I have trouble making friends. People always seem friendly at first but then they give me the cold shoulder. Or, people will make plans with me then forget about those plans. Is this normal? I wonder if some aspect of my personality is a turn off. I don't act 'needy' and I am not to argumenative.
I don't know what my problem is, or indded, if there is even a problem.
2007-03-16 04:29:24 · 12 answers · asked by Deus V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok sooo what kind of friends do you hang around with, do to try to fit in???? I think people have the most and best friends because they are real with themselves and they dont have to pretend to be someone they arent. people like you for you... just be yourself Deus and stop trying to be a people pleaser....be yourself:] and as your for peronalities you just be yourself and people will FLOCK to you!!!
Good Luck and God bless!!!<3
2007-03-16 04:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by think_pink_panther336 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to be completely frank with you: I have the exact same problem, and yes, on days it is often hard. Back in high school, I was friends with pretty much everyone. But after we all went off to college, university and/or got married, I noticed sides of them which I hadn't known were there before, so I decided to keep my distance and not be as close to them as I was before. It created a lot of contraversy between my group of "friends" and they all seemed to point a finger at me and say that I was the one who was the bad friend. They made me feel so bad for nearly 4 years, until I finally completely dumped them. I don't want to go into detail, but basically, they completely betrayed me by talking behind my back, making fun of my marriage, the clothes I wear, and so much more.
The best thing I can tell you is that there is nothing wrong with your personality, you are you, and there is no need to change that for anyone. If you like who you are, and they can't appreciate it, then believe me, they are the ones missing out. Making friends is easy, but making GOOD friends is the hard part. These days, I find myself getting closer with my family than my friends because they seem to respect and understand me. I don't know how much help I was, but good luck with it.
2007-03-16 05:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be the people you were trying to be friends with. They just might be the type who stand people up. I have a few friends who are that way. They don't mean too, they just forget or over schedule their lives and are unable to meet all the demands. How do you meet friends? What is it that spurs you to talk to them? I don't need the answers to these question. just good things to think about.
2007-03-16 04:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by Michael S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 23:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to have friends you have to be one. The only thing that is required is being friendly. You can't do that? If not, then maybe you're better off being a loner. There's nothing wrong with that if that's who you really are. It's better to be honest with yourself than try to "fake" being someone's friend.
2007-03-16 04:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is me - I searched for this question. What I have decided to do is join some volunteer organizations and meet like-minded people.
I live in the Tampa area and we are famous for not being very friendly.
It is NOT you!!!
2007-03-16 17:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by snowdrop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I find it hard to make friends because I'm so shy in real life that I just ignore those people. Well, I have friends shockingly. They are my true friends because they wanted to be my friend and that's all you can do. To have a friend is to be a friend.
2007-03-16 04:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by vexen431 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know how old you are. I heard a lady on the
radio; she was Christian and met her husband on the
internet. She said she was not real "social". I am that
way too, not really the "life of the party" but you can find
friends if you put your mind to it. What is your favorite
activity - find friends who enjoy that too.
2007-03-16 04:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by judy f 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be outgoing i love meeting new ppl..and so yea..just be like hi i dont think i know you...
if they give you the cold sholder..let them cool off for a bit...then come back a day later or a few days later and start over or something..be like "hey again!"
2007-03-16 04:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by trpt110ny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likely they have a problem or distraction. i have had friends and lost them or chose to lose them. all you really need is one best friend. mine is my fiancee. once you have a love partner and children and work and extra activities you barely have time for friends anyway.
2007-03-16 04:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by CATWOMAN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋