I haven't spoken to my close female friend for 4 months-I wanted a break from her,as we got too close(I had feelings for her)she wanted to be friends.4 WEEKS AGO she txt me that our FRIENDSHIP IS OVER!That I should move on wth my life and she wishes me all the best.
That SAME WEEK we met at a friends reunion party,we spoke a lot,but she still looked hurt+uncomfortable at times.
At the end of the night,she hugged me tightly,said "take care hun and I'll see you at the nxt roadtrip"
This week I sent a email(via Facebook) if I could add her as my friend on Facebook.THATS ALL I ASKED,NOTHING ELSE.She wrote bck: asking how I am,what she done on her wkn and said I can add her "as a friend lol".
I wrote bck saying I'm busy at work and work wth too many women(which I do).She wrote back saying "Have fun with the ladies at work" - WHY she write that???
Wrote bck saying I have been having too much fun and she's not replied since.
Did she mean the friendship is over?Advice pls..
2007-03-16 03:57:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm confused wth her behaviour as she said our friendship is over.Our mutual friends are just as confused as I am!
Why be nice to someone if you don't have too?I don't see her around on a daily basis.
2007-03-16 04:09:18 · update #1
How wud you feel if someone says ur not friends and then acts as if you still are?!!!! honestly!
IF U DON'T WANT TO ANSWER-THEN DON'T!!!!
2007-03-16 04:21:34 · update #2
okay. so first off the whole break thing. If I were her, I'd feel pretty upset if my guy friend started to break away from me for 4 months. She probably felt like you were ignoring her,losing interest in your friendship, or didn't like her as a friend anymore. She probably told you she didn't want to be friends because she was hurt. It's kind like a girl's way of getting back at the guy, because if you really were good friends her saying that would upset you. It sounds like she's just really hurt that you took the 4 month break and didn't really give her a reason why. She probably still wants to be friends, but doesn't want to get hurt. You saying you're too busy with women at work sounds like you were rubbing it in her face. Or at least that's how I'd feel, and she was being sarcastic in her reply as a way to make you think it didn't bother her. Although, I'm sure it did. Have you actually told her how you feel? If not you probably should, and then you can work out your friendship. She may eventually have more than friendly feelings for you, but all this that's going on is not making her like you any better. So I'd be serious and talk to her about how you feel towards her and see if you can still be friends.
2007-03-16 04:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she has feeling for you and can't stand hearing you having fun with other women. How would feel if she told you about all the guys she's having fun with. You guys are just too close, friendship is not going to cut. You might need to get together and sort thing out. If you're not ready to be with her, give her space and stop bragging about all the ladies. One thing women hate it's a womanizer (if that's word). She might have higher standard for you, but now you just another regular Joe that like to play with women. Have fun with the ladies but keep that away from your female friend or it come back to hunt. Good luck, you seem to really like her, I hope you guys could stay friend.
2007-03-16 04:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by blackjack7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's really hurt. Why would you want a break from someone that you have feelings for? Sounds like fear of intimacy to me! You have hurt her and you need to make up for it. And that whole thing about having to much fun at work with all those ladies just twisted the knife you had already driven in.
She likely wants more than friendship and if you can't or won't give it to her then you should move out of her life.
2007-03-16 04:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask the same question every day about the same girl. A lot of people have spent time answering trying to give you advice and help you out. Yet still, you re-post the question. Its as though you're ignoring everyone. You need to listen to the advice people are giving you and put it into practice. Perhaps if you spent more time talking to these girls about your feelings and how they feel rather than posting and reposting endless pointless questions, you'd actually be able to answer the question yourself and hopefully learn a few things about women on the way.
2007-03-16 05:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really you need to take what some of the answers stated here seriously. You are becoming obsessed with this girl and need to get a grip. You wanted a break from her four months ago and it looks like she took you seriously. When she saw you at a party she was being decent by telling you to take care. Granted if she wants you to respect her decision that it is over she should quit texting you because this is prolonging your pain but I would assume that she meant what she said.
Do yourself a huge favour and find out what you need to do to get over her and quit texting her even if she does to you. You are going out of your mind(literally) with all of this and this can not be good. Let it go for your own good.
2007-03-16 04:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The friendship was probably over when she text you 4 weeks ago. She may be feeling sorry for you that's why she has been replying, don't bother with it anymore you are just making yourself look desperate! Go and find some new friends
2007-03-16 04:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PEOPLE HERE ARE JUST GETTING BORED WITH YOU AND THE SAME OLD QUESTION ALL THE TIME.
Either get her to tell you that she is going to remain as a friend or ignore her altogether and move on. Your desperation in the form of "Serious answers only" all the time won't help your cause. It's about time you took responsibility for yourself, not keep asking a bunch of complete strangers for advice which you know only too well you won't take anyway ! You just like talking about it ! ! !
2007-03-16 04:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Listen, take this from me. I fell in love with a very close friend once, but he didnt like me like that. Goodness gracious, i felt like every time i was with him, i was REALLy free!!! i thought i'd never be happy again until i met him. finally, i told him that i loved him and that he was my whole world... and he said that he didn't like me like that, even though he flirts with me.
I realized then that you cannot take friendship for granted. If you love her, being around her has to be enough... especially if she doesn't love you. Once you do something to violate your friendship, it is never the same. Just appologise to her and tell her that she still has a special place in your heart. If you say that, maybe she won't love you, but she will be more comfortable around you... maybe one day, you guys could be closer... maybe you both will really fall in love. God, you guys are lucky!!!
2007-03-16 04:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by Aurora_Rose_Maree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone and let her come to you. If she said it was over, maybe she meant the hangin out part, and saw no harm in you adding her to your Face whatever thingy....Seriously tho, let her go, and if was a true friendship it will come back. Either that, or just talk to her face to face and see whats up...Cant hurt a thing.
2007-03-16 04:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly Sir Tango, according to you profile you've asked 176 questions about this girl and asked a question for ever time she coughed or sneezed.
It's time to move on.........
Your obsessed leave it, move on
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2007-03-16 04:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋