I want my boyfriend to leave his work!?

Question

I want my boyfriend to leave his work to another garage as i'm getting fed up with this receptionist he works with. Im 19 and he's 21 and this receptionist is 30 something. I no there's nothing going on but it's winding me up she's managed to get his phone number off the company files and she keeps texting him telling him to come meet her or asking if everythings ok with him and me? he never texts her back but she carrys on doing it. I've even texted her myself telling her it's annoying me and why can't she find her own man. is it wrong telling my boyfriend to get another job away from her? away from his friends aswell which i don't like the thought of ... i dont know what else to do..she is driving me mad! I no people will say change your number but he's done it twice and she still gets the number as he has to give his work the number.

Answer 1

Man i would be right up in her face! I would tell her to leave my man alone or I would beat the sh*t out of her....You need to trust him and tell him to completely tell her off.

Answer 2

yes, this is annoying!!! I feel for you, and kind of know how you feel, although I must say not quite to this extent. This has got to the point where you have a right to put your foot down.

Firstly I think you need to talk to your boyfriend on a more serious level. Males, especially at his age love to have their ego's stroked. He may well be encouraging her in other ways even if he's not replying to her txt's, perhaps lapping up her attention or even some harmless flirting cause hey it passes the days at work and can be flattering.

I find it strange that a woman would stalk a guy like this for no good reason?????

I say, make it clear that he needs to act in a way so she really gets the message. He may be too embarassed to have this conversation.

Leaving the job is a last resort, although it may seem a bit controlling. Perhaps you could have a party/BBQ invite everyone from his work or even go to the pub together - suss her out, and try and have a chat. Might help see the situationa bit better, plus she may get to know you and feel a bit guilty.

Good luck, I hope it gets sorted!! Gotta hate women like that!!

Answer 3

Walk right up to her and ask her why she's such a desperate *****! Don't ask him to leave his job, but I would get in her face. The fact that he doesn't bother with her is a good sign. It also sounds like she needs to think every man wants her to make herself feel good. Some women just need to feel like they could get anyone they want. Tell her this and if it doesn't stop have him report her. Harassment of any kind at the work place is taken very seriously by the higher ups.
Good luck and DON'T BACK DOWN!

Answer 4

You cant ask him to leave his job, but you can make demands to your privacy with him. You need to talk to him and tell him that he needs to put her in her place and have enough respect for you to do this right away. She is interefering way too much and hopefully it wont be the demise of your relationship. I think he is the one that should do it because youre not getting anywhere with this. Why cant he give your number to his job. You can then screen the call and give him the message., I think your boyfriend is not respecting your relationship enough, and every job does have sexual harassment policies, if it continues, tell him to file a suit.

Answer 5

Actually, yes, it is wrong for you to ask him to leave a good because you have an insecurity. Trust me, if this has been bothering him as much as it's been bothering you, he would have dealt with it already. He either likes the attention, or he really just doesn't care.

Really, you're only 19, why do you need a boyfriend? At your age, you should be dating different people and having fun, and not be committed to one person. He's only 21, he's too young to be committed to one person as well. Why are you both in such a hurry to settle down?

Answer 6

All personnel documents are confidential at the work place. What she has done is illegal, report it to her boss, that'll sort the problem. Just say to her boss that the receptionist got his number from confidential files and is causing disruption at home through contact via text message. Tell him you want the problem addressing and for it to stop.

Sorted!

Answer 7

The fact that she went into company files to get his number is a breach of privacy. He should put in a complaint about that, and the fact that she will not stop texting him, to the manager of the company. Has he even told her himself that he doesn't want her to be in contact?

Answer 8

call the police and performance them help you go away. tell them he placed his palms on you and also you need an officer or 2 to be there so that you'll %. up your stuff. Then even as the police officials are there call your father and mom to come back get you. The police are required to stay there. Get the phone and flow to the rest room and communicate to for help. this isn't proper. If he loves you he ought to aid you go away.

Answer 9

This may not be what you want to hear but if he is not leading her on in some way(which he probably is)then there is nothing you can do. It is insane for him to switch jobs over this!!!!! If it bothers HIM he can can tell her to stop,if he hasn't done that then she is not the problem!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If he has told her to stop and she doesnt then he should file a harrasment claim with his boss!!!!!!!

Answer 10

get your boyfriend to tell her in no uncertain terms that she has stolen his number from work files and if she continues to carry on contacting him that he will report her to the manager - you cant do that kind of thing - taking a private number and texting!!!!
If she doesnt stop after that - report her!!!! soften her cough a bit!! saucy mare!
xx