My husband and I used to fight alot before we got married. Now that we are married we never fuss, but last night we really got into it, but I dont even know how it happened.
2007-03-16 04:02:04 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think its impossible to live with someone and never have a disagreement, no matter how well you get along. Being married means you have to understand that there will be a misunderstanding now and then, but its not the end of the world if you do. Isn't that why make up sex is so good?
2007-03-16 04:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. People fall into a routine, and they are the ones who usually dont fight. Boring. If you arent sure why you fought, you might want to talk about it with him. Something may be going on work, or just bothering him. The best thing to do is find out what it is. Dont be opinionated if he does have a problem. Just listen. Offer support. If it something that is bothering him about you (No offense) dont get defensive and see if it is something that can be worked on. If it is just a good old fashioned fight, and there are no underlying issues, than chalk it up to a bad day. Good luck
2007-03-16 04:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by tcg7213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have verbal disagreements, but not on a daily basis, and not when you let things build to a point where one of you want to walk away. Ask yourself, while in the middle of it, if that is what you really want to happen. Are you happier w/ your spouse or without? Minimizing the content or intensity of the fight is not a good thing to do. You cannot ignore what is going on, or shove it under the carpet. You need to deal w/ it in a good way... with patience, love, and understanding. You don't always have to be right... you can choose to let some things go by.
2007-03-16 04:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by Dani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If couples don't talk about, or even debate and argue about, things that are wrong, it is never good. You don't have to scream or yell, but when you hold everything in for a long period of time, eventually, the smallest little thing will set one of you off and then, as you have experienced, you don't even know what happened. It may help to write things down that upset you, have your husband do the same, and then sit down and discuss them. No blaming, fighting, cursing, name calling, just discussing and working out a solution. It makes for such a better marriage you will be amazed!
2007-03-16 04:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very normal to fight with our spouses. There is no need to know how it happened or what it was started over. What you need to know is that it was resolved in a healthy manner and that there was a mutual understanding and respect in the end. Just a little advice....be careful when you argue that you don't say anything that you may regret later. Use your words wisely and always speak the truth. Best yet, use statements like "I feel...." instead of "You make me feel...." Keep it on point and don't linger off into another subject manner. Remember...keep it personal and don't attack your partner....resolve your issues in a healthy manner and enjoy many more years on developing a healthy relationship.
2007-03-16 04:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, it's perfectly normal. When you are married, you have to negotiate everything. And if you are bored, don't start a fight just to kill the boring, make something that keep you calm. If he starts a fight because he's bored, just try to be understanding with him during the argument, and then, when he is calm again, talk to him, that when he starts a fight just because is bored, he really hurts you. That will make him to think about it. That way is how the couples grow during the time.
2007-03-16 04:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by Entrada de datos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not that you argue it is that you do not know what it was about. There will be disagreements that have to be worked out. To fight about things of little consequence is a power struggle, not problem solving.
Normal? Sadly yes. Know what it is about and learn to get over it soon before it escalates.
2007-03-16 04:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there is a difference between fighting and arguing .
Couples will argue at times .Its only natural . But you should be able to control your anger.. Talk decent to each other and come up with a compromise . think before you say something .Don't say things out of spite , that never resolves anything .
2007-03-16 04:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by dolores h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal to fight. I mean it just happens and it makes you stronger. Maybe u all didn't fight at first cuz it was a new type of like thing, ya know. But I wouldnt stress at all, its normal.
2007-03-16 04:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes; it is alright to have a disagreement with your spouse, maybe,he had a rough day at works or something is bothering him, when he cool down, baby lets talk, find out what brought it on or whats going on with him. try not to cause a fuss. let him know you love and that you cares.
2007-03-16 04:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋