What is the negative side of choosing a role model?

Answer 1

That role model may not turn out to be as awesome as you once thought, and you would feel very dissapointed.

Also, you don't necessarily want to follow exactly in another person's footsteps. Looking up to someone is fine, but live your life not theirs.

Answer 2

It depends on the extent to which the role model is a 'model' to you. This person may have inspired you by embodying many of your beliefs, such that you choose to live your life with his/her spirit blossoming within yourself and as a result become a stronger, more beautiful person. If that is the case, I don't see anything negative about choosing a role model.

However, there is always a risk of that role model becoming so much of a 'model' to you that you choose to think and be like him or her in every way - so much so that your identity gets mixed up with his or hers. Sometimes this can be positive because there is just so much you can learn in the process. For example, if the role model in question is a dancer, you may mind yourself knowing almost everything you can think of about dance after a time. But the fact remains that you are still your own person, and one day when you have discovered your true self and a true life path that you wish to follow, you may find with a start that you have travelled too far down a divergent road by following that role model of yours.

Another possible negative side to choosing your role model is that you may begin to evaluate yourself too harshly based on the role model. While you can by all means become as beautiful a person as the role model is inside, physically and appearance-wise, you will live a much happier life appreciating what you were born with. Evaluating yourself too harshly based on your role model can frustrate you and possibly ruin your self-esteem.

So my advice would be to choose a role model not to fill in some gap within yourself (because only you can make yourself a whole person), but to allow yourself to be strengthened in terms of who you really are and what you believe in.

Answer 3

Depends, that role model may hide a dark secret that if found out could scare and younger child if that was his/her role model.

Its good to have a role model BUT some people without knowing it loose their own identity and try to follow that role model to the 't' and that is when it has a negitive side, when you spend to much time about what your role model is doing and not enough on your self.

A role model can be benefical as long as you dont live by the role model, if that makes sense.

Answer 4

I am not sure if their is actually a negative side to choosing a role-model for oneself. We choose a person as a role-model because we identify with certain per-dominant positive attributes or skills of that person as something desirable for ourselves - which we don't have.

However, those positive attributes do not necessarily make up the complete persona of the role-model. For e.g if I choose an eminent business person or industrialist as my role-model; it is because he/she embodies everything that I want to emulate in my own business - ethics, vision, prosperity, etc. I would be let-down if I took this one step further and identified with his/her personal life too because the role-model may actually be a "bad" husband or father or having traits that are in conflict with my value systems.

We need to therefore understand WHAT are the attributes of the role-model that we identify with and just stick to that aspect. You will never be disappointed then.

Answer 5

For me
Choosing a Role Model it self is the most negative thing

Man
is the only one blessed with sixth sense

every one in this world is unique.
not even the closest relations ..... mother and the kid ...are the same

the utility of sixth sense is achieved only
when you get to know about others ........ learn the good things from them
and

practice them in your life.

As long as one knows the good things and morals

you dont require a role model .... U can B 1 UR self

pickin up rol models

r 4 dose who dont want to live the life meaning fully

Answer 6

I think that having a role model or a mentor can be a great thing and can teach us alot. The downside could be if you loose yourself and try too hard to become like that person. A role model should be someone to look up to and to learn from, but at the same time we have to remember that no one is perfect. As long as we keep that balance. Learn from them and take away the positive things you learn while incorporating them into your own life and personality.

Answer 7

Have you watched chicken picking up their food. They follow thier mother hen and pick up their food in the same way.their mothers do.

Have you seen a cat carrying its kitten in her mouth. A kitten does not know which is a safe place. It relies on her mother completely. Does not know where it is taken and why!

Have you seen a monkey clinging to its mother's belly., even when the mother jumps from tree to tree, from branches to branches. It is natural way and no body taught it to do so. But it knows the risk of falling down and grips to her mother as strong as it can., and is able to hold the branches in due course without anybody's help.. It has learnt the life itself, though there was a roll model.

As you grow, m you come acrose complex situations compelling your intervention and action. There are finer nuances in dealing, with any particular situation. Say convincing your father why you need a particular book. or convincing your boss why you need certain type of inputs.

Each action has separate approach and style. That which is suitable under a particular circumstance may not be applicable to another situation.

If you simply mimic your role model, you may not receive the result you desired. As a monkey feels its responsibility in clinging to her mother, you involve yourself in any pursuit fully, think over, do a swot analysis, and innovate your course of action and do what your intutiion says.

Following role models may be to a limitted extent of learning the job, applications, sincerety in application and soft touches. Perhaps they may take you to a problem solving skill and may not put you totally out of the problem.

There fore hold to your intelctual capacities like a monkey, don't depend upon role models just amicably and to say latter on that you did what he used to do, but then could not deliver. It will be a shame on you.. Don't be a kitten following the same pattern of behaviour, unaware if the results.

Know the nuances from role models and be yourself answereing to your observations and intution, satisfying yourself to your own role play instead of mimicking others.

You be uneque and be a role model for others., yourself

Answer 8

Too often many people think of their role model as the person they want to be. This can cause their confidence level to decress. The person needs to gain confidence in being who they are and not who society wants them to be. However, a positive role model can give a person with low self-esteem the confidence to venture out and try new things until they can get to the point where they are comfortable being who they really are.

Answer 9

Nobody is perfect. Often when we choose a role model we assume they have no flaws. But they do, and then we are very disappointed, both with them and with ourselves for believing in them.

If you pick a role model for some particular trait, just remember that this is why you picked them, and don't idolize them unconditionally. And even if they let you down in that one thing you picked them for, it won't hurt as much if you keep it narrow.

Answer 10

If the role model is a nut case he might not be the one to follow.