He told me he will do it every time I slapted him! it that normal? should I acepted his behavior? you will never compare the force of a male (160pounds) and the force of a girl of 112 pounds..... Im desperate!
2007-03-16 03:59:19 · 33 answers · asked by GMF 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are wrong for hitting him and not expecting the same in return. Why is it that you feel it's O.K. for you to slap him, but he shouldn't hit you?
Hitting is never O.K., regardless of gender.
2007-03-16 04:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Look, I am only saying this to help you, but if you hit or smack someone in anyway, no matter who you are, you should really expect to be hit back, regardless. I mean think about it, just like you don't like to get treated that way or hit, what makes you think he does? ya know? he is human just like you and has feelings, so just because you are a woman, doesn't mean you have the right to be abusive. Not only that but because of the fact that you know he can hit you ten times harder, that should be your motivation not to even try to hit him. Now if he hit you first, then that wouldn't be right. At the same time, by you hitting him first that still counts as spousal abusive even though it is a woman starting it and not the man. ya know? i think you should keep in mind that you should treat him how you would like to be treated. good luck.
2007-03-16 06:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you slapping him?
This is a two way street, never hit someone without thinking there won't be some typr of retaliation. When men get hit they have an instinct or habit should we say of becoming enraged. Its a physical and natural reaction that most men will control when their wifes get physical. If the two of you can't control your physical anger then why are you married?
2007-03-16 04:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by Emily M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In most states, you'd be the one to go to jail for domestic violence because you threw the first punch. Hitting is unacceptable for both men and women! Most people's first reaction to someone hitting them is to hit back. It was probably just a natural reaction for your husband. You guys need HELP before you start getting into knock down, drag out fights and the police get involved. Go get yourselves some counseling because obviously you both have anger issues with each other! If you don't go to counseling, then you two need to go your own individual ways.
2007-03-16 04:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by saylavie2u2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not OK that you slap him. It doesn't matter what you weigh, it's about respect. It's not OK that he hit you back, either. He should have taken the higher road. Can you think of other ways to vent your anger without slapping him? I'm not sure why you ask if it's normal that he said he wil hit you when you slap him. Is it possible it's your behavior that is not normal?
2007-03-16 04:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by TGB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your hands to yourself. When you strike a man you open the door and invite him to fight back. He could have just as easily called the police and reported you for domestic violence. Strength and force become irrelevant once the hitting starts. No one has the right to EVER hit another person EXCEPT in self defense. That includes YOU.
2007-03-16 04:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by bugs280 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong that he hit you, but it is just as wrong for you to slap him. You shouldn't be slapping eachother, you should be talking through your problems. If you feel the need to become violent then it's time to go for a walk, get some air, cool off. Hitting someone is the last thing you wanna do, especially to someone you're supposed to care about.
2007-03-16 04:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not right for either one of you to hit each other. I understand that when you slapped him you were angry but you should have dealt with your anger another way. That in turn does not give him a right to hit you back. A true gentleman would never put his hands on a woman especially his wife. I think that you should seek marriage counseling and if he doesn't put forth an effort to change consider divorcing him. If he hits you without any provocation whatsoever then you need to get out now. Good Luck!
2007-03-16 04:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Who the hell said it was okay to go around slapping people? Do YOU like being hit? Are you smoking rock?
If you feel the need to hit something, go out and kick a tree. If you feel it on a regular basis, you're in the WRONG RELATIONSHIP. And yes, it does look like you're desperate. CONGRATULATIONS I'm sure your family is very proud of you.
2007-03-16 04:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by heather b. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course it's not acceptable. But why would you be slapping your husband in the first place? You two need to find a more effectual means of communication and leave the cave-man days behind.
2007-03-16 04:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Violence is NOT permitted. EITHER WAY.
If you hit him you should expect to get it back.
Do you think that because you are female you get to do whatever you want with impunity from getting one across the face? Lady, you reap what you sow.
Maybe you should examine your own deplorable behavior before you try to hang an abuser tag on him.
" I can't say what he did was right, but I understand."
Chris Rock
2007-03-16 04:16:59 · answer #11 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋