I was throwing a red nose day party tonight but I cancelled it on wednesday night due to lots of bad things happening. Some of them are being made redundant, having to pay £800 to get a pipe replaced, puppy being generally bad, being infertile etc (all this in past 2 weeks) . Anyway today I thought you know what lets have a party I need a laugh. But my friends are now all going for a meal together without me and my fiance. So I feel bad again. I wouldnt feel as bad if I hadnt already bought things in on monday and if id cancelled it earlier in the week and if they had invited us anyway. I know it could probably be worse but I feel bad (there are also more things that ive not meantioned). I just dunno I dunno whats happened Im not an unhappy person but I just feel a bit alone. I hoping for a lottery win saturday lol. Can anyone cheer me up or something.
2007-03-16 04:20:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oh bless! thats not on- what kind of mates are these! is it the same group who ditched the party who are going out for a meal- if it is I think you need to find a new group as thier actions are out of order and not friendly in the slightest!
I hope the two groups are not connected in which case I have a few ideas I can throw at you.
1. dont be on your own tonight if possible- not only are you feeling down fro your friends who are in all kinds of bad situations (eg no job, broken pipe...etc) but also as a result of being dumped after taking the time to plan and set up a party. Dont let your efforts go to waste!
2. try inviting afew of them over- not for a party, but for a sit and chat and cheer each other up time- call it coffee- or even sit and watch the red nose day festivities on tv. It amy take you a bit of effort to drag them over, offer them to stay at least an hour.
-emotional blackmail ideas are: I have all this food I need to get rid of, you can take some home with you if theres any left which I am sure their will be!
-I'm feeling really down and could do with a friend right now
-I am worried and /or concerned for you, please come round or I'll worry more!
like I say, it takes more effort to life peoples spitits into wanting to go to see anyone, but when they are up it pays back big time!
3.To keep everyone there, keep to your word, if after an hour they want to go, let them go, they may return you never know, keep the mood quite calm -but not somber- a full on party seemed to be the reason they cancelled, so maybe tone it down a bit so they can connect with you and talk rather than feel they have to dance or be all smily and happy.
4. ply the alcohol!
Either way if you take the suggestions up or not, I think you have every right to feel down- its friday night and your lime light has been taken away, and it must feel really crap at the moment. Its not normal to feel totally ok when something like this happens!! I would be really p*ssed of and kinda hurt too!
make sure you look after no.1 tonight, do something you enjoy- that includes all of the suggestions I have mentioned above; if you know they aren't gonna help make you feel better, then do something for you. I would!
P.S I'd ask to come to your party but I have to baby sit for a precotious brat tonight :-(
2007-03-16 04:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel bad.... You and your fiancee should have a red nose day night in, a nice meal some drinks and a laugh.... You dont need to spend alot of money....
Just relax and enjoy each others company
You will have loads of fun!!
2007-03-16 13:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch the Vicar of Dibley on the TV with your fiance...at least you have someone you love and TV comedy left!
I'm feeling a bit rubbish too...maybe get some chocolate too, chocolate's always good.
I'm sending happy thoughts your way...: )
2007-03-16 14:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by Pol 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you and your chap go out together and have a laugh,maybe to the same place your friends are going lol,but seriously dont worry,you should have just said hey y arent we invited just go and gate crash i would,just get drunk and have a giglexx
2007-03-16 11:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by lainaloo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋