only option for women. Also, if a woman works full-time and so does her husband, they should contribute equally to domestic chores. It shouldn't be a woman's job only.

they dont want the husband to stay at home with no income cleaning and nuturing while they are at work eithier.
This is also untrue. Couples should decide on their own what works best for them. If they choose to have one parent stay home, then that's fine, regardless of the gender of the stay at home parent. Whatever works for them if fine - it's all about choice, not being forced into a particular occupation because of your genitalia.

Also, I think feminists have a particular soft spot for stay at home dads - it's a sign of a more egalitarian society and the rejection of patriarchal gender roles.

I think you should do more research into the Women's Movement and feminist theory before you bash it.

Answer 3

Well first off -- I consider myself a feminist and I never thought there was anything wrong with being a housewife and rearing children, if that is what a women chooses to do. Being a feminist is about having choices and deciding what will fulfill you emotionally. It doesn't matter to me what it is, raising children, advancing in a career or balancing both. But a women should not be expected to conform to any one persons definition of female.

I think you are mistaken that feminists want a men to be subservient -- they want what everyone wants, an equal partner, a lover and a friend.

I think if you look past the negative propaganda of what makes a feminist you will see the majority are just normal people who want equality and a world free of stereotyping.

Answer 4

Hmm, when I was married, we both worked, and both shared taking care of the house. If we'd had kids, I preferred that he stay home with the kids, since I made a lot more money. I often have made more money than my partner and have supported them. I don't think it's a big deal if you're fair about chores, are mature, and you love each other. I know lots of men and women who do this, whether they call themselves feminists or not. As long as you're respectful about each others time and energy, I don't think it matters who does what. What kind of people are you hanging out with? You need to find some mature friends....it sounds like you're hanging out with selfish, immature people...hopefully, that's not the only kind of friends you're capable of making...

Answer 5

Neither one of these statements is true nor factual. I am a feminist and my husband and I both work. We both contribute to the cleaning and the maintenance of the home. Marriages based on mutuality and equality are often like this where tasks are shared between individuals.
If my husband chose to stay home and nurture and clean that would be his choice and I would respect this. Stop generalizing because your arguments do not make any sense and sometimes I really feel it is pointless even addressing them since you never seem to learn anything from what people tell you.
You are simply stating your own misguided opinions and have no intention of swaying at all from your original opinion.
Feminists want equality and an end to oppression for everyone, not just for women. They also want men who are bitter and full of animosity towards women to get on some medication and start working through their abundant gender issues with a knowledgeable therapist.

Answer 6

They simply want the option of deciding what they will do with their lives instead. It's that women seem to have two choices - they can stay home and basically become a household slave with sex privileges or they can have a career, add to the household income and then come home from work and work the "second shift" cleaning and cooking and watching the kids while the husband, having completed his day of work, does whatever he wants to. Women are tired of having to live their lives for someone else and want to do what makes them happy. It's about the right to choose your own path - whatever that happens to be.

Answer 7

where do you get the idea that feminists don't want to clean and cook or look after children? Feminism is about EQUALITY - that's it. Plain and simple. There are plenty of feminist housewives out there that love taking care of the home and children. What we don't want is for people to look down on us or belittle our choices (or...make the choice for us). For example...if a mother chooses to work she is labeled "a bad mother and selfish". If a woman chooses to stay at home her intellect is often called into question. We want to be treated as equals with men. Try reading "The Mommy Myth". It's a really good book that goes into this in more detail (that is, if you are truly looking for information and not just railing against women)

Answer 8

Not being a "feminist" myself, I am probably not qualified to answer this question however, I suppose that it is different for each individual and unfair to lump all feminists into the same boat. I think you may have an extreme view of what feminists want. There are shades of grey, not just black and white situations involved, here.

Answer 9

I am a feminist. I clean and cook for my man. He does the same for me. We both work at satisfying, fulfilling jobs. We share the care of our infant daughter.

What do I want?

I want trolls to stop making ridiculous assumptions about feminists. (It isn't going to happen, but hey, you asked.)

Answer 10

We want housework to be equally divided. We would be willing to clean and cook and rear the children if our husbands agreed to share the burden. Of course, this is the group of feminists who actually want a husband, of which I am not one.