Who is in the right or wrong in this situation ?

Question

If you write someone , they write you back , they tell you not to write back but you do , then they write back and they get to state thier opinion then they say stop writing them , and it goes on because you want to defend yourself against this angry person - but you finally just let thier last one go , because it is not worth it . Who was in the right or wrong . And when you are defending yourself against this angry person , with psychology not anger , should you stop and give in . What is right ? Should I keep debating this person , or leave it alone ?

Yes the other persons words were scary enough for me to stop !

Scary as in threatening way .

Scary as in threatening way .

Well it is kind of stupid . You know how next to your avatar there is an option to email someone ? Well I took the option to write , when I saw a responce this person wrote to another person (I don't even know) But I wanted to defend the person . They were put down about the way they wrote thier question , The person said that "wrong spelling is the reason they got left by thier loved one !" So I chose to defend and it backfired on me . I thought it was cruel when maybe the person was disabled , or from another country , or so poor they couldn't finish school ! That is what I was debating . The other person just couldn't get off the fact that I emailed them , and they kept saying I was childish . They got very angry at me ! So I stopped and came here .

Answer 1

You made the right decision for walking away.

Morons never learn, unless they learn it the hard way. Lol.

I think you're right for trying to defend the questioner and turning your back against stupidity, I support that completely, but it doesn't seem right to me the fact that you also kept up the grudge against the other person.

It's hard to really say who is right or wrong, I would have to go with my opinions, especially because I don't truly know what either of you wrote to each other and a vision of your point of views.

Although I would've or may've done the same thing, I personally usually try to avoid it as it provokes the other person even more, and the result would nevertheless be negative - both would most probably get upset over it. :P

Leave it alone, you tried, and sooner or later realization would come to that person's mind.
Especially when you left unspoken or without a defence like that. >:D

It makes the other person question your actions and the situation that just occured. ;) Guilt will or might build up in him/her, but that's the best way to handle someone cruel.

Let it go, forgive. :) It's not easy, but try your best. :P Release your pain and anger, it's over now. ;)

You've made the right decision.

~ Christy

Answer 2

You couldn't possible have a right or wrong in the situation. Its more like the choice of being bothered. This person obviously doesn't want to write you, but you're presistant on "trying to defend yourself" for (i'm assuming) a reason you're not sure of. However, they're the one telling you stop writing but continues to write back. There were things you noticed in the letters that made that person get to that point. There's something you are not telling us...

You make yourself look guilty when ever they say one thing, you're quick to defend.

Keep it that way. Leave it alone.

Answer 3

You always have the right to respond, but it sounds like this person just wanted to have the last word. My question is, what is the point of defending yourself to a person who apparently does not have any desire to hear you? Why not just let it go. If you get another letter from the person, don't open it, just write "return to sender" and put it back in the mail.

If the person is threatening you and you believe it is a serious threat - take it to the police.

Answer 4

Since the argument is being carried on via mail, and you are not face to face, it sounds like you are both being petty. I hope it hasn't been going on very long. Ask yourself, "Why am I even thinking of prolonging this situation?"

Just a comment..... Every time I tell people to step back and take a good look at themselves, I get at least 1 "thumbs down". There must be some truth to the fact that more and more people think self responsibility has gone out of fashion. It is always someone else's fault. To all you perfect people out there, I am publicly admitting I have faults.

Answer 5

well i suppose the actual debate would have been nice. then i could give my opinion as to whos right/wrong in the situation. as far as this person telling u to stop at first i would want to defend myself like you said by writing back but if he says stop writing time after time i would stop. its clear u made ur point to him otherwise he wouldnt say stop writing, thats how i look at it anyway so weather this person admits it or not ur defence is valid in their mind and perhaps they dont have anything good to retaliate back with.

ok well it was good of you to try and defend at first but now id call it quits. online battle of wits does nothing because you'll never meet that person, just like people who try and talk big on the internet its like oh boy we got a **** talker whos never gona meet me ever lol.

Answer 6

You were asked to stop writing them.

Yet you continued, saying that you are "defending" yourself, no that is not what you are doing. You are harrassing the other person.

Let it go whatever it is.

Didn't your mother tell you not to talk to strangers?

Answer 7

It was right to leave it alone and respect the others wishes even though you don't agree. It's simply not worth the effort. Godloveya.

Answer 8

I think you have the right to respond as long as it is in a nonthreatening way. That is freedom of speech. No one says they have to open a letter either.

Answer 9

Both of u have differents views in seeing the matter.So i am neither able 2 state who is in the right nor who is in the wrong.

Answer 10

You're obviously a woman -- overdramatizing everything!