to all the couples that been married for more then two years.?

Question

how do you keep the spark in your marriage, im a newly married and it has been great. been married for a month but been in a relationship for a year. known her for a long time. it is good and beautiful. want advice to keep it that way and keep the spark. love being married!!!

she is my best friend, we talk about everything, we are both romantic, we are always together when we have the time, i work and she works, i call or text her sweet messages, and let her know i miss her, love her, want her, adore her. she is my queen, my angel in disquise and my everything, she feels and does the same for me.

Answer 1

We will soon celebrate our 20th anniversary! Be respectful of each others needs, wants and individualities. Always show gentle affection and unexpected tenderness whenever you get the opportunity. That's not the same thing as getting hot and heavy.....It's a two-second kiss on her cheek or her hand for no reason at all, it's saying I love you just because you do, It's opening doors for her and making an occassional sunday breakfast, it's taking the effort to be a romantic by lighting scented candles and giving her a delicate massage when all you really want to do is "get your mack on". Continue to "date" her even though you've already won her heart and stole her hand. You can almost always afford a two-dollar matinee movie now and then or pack up a basket of lunch and a blanket and enjoy some serenity at a pleasant location together. You may even offer to just hang loose now and then on a week end and do a little bit of nothing together. It isn't the big or expensive things that keep the romance alive, it's the quality of time you spend together and the the quality of time you spend apart as well. We all need our own space from time to time and that isn't a bad thing, it's healthy. Ask her how you can make her happy and don't be shy to tell her how to make you happy either. Never forget your manners either, it's only common courtesy to say please and thank you. Try to find moments when you can tell her how much you appreciate her for the things she does for you. It will take the effort of both of you to balance a good marriage. She will have to do her part as well. Never overlook or minimize anything she does for you. Be fair to each other and acknowledge that there is no such thing as a fairy tale marriage. Expect the unexpected, take the bad with the good and remember..... It takes fire to make steel. Congratulations and best wishes.

Answer 2

That is beyond tacky. The couple chose to elope; therefore, they gave up the normal pre-wedding activities like a bridal shower. Showers are not given after the wedding and especially not two years after they got married. And a vow renewal ceremony when they've only been married for two years - yes they are definitely just fishing for gifts. I think vow renewal ceremonies are only appropriate for those who have been married a decent amount of time - 10 years, 15 years, 20 years, etc. They chose to elope; they can't have a "redo". If I were you, I would not attend the "bridal shower" and if you do attend the vow renewal, I would bring a card.

Answer 3

Remember the feeling that you are having right now! As things start to change (having kids, job demands, ect) do not forget the feeling you are having right now and what it is that you do together. Always make time for each other...personal one on one time just for the two of you (talking, taking a ride, going out to eat, swinging on the front porch, holding hands, ect..). Those are the things that I miss most about the beginning of my marriage...hubby is just now understanding this and we are starting to get that spark going again! It is so easy to take your spouse for granted and if you do not take the time to show them that you are still "into them" with the little things the spark can go out fast! Good Luck and Great question!

Answer 4

The spark will disapate after 3 years - regardless of what you do. Always does - any person truthful with themselves will tell you this. If you have mutual respect for each other and true friendship with things in common, then your marriage will endure. If you base a marriage solely on love and attraction, it is doomed to fail as that "in love" feeling and attraction wane. If you truly like the other person and enjoy thier company on a level that you enjoy your friends, you will maintain a quiet affection for each other and all will be well. If you're expecting any more than that, you'll be sorely disappointed.

Answer 5

I have been married to my husband for 10 years, and we still have a great spark. We show each other little signs of affection every day. A kiss, a compliment about how hot they are, a pat on the butt, whatever. Try to stay spontaneous. Don't get into the mentality that sex has to be on Thursday at 9:00. Have fun with each other!

Answer 6

Good for you! I read on line all the time on different things to do. We play erotic board games, plan things for each other but keep it a surprise, we'll meet at home for a quickie, sometimes we even take half a day off, go drive around and find some off the road place to have sex. We make sure we don't smother each other, but we still keep in touch throughout the day, kiss hello, good bye, good night, etc. We talk about everything! Go to ivillage.com. They have great advice that you can both take advantage of! Go to the Love & Sex tab up at the top, and you will never run out of stuff to read!

Answer 7

I like to to tell her how good she looks. Being complimentary lets her know you still notice things. Show how thankful you are that she is helpful and considerate and expect the same. Call for no reason and tell her you were thinking about her. Take more time to prepare for sex. Create more mood and atmosphere. Take more time touching and feeling along with the normal foreplay. Candles. Bath oils. The magic doesnt HAVE to end. Many people let this great stuff die, out of boredom or just plain busy schedules. I never will.

Answer 8

It sounds like you have a very good beginning. Try not to let the romance die. Just keep doing what you are doing. Get away together at least once a year (even after kids!) someplace romantic.
Try to be servants to one another. Ask yourself every day how you could better serve your wife today and she should ask the same of herself.
Share your fantasies with one another. I know that has worked well with us.

God Bless!

Answer 9

It's your level of commitment to your new spouse that will keep the "spark" as you call it. You must be devoted to each others emotional well being as well as each others physical well being, and it has to be the foundation you build the rest of your lives upon. The mundane things of life must remain in the back seat in your relationship. Take care of business of course, but take care of each other first. The two of you together is more important. If your love for each other eventually produces children, they must be shown that your relationship together is as important as your relationship with them. This will only provide them with a model of marriage that they can later emulate latter in their adult lives.
Date like you just met regularly.
Marriages only lose the "spark" if the people in them let it. Stay committed to each other, stay vigilant to the health of your relationship, never fight about things that just don't matter.
Good luck.

Answer 10

The way I keep the spark alive is by agreeing with him most of the time. The only thing about this suggestion is that I don't enjoy having sex too much, because I need my way too. I guess I didn't help you too much. By the way, we have been married 52 years. .