Connor lives down in PA and I don't really want to go down there for it tomorrow. He's turning six, but we all turn six sometimes. My pop got me a train set when I turned six, as I remember. Nothing special. I wouldn't mind, but I have a date on Saturday with this woman I met out last week. It's sorta a date. I'm taking her and her five-year-old son out to a movie and a dinner (I hope he goes to bed early if you know what I mean). So, my son's mother is totally expecting me to be there and he's called me a few times this week to remind me to be there, but I'm not really sure I'm going to be able to go three hours to his thing and still make it back in time to take this chick out. And she's hot, too, so this is really stressing me. What I was thinking is that I could call from a rest stop on the NYS Thruway, around Rockland County and say, "Hey buddy, daddy's truck had a flat. Uncle Pete's gotta pick me up." That way caller ID will show I'm an our away from home at least. Thoughts?
2007-03-16 04:20:17 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how old are you? You don't even deserve to have a son if you're willing to put ONE date with a girl you barely know before his birthday party. He's obviously excited for you to be there and you don't even care. I feel sorry for him, the poor kid. You're not a very good father.
2007-03-16 04:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
How sad... You had rather go on a "date" with some woman you've just recently met.. and HER son, that tol be there for your own son on his birthday?? I'm sorry, but you need to really get your priorities straight. It's not like that is the only day you will ever be able to see this woman..
If you love your son at all, then stop being so selfish. Tell the woman that you have plans already to be at your son's birthday party. She is a Mother, and if she's a caring one, she will completely understand.. and will more than likely encourage you to be there for your son.
However, if you do insist on having an evening out, instead of being there with your son.. you should at the very least, be man enough to admit it. Do not try to give him some lie about why you're not going to be there. Now, of course.. do not call a 6 year old child and tell him that you are basically out running around with some woman you barely know.. just tell him you had something else you were doing. Mind you, he will be crushed.. and sad over the situation. Is one date really worth that to you??
Come on, be a real Dad.. and go see your son. It's his birthday! Just because yours don't seem to have been all that special to you, that doesn't mean his shouldn't be treated as special. Go be with him, not because you have to.. but because you love your son and you want to be there.
2007-03-16 09:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to an attorney and give up any and all rights of parenthood as it seems your son is less important to you than he needs to be. If I was the kids mother, I wouldn't want you there anyway, but your son doesn't know what kind of a lame father you are and probably still loves you. Break this kids heart by lying to him and putting him off and he'll grow to abhor you and when you are old and feeble, he'll make some lame excuse of why he put you in a cheap nursing home and never visits because he had a flat tire.
2007-03-16 04:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by Carol D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thoughts? Yes, that you are an idiot.
If you fantastic story is true (based on your other questions I don’t know if to believe you have a kid at all), then you should go there and be with your kid.
A birthday is something very important for a kid, and to have his father there is just as important as having the mother and the friends, and the cake and the present. Is a 6 year old kid, not a moron like you that is “grown up” and know better about life, even thought I really doubt you have a freaking idea of what is to be a real grown up man.
But if you want to go after your hot chick and her p u s s y, then be my guest, is your son’s life and feelings, not mine.
2007-03-16 04:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Dan D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is a serious question then you really need to reasses your priorities. I am a divorced father and I would never have put any woman above my child in a situation, no matter how "hot" she was. If you all you want from this woman is a "fun" time then you are putting mere sex ahead of your own child, and if you are really interested in this woman for a long term relationship then she should be able to understand your needing to be with your son, especially with her being a parent as well. Hey it's your call but you are the one with something to lose.
2007-03-16 04:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by dsi_samw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Deadbeat Dad: Sign your parental rights away immediately. You do not deserve to have this child and the child does not deserve to have such a jerk for a dad. The irony is... the hot chick w/ child would probably be consumed w/ disgust for you to even be thinking of ditching your kids birthday. Dad's like you are all too common. Your extreme selfishness is probably why you are not with your child and his mom. How can you look at yourself in the mirror?
2007-03-16 04:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by Dani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you're an idiot, and your son didn't ask to be in this world and he didn't chose you as a father and you can avoid going to your son party but I pray that your date don't happen and that the girl would see you for who you really are.You don't put this girl in front of your child because in the long run you will find out that you need your son's love and not that of another woman.
2007-03-16 04:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by sweet p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so everyone is calling you names And well I agree.
Here my point:
You did something, you got a son.
You have to take the responsibility for that.
THAT chick would probably ditch you for HER son,
and SHE would understand because she has a son too!
Besides, if this leads somewhere, what if one day she finds out you went out with her over your own son.
Pretty soon she'd call you all the names other Yahoo users have been using on you..
Dont try to get out of the party.
My only advice.
2007-03-16 10:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by Holymoly123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you put as much effort into your OWN child as you are willing to put into avoiding him and spending time with another child just to hook up with another woman, good things could happen. What i you end up marrying this woman and a teenage son finds out you blew off his special day, because to a child EVERY birthday is special, to spend time with another kid- believe me thats all he'll comprehend. Why not bring this other woman and her son too, its an extra bday present from her and youll be showing her that you're a good father to your own son, which shell appreciate much more than you shoving your son aside. Plus her son gets cake...everybody wins, not just you.
2007-03-16 04:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by wherewasgodforthelost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're my ex-husband, aren't you!!!!! That's the kind of thing he did.
Well, let me tell you how it turned out. My kids hate their father because they can see through the lies. They're grownups now, and would walk past him in the street, without a second thought.
One day your son is going to be taller than you, and he'll look into your eyes and know you for the loser you are.
Then you'll wish you had his childhood back, but guess what? It will be too late.
2007-03-16 04:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son turns 6 only once. It means a lot to him if his dad could be there with him. Your hot girl friend will understand for she has a 5 year old son too.
2007-03-16 04:25:53 · answer #11 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋