My wife was in a pretty bad accident a last year (she was not the driver), but now it seems like she doesnt trust anybody's driving, including mine. We drove long distance from Jersey to Georgia and all I heard was her complaining and telling me how to drive. I mean i feel for her, but you shouldnt tell a man how to drive. what do i do?
2007-03-16 03:21:03 · 22 answers · asked by Kingston 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds as if your wife may be suffering from PTSD, (post traumatic stress disorder) or Anxiety disorder as a result of her accident. This is not uncommon for people that have lived through a scary thing like she has. I have PTSD myself, but it mine was brought on by something different. She may need anti-anxiety medication, therapy, or counseling to get over this fear she has.
You should try to persuade her to see a doctor and discuss this with him or her. In the meantime, just try to be as sympathetic and understanding with her as you can because this is not her fault. Good luck to you and her. I hope she can overcome her problem.
2007-03-16 03:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat.... I was in an accident too and now I only trust my driving no one else's. IT is very hard to relax and you get flash backs. It has been 7 years since my accident and I still freak out when someone pulls out or acts like they are not going to stop from the right. I slam on my breaks every time.
The best thing to do is try to get her mind off of the road by having her look for deer or something. Also you could drive t ogive her confidence by not following people to close and not speeding and not being an aggressive driver.
2007-03-16 10:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's never been in an accident while you were driving, and you have a good driving record...
tell her you understand that not being in control of a vehicle can make a person nervous, esp. after her recent experience, but point out the above details (gently!!) and suggest (also gently, not impatiently) that she sit back, take a deep breath, relax, and trust you.
... Also make sure you aren't taking any unneccessary risks, like a left hand turn you have to really speed up to make in front of traffic...
2007-03-16 10:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by Megs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time, my dear friend, time. You have to drive gently and the only way she can conquer that fear is drive herself. That way, she will be able to gain confidence.
My wife was involved in a head-on crash many years ago. She started driving again after 7 months. Although shhe has a lot of fear of inconsiderate drivers, she has learnt that giving way to brute drivers helps her control her fear and assure her safety.
Let the brutes have their way, peace of mind is something that is great when you know that you can control that primitive urge to be right or first. Remember always, that you can be right but you can also be dead right!
Let the mad drivers go on their way to hell. Reassure your wife that you do not need to prove anything on the road.
2007-03-16 10:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by angstrom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should be a little more understanding. If she was in a serious accident she is going to be apprehensive for a while.
Accidents can cause a great deal of physiological trauma on top of what physical injuries she may have suffered.
So just do your best to be patient and let her have her say for a while.
She feels the need to protect you and her by doing this
2007-03-16 10:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just had to drive didnt ya? You knew she had these problems and drove all the way to Georgia knowing she was frightened and scared. Her imagination is seeing an accident at every corner, she is probably very tense her hands white knuckled and gasps often when you brake suddenly or any thing happens. She's scared to death and all you can say is she shouldnt tell me how to drive? What a good guy she's got.
2007-03-16 10:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've been my husband for 15 yrs....(3 dating, 12 married) and i still freak out when he's driving. Its not that he's a bad driver, its just me. She's not telling you how to drive, She's freaking out because of the accident. It takes time to get over the tramatic experience. Just don't take it to heart, she not trying to hurt you in doing this.
2007-03-16 10:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by smurfie45 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't tell a good driver how to drive is what you meant, right? Sorry she is anxious about it but she has developed a paralyzing fear and she could use counseling to overcome it. You can try to do relaxation things with her so that can remain calm but she needs some type therapy to help ease the stress.
2007-03-16 10:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pull over and tell her straight to her eyes, " My love, I love you and everything but honey, trust me. I know that I was not with you when you had your car accident and I don't imagine how it would feel. But you see you are a strong women and I don't want nothing to happen to you. I won't let anything happen to you. I will drive as careful as I can. I promise, Baby but you have to let me drive. Let's talk and relax."
Try that.
2007-03-16 10:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by My dreams are my sanity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have 3 choices: 1) Stop driving your wife around, 2)tell her to stop complaining, or 3) live with it.
2007-03-16 10:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋