baby names?

Question

Ok here's the deal. I recently found out that I am pregnant. I have six boys already, all of which are named after a grandfather and/or one of my siblings. (example: James Patrick , named after my father and my sister Patricia)
Now there is a huge chance of me getting another boy. I don't plan on having a girl, and I'm not getting my hopes up. My one sister said flat out "if you do not name this child after me, i'm going to be mad!' sounds silly, right? Its our child, she should just live with it. Its so hard to name a boy after her anyways, because of her name being Melissa Kay. So I finally agreed to Jeffery Kaden. Kaden being after her. She is now saying it should be Kaden Jeffery because she's my sister. Can I not please her? I say if she cannot live with the name that We choose for our child, then she should get over it. Am I right in telling her this? Or should I just give in?

my sister has no children. and never plans too.

I don't know, I guess I can see her point in not having a nephew named after her. Because the others do.. example, Dustin Scott , same middle name as my brother, James Patrick, named after my sister Patricia, and then Christopher Thomas, named after my sister Mary Christine. My other kids are Francis Lee, named after my grandfather, and Joseph Dean, named after another grandfather. But if i give her Kaden, why does it have to be Kaden Jeffery, and not Jeffery Kaden. The other siblings are satisfied with the way we named the other boys, why can't she just accept the fact that she's getting Kaden?

i forgot one of my kids names.....how horrible. Ronald Raymond...after my stepfather and husband and father in law

Answer 1

The question you should put to your sister is IF you name your son Kaden - which is a fine name - but does sound like its spelled Kay- Den, how many time will HE be called KAY on the playground... by other mean children? Giving any name that is open to being picked on just makes it that much more difficult on children at school. I have 5 and have seen just how mean children can be at what we adult think wouldn't even be an issue and names is one of the biggies. Also ask her if she wanted to go out and buy a new car would she be ok with you picking out what car make, model, color & options with out any input from her? Or deciding where she should live, or for you to go into her home and redecorate to your tastes... IT may sound harsh or mean but show her just how uncomfortable she is making you by giving you ultimatums. She is your sister and should be honored that you might even think of putting any mention of her name in YOUR SON'S name. And one question for you - What does your husband think of her demand - and more over - what does he think of the name?
In the end it is your son and you have to call his name every day... you need to be TOTALLY happy in the choice you have made for him for it will last a life time. If you are not happy but give in the resentment will build toward your sister.

IF you feel you must give in - name the child Kaden Jeffery - but do as my husband does - go by his middle name.

Good Luck to you and what ever you do I hope you are happy in the end with your choice.

Answer 2

Well I think you were nice enough to put Kayden in the potential name. She will get over it just let her know I am trying to work with you here but your name is difficult to incorperate into a boys name so Jefferery Kayden it is. Your the mom here, she should have children of her own if she is that worried about naming someone after her! Sorry but thats just how I see it. She only has grounds to suggest a name not try and force it on you. Good Luck

Answer 3

You're definitely right - it's YOUR child. You get to choose the name. She shouldn't be imposing on you like this. When she has her own children, she can name them what she wants. And I love the name Jeffery Kaden. Cool!

Answer 4

I actually like Kaden a lot better than Jeffrey... Jeffrey is very popular. All the men in my family have it, ugh. Plus, I have to ask... did your sisters name any of thier kids after you???

Another suggestion for a name like hers for a boy can be Mason Kaden??

Answer 5

If you do not believe you will have a girl, tell her that if its a boy it will be Jeffery Kaden
IF it's a girl, you use a name Kay or Mel
Here are a few I found
Kayla
Kayley
Mikayla
Amelia
Carmelia
Melanie
Melinda
Melody
Pamela
If you find a girl name you like, and you believe it's boy, tell your sister that will be the first name after her
You should have a girl name picked out anyway
Congratulations

Answer 6

You are absolutely right. It's your child and your decision. She is acting immature.

And I love the name Jeffery Kaden. It's very nice. And props to you for raising so many boys! that is very impressive.

Answer 7

Ur child ur name... she'll have to get over it and in time she will. Besides Jeffrey Kayden sounds better than Kayden Jeffrey. Both are well suited and do go well, but the 1st has a better ring to it ! She should be considerate enough to be grateful that you are naming a child after her anyway ! You don't have to, but doing it as a tradition or favor ! Let her deal with it !

Answer 8

Your child, your choice. It's a name and she needs to understand that it has to be what YOU and the childs DAD like best. Not what she wants. But, in her defense... I REALLY LIKE the name Kaden for a first name!! It's one on my list too!
You go with your gut feeling though!
Good luck

Answer 9

You are absolutely right! Stick to the name that you & your husband like. I think Kaden is cute and a nice gesture toward your sister if you like it as a middle name.

She should have her own children and name them after herself or name one after you if she feels that strongly about it.

Besides since she's being so pushy on the matter...is she going to will a mint to this child if its first name is after her?

Answer 10

I think you are right and that if she doesn't like it tough. It is your child and you should chose a name that you like. Kaden is a gorgeous name for your boy but if you prefer it as the middle name then its entirely your choice.

Congratulations and Good Luck! ;-)