My partner goes out friday nights and sunday to go hang out with his mates, we are both still young(20 and 21) and we have a daughter together.
I am very happy to stay with my daughter and I don't like going to pubs or clubs, but he does take our daughter out once a week or so while I stay at home and relax.
This is no problem for me but my family say he should not be hanging out with his mates when he has a family and I should make him stay in all the time when hes not at work.
To me that sounds horrible I am not his mother and I think it is good that he goes out and has fun, if it makes him happy.
My question is would you find it acceptable for your partner to go out with his mates, or do you think my family is right?
2007-03-16 04:17:41 · 21 answers · asked by cigaro19 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what you are happy with counts more than your family. you have your own family now.
You are young and you should be praised for making it work, with a little one, whilst still doing things as individuals.
2007-03-16 04:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by dsclimb1 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As long as both of you are happy with the situation I really don't see a problem with it. Everyone needs friends. Actually I think that your relationship is probably better because of this. If you made him stay at home all the time like your family suggests it would make your partner resent you. I think you are very mature and your relationship is on the right track,
2007-03-16 04:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day you don't mind at all about your situation. if your happy then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, if you don't particularly like going out, then your doing the right thing by not stoping your fella from goin out. why should he stay in jus because you don't like going out? as long as your relationship is good, and you trust him, there seems to be no problem, you've not even made a negative comment about this, it just seems to be your family's view. i say carry on as you are, when YOU see something as a problem then its your life and up to you to address the situation, as far as this goes.........just carry on as you are, at least you're a young couple still together with a young child...more than i can say for some. good luck
2007-03-16 04:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is letting other people dictate how your relationship should be. Thats when arguments start.
My advice? If you two are both happy thats all that matters.
Me and my bf go out together,and with our mates and there are no problems with our relationship. (happy for 3 years so far.....)
The key is not to let anyone else get involved as it's none of their business.
If your happy - no problem.
2007-03-16 04:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by bannister_natalie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you are a couple, you should each still have your own time both your partner and yourself. if you are happy with the arrangement then there is no problem. If you try to make him stay home & not see his mates he will resent you and maybe leave you. Better that he stays happy & since you don't mind, no problem.
2007-03-16 04:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by FC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tried to tie him to the house, you would probably both quickly start to feel smothered - it's great for him to have at least a few hours a week to be able to spend time with other people, outside your home, as long as he returns the favour for you! (Which it sounds like he's doing!) The times he's out are extra times for you and your daughter to have one-on-one, and the times he takes her to do something special with him are not only important for them, but it gives you time to pamper yourself! As long as you also make time for "dates" where someone else looks after your daughter for a little while...
As near as I can tell, you guys have a great balance - if my guy and I became parents together, I only hope we'd manage so well!
2007-03-16 04:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by Megs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ho you are right in my opinion. You both have lifes outside of each other as well. As long as you are both ahppy with the way things are and it works for you then that is fine. It is your relationship not your familys it is about both of you being happy and providing a happy stable home for your daughter.
2007-03-16 04:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre (married) not them, youre both young, so why not party while you can. if you stopp his excursions, then it will only lead to resentment... and arguments.. i presume he works? puts food on the table and a roof over your head...
what worked for your parents isnt going to neccesarily work for you... you cut the umbilical cord a long time ago...
live your life how you see fit, not how other people would have you live it... for down that road lives madness.
good luck
and remember, youre only young once... and as his mates get partners and kids, they'll stop clubbing... and then youl all start partying at each other houses...
2007-03-16 04:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your partner are ok with this routine, thats all that matters. I agree, no mate should keep the other from doing something now and then as long as responibility and trust is in place.
2007-03-16 05:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by haymakenman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right because you are both happy with the arrangment and that's all that matters. Family life is hard enough without outsiders telling you how things are done 'their way'.
2007-03-16 04:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by fancypants 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my other half goes out with his mates and like you its no problem in fact thank god, i get the remote
if you start stoppping him to keep your family happy then its gonna cause problems with you and the other half and as it sounds like there is no problem i would'nt make one. a happy relationship is one based on love and trust and mutal respect and giving each other space to do want you want. and to me it sounds like you've got it all. ignore the family and enjoy your daughterand boyfriend and you as a family . good luck
2007-03-16 05:44:54 · answer #11 · answered by womble 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋