there are people that are overweight,(like myself) and are proud of it. There are some that are ready to kill themselves if they dont lose a weight, cause they feel like they are going to die due to the issue anyway (like myself). I am just curious, I was in a decade long relationship that was devastating, and I gained weight, and had children and hate myself for letting myself go. I am not in that relationship anymore (PRAISE GOD) and am coming to know what i like and dislike, im starting to like me, and see that I am unique,, But what I dont understand is I look in the mirror at home or happen to walk pass one out in public and dont like how my body looks, you can see how it used to look, and it looks as if she is still in there, But I dont like what I see as far as my body. I have a good heart, and full of love. I wanted to know those of you that say IM DAMN PROUD OF BEING A BBW, OR A OVERWEIGHT MAN, please answer me why, how can you look in the mirror and not want to change that?
2007-03-16 03:52:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thank you to all of you that answered, they were very in depth and helped me understand a little bit more.
2007-03-16 06:56:58 · update #1
I come from a family of BBW and i think its all in the head. Try to put yourself in the shoes of aneroxic/bulemic women--to us they look like they are starving, and to themselves, they look fat.......its okay to want to lose weight, but get your mind right first. And big doesn't necessarily mean unhealthy either, another misconception in today's society.
2007-03-16 04:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by licydechorerra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to come to terms with what you look like or what ever. I am a bbw and I am proud of it. I am bbw due to the fact that both sides of my family are very big boned people. Even if some people are overweight they dont have to be depressed or anythign about it. I am losing my weight but I know that I will never be slim and all of that. As long as I love me for me and those I am with love me > I look for the interbeauty of a person instead of what they look like on the outside.
2007-03-16 11:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by lz_adam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am overweight and love who I am. I am a good person, mother, wife, friend, and co-worker. Every time I look in the mirror I see the bulges, but bulges can go away if I was to work on that. We can lose weight and gain weight as a people, but to change our attitude towards human life is something most people have a hard time changing. It is love that overrides everything else...Without love? So love yourself for who you are (your heart) and not for how society sees you. We need more affectionate good hearted people in the world. Society has pressured women throughout the years to look like barbie dolls, but past history shows paintings of overweight women who were looked upon as the most beautiful women of the world. What happened to society that made what was once beautiful into ugly. Maybe it was an insecure skinny woman. Love you and love others...that is what makes you beautiful...Remember beauty starts from within.
2007-03-16 11:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's easy, i am a BBW AND PROUD OF IT, how can i look in the mirror and not wanna change because this i who i am and i love me it all starts with you gotta love you, everybody isn't made to be a pencil no offense skinny women, but a man really wants somthing he can hold on too at night, i am a size 16-18 and loving every moment ashley stewarts is my girl and you just gotta find clothes that purify you and make you feel raidant. I could remeber a time when we didn't have big woman size clothing which made it hard to be big, but girl love who you are
2007-03-16 11:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by Soulchild21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called a reality check. Sure, we should all strive to improve ouself any way we can but not at the price of our self esteem for who and what we are now. Plans and dreams are great for the future but we need to learn to be happy with ourselves NOW. We all lose our outward beauty as time goes on. It is unrealistic to think that we can be the slim, trim, 'sweet youg thang' that we were in our teens and twenties. Pop culture and the media advertising agencies have created an unnatural belief that getting older, putting on weight and not being 'perfect' somehow means you are lazy, stupid and 'less than'. I have seen people that chase this belief and how no matter how many hours they put in the gym, marathons they run, etc. their self esteem still hurts and they become harder on themselves with each day for the sin of being normal. I'd rather look at my love handles and know I earned them through years of living and working for my family, eating lousy food on the road and at the office to make a better life for my family. When I can find time, I try to improve myself but I will not be ashamed of living my life taking care of others instead of doing 'Arnie poses' for myself in some gym.
2007-03-16 11:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by sepowens1968 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BBW are beautiful
2007-03-17 05:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by asian_man_admires_bbw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋