its hurting me very bad, even my father supports me and he is old fashioned!
2007-03-16 03:15:24 · 27 answers · asked by Jenny F 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Remind her that statistics show she will probably outlive your dad and that "YOU" might be the one picking out the nursing home that will be changing her diapers in a few years!!!
GEE MOM - those bed-sores sure do look painful...
2007-03-16 03:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by ImUrMan 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm very sorry to hear it. I agree with the others, perhaps she just needs time to get used to the idea. Send her cards on holidays to remind her that you still love her no matter what, and hopefully her mother's love will overcome her disappointment in what she wanted for you. Having your father's support is a good sign, too, because he may be able to work on her a bit and remind her that the most important thing is that you are happy.
2007-03-16 03:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Being a lesbian doesn't make you any less of a person. Your mother should know that because of all of the lessons she taught you when you were growing up. Just give it time. She will see you for who you are. Be patient.
Good luck.
If you want to talk about it at all in private let me know. Just send me an email and I can give you some suggestions or ideas. I'm glad you came out to them. Its tough to do. Your on my list of personal idols. And I don't even know your name! Take care.
2007-03-16 03:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by Some Random Guy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i know how it feels to be disowned and i know from experience that it sucks. but you may just have to give her time. if you've already done that then i really don't know what to do or say.
but i really and honestly know how it feels, my mother disowned me b/c i chose to be with my natural father instead of being in a house of drunks. And not being able to act my age(this was when i was 8-11). and i can't tell my step mother that i'm bi b/c she's really close to me and also very very religious.
but i guess all you can do is be proud of yourself for actually being able to come out to your family and be happy with yourself and your desicion,and if it help im here to talk if you want. but remember you always have your dad. and he'll always be your superhero right?
2007-03-16 03:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Ali 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Give her time to accept this. A mothers love is unconditional she may just be in sortive shock and disapointment. But I would try to send her a note, card or something letting her know that you are still you but you choose to love women instead of men.
Stay strong, at least you do have one supportive parent, some people do not even get that.
:)
2007-03-16 03:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by 2shay 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Thank God Dad realizes the importance of supporting you in your choice.Its must be very hard to come forth with this kind of news to your parents,in hopes of support only to feel rejected by your mom.As long as you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else and are happy,all you can do is set an example for acceptance.
2007-03-16 03:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by FYIIM1KO 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Im really sorry to hear that. Maybe your mother is just surprised and doesn't know how to deal with it. At least your father is supporting you, and maybe in time your mother will come to terms with the fact that you are still her daughter and still a human being...you simply have different tastes than her.
2007-03-16 03:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
That's the life you chose! You should have expected some type of lashing coming your way. All I would advise is that you move on with your life. Hell you have to keep breathing right? So take if for what it's worth and just move on. Maybe one day your mother will realize the mistake she made and come knocking on your door. Because my daughter is in the life.......well bi but I love my daughter unconditionally and that's the way parents should love their children regardless.
2007-03-16 03:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Try talking to her... as a mature person... that always help...
Personally, my mom made a huge issue when she found out that I was gay... but I showed her, or at least tried, that this is the life I have chosen for me... Lately, we get along just fine... not like before, but good enough (I think she thinks that by smooching me more can get me straight hehehe)
Anyway, dad took it much better... we just don't talk about it... But then again... I guess gays and lesbian's parents reactions are not the same
2007-03-16 03:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Give her time to adjust. It may take a while. Realize, she may never understand. You can only be the best person you can be regardless of sexual orientation. Now she needs to try to be ther best person she can be, regardless of your sexual orientation, if she can and wants too. You can't do anything about how she feels without being untrue to yourself. The ball is really in her court. Just try to keep the lines of communication open on your end. I hope one day soon your mom comes around. BTW, good for your Dad. Lean on him a bit, and know your mom loves you, she just doesn't understand and understanding takes time.
2007-03-16 03:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by Partisanshipsux 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's a sad fact of life that our families don't always support us when we need them the most. Be grateful for your dad's support--it's usually the other way around. Eventually, your mom might come around and realize that you're still her precious daughter. But if she doesn't, that's just the way it goes sometimes, and it will be her loss at least as much as yours.
2007-03-16 05:00:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋