2007-03-16 04:09:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To clarify - asking what would YOU do - not what do you think I should do. Looking for opinions here, not advice for me personally.
2007-03-16 05:40:24 · update #1
"soul mates" is the stupidest phrase ever created...........everyone always claims to be "soul mates" when things are hunky dory but as soon as conflicts arise, all of a sudden that person is no longer desireable and the other party bails outs............
If soul mates were real, I would of had about 9 by now, and I am 33 years old!
I think "soul mates" is a phrase made up by some 9th grade girl...probably the same one that wrote that stupid poem about "If you love someone, set them free, if they come back, it was meant to be...." LOL!!!!! STUPID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-16 04:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
No! You promised to love, honor, cherish, and keep yourself only unto the person you married. How do you know this other person is your so-called soul mate anyway? If you didn't think your spouse was your soul mate, then why did you marry that person? There's some need that's not being met in your marriage and it's cruel to go looking to get that need met somewhere else. You OWE it to your spouse to tell her/him that there's a problem in the marriage, get counseling, and try to work things out. It's irresponsible, selfish, and immoral to cheat on your spouse. Think about this too - if this person you think is your "soul mate" is willing to cheat WITH you knowing you're married, they'll also be willing to cheat ON you knowing you're married. Your entire relationship will be built on a foundation of lies and dishonesty, there will never be any trust, and the relationship will fail. Also, this so-called soul mate is being on their best behavior right now and you're only seeing the good side of them. Just wait until you've been together for awhile and the real person comes out - the person who isn't perfect like you have it in your mind they are. We are all humans and we are all flawed, including your so-called soul mate. What if you're wrong and you find out too late that your current spouse is actually the soul mate, then you're really screwed! You need to stop being selfish and thinking only about yourself and your wants/needs and think about your spouse and your children, if you have them. You're going to destroy and bring pain to a lot of innocent lives if you do this horribly selfish act. Do you know what a soul mate really is? It's the person who's there in the good and the bad times, it's the person who's stuck with you through everything, including the times when you're being your real self behind closed doors. It's the person who holds your head when you're throwing up and takes care of you when you're sick, it's the person who doesn't leave your sorry behind because you're obviously out there looking for other people to hook up with! It's the mother/father of your children! Unless the person you're currently married to is abusing you physically or mentally then there's NO reason why you shouldn't be trying to work on your relationship with them - you owe it to them!
2007-03-16 11:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by saylavie2u2 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Answered this a few days ago.
The answer is still the same. No.
I love my husband and I could never hate him enough to break his heart. Nor could I hurt my children by breaking up their happy home.
If I met a soul mate, I'd keep it a secret, bury it in my heart and move on.
By the way, my brother is getting divorced. He and his wife always claimed to be "soul mates". They hven't even been married 5 years. My husband and I are happily married for 18 years. I don't think he's my soul mate but I do think he's my best friend and I love him.
2007-03-16 11:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that if you thought you had feelings for someone that you thought was your soul mate what was you doing getting married in the first place?Secondly if you are having feelings toward this person you should stop all contact with this person and stay away.I think that when you dwell on thoughts of this person it can lead to thoughts of cheating.You need to start remembering why you married yourspouse and good thoughts about your spouce.Every one gets tempted at sometime or another you need to fight those thoughts.The more you think about the "other"person the more you'll think that person would have been better for you."The grass is always greener on the other side"just take a look at the cows who get stuck in the fence or at the least cut up.Good luck.
2007-03-16 11:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by anntanner 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here's what I think. NO. Absolutely no. Here's why.
YOU made the decision to marry your spouse, you said "I do" and vowed to be their partner for life.
Let me tell you a little story. My grandmother got into a car accident 36 years ago, she has basically been a vegetable since then. She lives in a nursing home, has no short term memory whatsoever......my grandfather has been faithful to her every minute of it.
So I feel if a marriage can survive that, you can get past a little "butterflies in the stomach" feeling. I hate to be harsh, but you're being selfish. You made a vow to love and cherish your spouse, to be there for them....do you understand how much pain you would be causing them if you did this?
Love is not selfish.... love is patient, love is kind. You get it. Focus more on your spouse's needs than your own. You will be a better person, and spouse for it.
2007-03-16 11:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by afwife 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no. i would have enough respect for my spouse to tell them what's happening and leave the relationship to pursue the soul mate rather than cheat on them. that's like saying though you married your spouse, they're just good as a reserve, like a consolation prize in case things don't work out with the "soul mate". so, evaluate your relationship with your spouse and either tell this supposed "soul mate" to take a hike, or have enough manhood to tell your spouse "i've found someone i love more than you."
2007-03-16 11:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jan F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, if i really felt they were my soul mate I would break up with my spouse before I hooked up with them. but really though how do you know they are your soul mate anyway? doesnt it take time to figure that out?
2007-03-16 11:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by asg_is_chillin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think I would, but he and I are different. He did. Only she wasnt his soul mate after all, she was a crazy, dillusional *****.
2007-03-16 13:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by Nothing but the truth...!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the other person is your soul mate--they deserve 100%, you being married isn't 100%.
2007-03-16 11:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by licydechorerra 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. I would avoid that person at all costs and make sure I never felt like that about anyone but my husband.
2007-03-16 11:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋