My partner and I get along really well, except he thinks that some time when we very first got together that I cheated on him. We argued over this for quite a while, cause I really didn't cheat on him at all. He then dropped it and apologised for being a ****.
However now I realise that he still does actually think that I did this, but has decided to forgive it because we'd only just started dating and he just wants to get over it.
I can't believe this!!! I am shocked, and no matter what I say he says he won't believe me but loves me and wants to move forward. Honestly this seems very strange to me, except I know he really does love me.
I am very confused, and clearly he doesn't trust me completely because of this. What on earth can i do. I find it so unsettling that it's making me have anxiety.
2007-03-16 03:47:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well hun if you two are going to be together then hes doing the right think in trying to move on from it.. ok so he may not believe it - but at least hes not dwelling on it... I think you really need to just accept his gesture to move on from it and go with him.
you cant keep thinking about his motives to move on - but it seems like hes taken the common sense approach to it - to salvage your relationship.
you both need to try and put it behind ye - even if you know you didnt cheat - and concentrate on the future
xx
2007-03-16 03:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some open honest conversation needs to be had here. Trust take time to build but a few miniutes to destroy, once lost it is near on impossible to get back. If you did nothing wrong then your partner needs to listen to this and accept it. I have a feeling that there may be somthing more to this than he has told you? May be an ex has cheated in the past. The problem here is that YOU can not be held responsible for actions of a past partner. To move forward you need to talk head on about these issues, you need to resolve and lay this matter to rest once and for all, if you do not do this it will keep on coming up. Tell your partner how this is making you feel, listen to him and deal with it, You will be fine and if you can work through this you can work through anything.
Good luck and I hope things sort themselves out for you.
2007-03-16 04:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by djp6314 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the mistrust will be there for ever, i made the same mistakes when i first met my current girlfriend. she knew i was a complete tart when i met her, but i would never cheat on her now, she is the light of my life. she has been loyal to me through some very trying times, when if the situations were reversed, i would have walked. I'm an 18 stone 41 year old bit of a chancer, but i wouldn't give her up for the world. it doesn't matter where i am or who I'm with, but if she calls, i always tell her i love her before putting the phone down.
she will never trust me completely, but if you love him enough, then tell him what you think, don't let the confusion fester as it will split you in the end.
2007-03-18 04:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by robertsutherland1@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand your frustration, i would also not rest till i knew he believed me! i would tell him that he may be able to move on but you just cant and suggest couple counselling! do you think there could be anything else behind his refusal to believe you perhaps he doesnt want to believe cos he may have cheated and it makes him feel less guilty if he believes you have, it is only a suggestion and i hope i 'm wrong good luck anyway!
2007-03-16 08:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Honesty ♥.•´ `*.¸ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone you should've left him when he first said you did and you told him you didn't, you don't gotta take that **** from no man you don't chase him you replace him and then give hime something to talk about, why be confused with a man who thinks that you cheated on him as soon as yall got together, that's a headache you are better than me cause i would've told him look, i aint gotta be with no man who don't trust me but claims you love me...................Move on honey remeber don't chase him REPLACE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-16 03:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Soulchild21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just admit to him that you did cheat on him, then the two of you can move on from there.
2007-03-16 03:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"complete trust" is a myth! how on earth is it possible to trust completely in a sinful imperfect human being? i think we simply learn to live with our insecurities
2007-03-16 03:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by CHARLIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to couples counseling to talk it out
2007-03-16 04:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋