REALLY SCARED TO GIVE BIRTH!!! help?!!?

Question

Okay im 18 years old. Im about 4 months and a week. My belly is not even noticable just alittle swollen. But Im the type of person scared of everything. I dont even fly on airplanes because im horrified of them. I need help, I heard that women die giving birth. Im super scared because I'm only 18, 4'11 and really skinny. I am healthy though and I dont have anything wrong with me. Im super scared of drugs (epidural) but I WILL DEFINTLY ask for them to ease the pain? Is it common now and days for something to go wrong ???

Answer 1

CALM DOWN...4 months your child is just starting to develop at that stage...you're paranoid of things going on around you and you're assuming that just because you're small you might die giving you baby birth...now this is very common sweetie... most women have these thoughts and when you're young people just go by what they see on television...don't worry about what is going on with other people...just stay calm and try not to think about it honey....
if you're hurting that bad and doctors want you to take an epidural drug maybe you should...it will ease the pain.... Common now And days?? no!! of course not! there are some risks but sinse the beginning of time doctors have made progress! a lot of it!!! and more than likely you will survive... =] hon don't worry! it will all be fine! if you need any more help i'm here if you need to talk ok??
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with love

Answer 2

Labor and delivery isn't as bad as you think. By time your in the last month you'll be counting the days and wanting that baby out!! Sure the thought of it is a little scary because with your first you have no clue what actually takes place.
You still have a ways to go before you should be feeling these things. Enjoy your pregnancy and handle the labor when it comes. That's what i did with my first pregnancy, i was also 18 and only 2 inches taller. It doesn't matter how old you are, your a women and this is just all part of the miracle of having children.
The most important thing i can tell you is don't go into this thinking the worst. Don't plan everything right this second, like the Epidural. When the time comes and your body is telling you that you need it then you consider it. Anyways the Epidural isn't that bad, you can't even see it.
Labor is very unpredictable, anything can happen but you have to hope for the best and stay positive, remember the doctors are well trained they know what their doing.
If you need to know anything about your pregnancy just ask them, that's what their there for.
You'll be fine!!! :)

Answer 3

I was 18 when my first son was born I was only 5'5 and real skinny the best thing is to have people there with you who you know and trust it also helps if they've been through it like a mom or aunt. If your worried about your size and the baby being too big ask your dr they can decide that by looking at the ultrasounds. My son was 9 lbs I had to have a c-section b/c he was to big and my hips wouldn't spread enough from him to go through my dr knew that before it was even time to push. If your worried about the pain just relax and remember to breathe the epidural doesn't hurt before they stick you with the big needle (for the epidural) they use a little needle to give you a local in your back so you don't feel the larger needle. Some things that may also help is to bring some of your own things with you like your pillow and a favorite blanket, you can also usually bring your own music to play if it relaxes you. If you get there and are still scared talk to the nurses they have done this a 1000 times and know what they are talking about they can usually help. If you have a vaginal delivery don't worry they are not as bad as everyone says my second son was delivered that way. After it's over and you have a beautiful baby in your arms you'll forget about all of pain, also people rarely die giving birth anymore they have so many machines hooked up to you they know the second something starts to go wrong. Just relax and good luck.

Answer 4

U will be fine...Things going wrong during delivery is not all that common,it can happen just like a car accident can happen at anytime but im sure its not likely as long as your pregnancy is progressing normally. I was 19 when i first got pregnant and trust me i was scared to death also...everyone told me the horror stories of the epidural,pushing,being induced etc...I too am afraid of airplanes..i took one a few years ago with my sister because i had to,i cried when we took off i was soo scared. But i will tell u now that birth is not what it is made out to be...Getting the epidural is the best thing to do if u dont like pain...the needle does not hurt contrary to what some may say, i hate pain and the thought of pain and i didnt even hurt with the epidural...The contractions distract u from the needle and it is soo quick,like an ear piercing...if u have had an iv before or blood drawn,those hurt more then epidural..once the needle is in,it takes bout 5 minutes and then u wont feel a thing,your waist down will be 100% numb,u cant even move your legs.coming from someone who is a chicken also,im on my third pregnancy and got an epidural with my last two and planning on it with this one also. Your not going to die and nothing is going to happen to you or your baby...women dying during birth is rare..Enjoy your pregnancy and right when u go into the delivery ward tell them beforehand u would like the epidural so when u start noticing the pain they will give it to u sooner...good luck and congrats!!!

Answer 5

Ok I am 21 but I was 19 when I had my son. I am small too, at 5' 1". I was scared to death of giving birth. I didn't even want to think about it. Tearing "down there" freaked me out. Well when I was 8 months along my water broke. I went to the hospital and had a baby in about 3 hours. I will tell you this... what really hurt were the contractions (which feel like period cramps but a million times worse!). Having a baby coming out of the tiny little hole down there didn't hurt at all. The best way I can put it is that the contractions were so bad that I just wanted the baby to come out so they would stop. You're body just naturally reacts to everything that is happening so even if you are scared to give birth you will be fine when it actually happens. As long as you get regular check ups while you are pregnant so the doctor's can moniter you then your baby should be fine. A lot of complications with the pregnancy can be treated if it is caught early enough. Just relax!

Answer 6

A lot of women *used* to die giving birth, but that was hundreds of years ago. With today's technology you are pretty safe while giving birth. Plenty can go wrong, but the doctors can take care of it.

As for your size... I was 18 when I got pregnant and 19 when I gave birth to my son. I am 5'2". And when I got pregnant I was only 90 lbs. I gained 39 lbs by the end of my pregnany. And my delivery went fine. I didn't get an epidural because I don't see the need for them. The pain isn't that bad, really. It only starts to hurt really bad once your water breaks. And when you get to the point where you feel like you can't handle it anywhere... it's all over. Once the pushing starts you'll feel much better. And then you see your baby... And you forget about all of the other stuff.

You'll do fine.

Answer 7

I was 17 and weighed 93 pounds at 5 ft 8inches tall when I got pregnant.(anorexic till I found out i was pregnant)
I was high risk the whole time. My son was born weighing 8 pounds 10 ounces. And healthy.

Death rates are so very low with proper health care. You do not have to worry about this at all.

I read all I could. I asked many questions to other mothers. My fears soon went down. All but the pain part.

I had 30 hours of labor and it was back labor with many complications. You know what I had two more children. A mother by nature you forget the pain after you hold your child.

Now I am a Doula. Having a baby is the most wonderful and can be very pain full experience but nothing is more rewarding.
Congrats hun. All will be ok.

Answer 8

Awww, don't worry, hun! Nowadays they are brilliant with childbirth and the rate of death during childbirth has decreased rapidly since the old days. They have so many forms of pain relief too, even if you are afraid of needles. If you are terrifed then you can try less drastic ways of pain releif, including nice warm baths with aromatherapy oils (Have you enquired about a water birth?) That is said to make you feel relaxed and make the whole giving birth situation a lot less painful.
Or you could try a TENS machine. Ask your midwife about them as they usually loan you one. Some find them useful but for some, TENS don't always work.
Also if you are with the father still, get him to rub your back and give you a massage whilst in the labour room and if you are not with the father, get someone to come in with you. Because even a friendly face can help the labour experience so much more reassuring.
Remember your not in labour forever and at the end, you'll have a gorgeous little son or daughter to love so you will soon forget the pain.
So relax, your healthy and that will definetly make it easier for you! Good luck!

Answer 9

First of all, congratulations on your upcoming event!

Second, you need to be receiving REGULAR pre-natal check-ups if you haven't been already.

Third, regardless of what people have told you, giving birth IS a natural process whether you chose to ease your discomfort with medication or not.

Every birth is different even with the same woman, so you don't need to panic.

It is considered the woman's choice whether to receive medication, however, if you wait until too far along in the delivery process to ask for it, they will tell you no.

There is a little discomfort in getting an epidural BUT the benefits outweigh the minor "stick" in getting the meds you need to be comfortable. The whole reason for having medication is to be able to give birth to your child and be able to enjoy your new child.

While it is true that women have died giving birth, it is exceptionally rare in this country. If you are healthy and have no medical issues to deal with other than being pregnant, the most important thing right now is to help yourself be calm.

Yoga, meditation, prayer - used them all myself! The best thing you can do for your baby is to be as calm as you can so they are not stressed because you are stressing.

The only thing I had go wrong with either of my boys was a small bruise on my eldest son's cheek when he was born. It was from turning him (he was breech, which is to say that he wasn't correctly positioned to be born and required turning).

Good luck and remember the doctors and nurses and other staff are there to HELP YOU and to make this a blessed event not an ordeal!

Answer 10

Relax.almost everyone i know was scared the first time they gave birth. Your body will know what to do and you Dr. is there to help too. I have not heard about anyone dying recently from giving birth,new technology can do wonders now. My 19 yr old daughter was really thin 5' and she had to have a c-sect. after hours of labor. She was fine and so was the baby. Epidural is not as bad as you hear it to be. I had 4 just take a deep breath and think about the beautiful baby you are about to have then the epi will be done and you probably won't even have felt it.