Women and control?

Question

Do women like to be in "control" in a relationship. If they get to know a person and find out they can't control the guy, do they look for someone else. I think so. I think women correlate a guy letting them be in control with a nice, sweet, guy.

Honest answers only.

Answer 1

Oh yeah, women like to be in control of a relationship, alright. And when they don't get there way, its "Your not meeting my needs..."

Answer 2

I think it depends on the personality of the person. I don't like to be in control, but then I also don't like to feel I am being controlled. I like when the relationship is on even ground.

Some women like to be in control of the relationship and others do not, same with men.

Answer 3

I think that a relationship should not be based on who is in "control"...

Sometimes there is allot girls and guys who wants to be on control because of their insecurity, and they don't want to be the ones crying over an "ex", and most of the time we try to hide that by saying something like "oh i was the one with the pants in the relationship" and the true is if you were you still had someone, no wonder why there is about 100 million singles....


Don't walk in front of me, I might not follow
Don't walk behind me , I might not lead
Do step besides me, lets walk together.

Answer 4

The worst thing you can do with a woman is to let her know you like her. You need to constantly keep her guessing - try to remain a bit of a mystery. Try to be like the older guy in high school that she had a crush on, but wouldn't give her the time of day. If you act like that, she'll end up chasing you. It's human nature - you always want what you can't have.

Do yourself a favor and read "The Game" by Neil Strauss --- it will change your life. Read reviews on Amazon if you don't believe me.

There's a part where he relates it to using a string to play with a cat. As you dangle the string and pull it away - the cat will go crazy. But just drop the string on the floor. The cat might bat it a few times, but then becomes bored and walks away. By just putting yourself out there for a women, it is the same as dropping the string. You need to consistently flirt, then pull away and act like you don't care if you lose her. And the funny thing is, the more you do this - it will actually happen! You'll have so many women's attention that you genuinely won't care if one walks away. READ THAT BOOK!!

Answer 5

I used to like to be in control but since I meet my hubby I know that relationships are 50/50. I pretend to let him have control once in a while just so he feels like the MAN :-)
Sometimes it's easy for women to be in control when the man is to weak to stand up for himself. I like strong, hard headed men that don't let me run all over them. If I can do what I want to do all the time and not care what the man thinks then it really isn't some where I'd want to be with that person.

Answer 6

Some women that are really self-centered or insecure/paranoid like to be able to control a guy. I've seen it happen. Some are so jealous of their guys talking to other women or think their guys should just follow them around and be their personal slaves. However, these types of women don't even deserve some of the guys they find that will actually submit to them. If it's the right kind of woman, she will let a guy enjoy the hobbies he enjoys w/o her sometimes like fishing or whatever it may be.

Answer 7

Sometimes women don't feel like they have control over their own lives.

Sometimes, women need to know that a man is going to respect her wishes, because he has her in a vulnerable position.

Sometimes, guys are clueless about what hurts a women or makes her really uncomfortable. I think sometimes women become more controlling as a defense mechanism.

Answer 8

I would say a good amount of women, at least the ladies I know are control freaks in their relationships. It is a shame really as this is one of the major reasons why men run for the hills. These ladies have a twisted sense of what a relationship is supposed to be, and sadly, most refuse to see the error of their ways.

Answer 9

Women view nice sweet guys as friends, not relationship material. They are attracted to nice, strong men.

Most women try to take control in a relationship. Most lose respect for the guy if they are successful.

Answer 10

The answer for this question is simple. Some women like to take control and some women like to be controlled.
The percentage will vary according to nationality, race, religion, educational back ground, social status, financial independence etc.
BTW, I think you are a nice sweet guy who likes to be controlled.

Answer 11

My husband is laid back and doesn't want control. I knew that from the beginning. I like to control and make decisions and he knew that from the beginning. We fit well together and it works for us. I am in charge of the money and bills, (he wants nothing to do with it!), I make any decisions with the kids(again, he likes me to handle it), I make big decisions with the house, finances, etc. (he wants me to) He works all week (60+ hrs) and likes to come home to no hassles, a nice dinner. I provide that for him and enjoy it! I am a stay at home mom, who also works at home. I work 6am-6pm. I have a home daycare in the back of our home. I am in charge of several kids all day, plus I homeschool our daughter. I am in charge of all the housework also. I really enjoy it and wouldn't have it any other way! I don't know if you'd call that control, but it works for us and it must be working....we've been married 16 yrs! If he didn't like it, it can change at any moment! A few less responsibilities on me and a little less stress would be great!