my two Little bros are not listening to me when I'm in charge what should i do?

Answer 1

restrict what they can do...if that does not work let a parent know ....and the parent should make them wish they did not give you a hard time...that alone will give you leverage...good luck

Answer 2

Exert your authority. They are not your two little bros when you are in charge. Your parents gave you a huge responsibility to safe guard them. Be the older sibling and "lay down the law". You are not to be their buddy when you are in charge. It is good training for you later in life. Be fore warned though and don't become a monster. The world is full of monsters.

Answer 3

Your question shows what you are doing wrong, “I'm in charge”. No your not, power isn’t this external entity in the universe that is distributed by politicians bosses and parents. Power is an exclusively psychological creation, and you only have as much power over someone as they let you have. You can ‘exert’ your authority all you want, simply put you don’t have any, even though your parent ‘gave’ it to you.

Stop looking at yourself as in charge, and start looking at yourself as a responsible leader and mentor. You can’t just take that role and instantly get a response though, you will have to ease into, and ease them into it. Eventually you will be able to start getting them to do things, or not do things, with that power of respect you’ve built up.

So, how do you do this? Well that is harder for me to describe, I’ve done it, I do it, but it isn’t a precise science. First I would say, respect. Respect yourself and respect them. If you don’t respect them they will either resent you if they obey, or simply not obey. If you don’t respect yourself they won’t obey either.

Two, take care of them. Show them that you are going to help them both when you are in ‘charge’ and not. This should build up respect, and an undertone of obligation. This is a two way street, if one of them isn’t helping you out by not fulfilling your needs, like say they are breaking stuff while your parents are gone, you can stop giving them as much help, or not help at all, an concentrate on the other one. Just because you respect them doesn’t mean you let them disrespect you.

Three, don’t over estimate what you can get them to do. Especially in the beginning. It is best not to give ‘orders’, rather to ask, demonstrate etc. If they are wild and running around the house, you might have to let it continue for awhile before you can build yourself up. What happen when you ask? You find out where they are placing your authority. If they stop, then that means in the future you can tell them to stop and they will listen. If you tell them the first time you will never get there. Watch for other clues they give you about how much power you have over them, other things they do on their own, give to you, or say.

Four, reciprocate. Like two, when they give you something, some power or authority, that also means responsibility, they are in essence deferring to you on that point, and you need to show them you will both cover them in that area, and that you will provide them with additional help/respect/leadership/services whatever. For instance, if you tell them to stop running around like maniacs inside and they do, take them outside to run around like maniacs.

Remember, your parents are giving your the responsibility of being 'in charge', but there is no way they can give you that power. You have to take it for yourself, and you are going to have to learn taking responsibility for your brother. If they do something wrong, then you did something wrong, at least that is the mentality you need to foster.

Answer 4

Put them in charge of each other. Tell each one that they are responsible for making the other one happy. Tell them that you are the boss, but that all good bosses accept good suggestions.

Answer 5

See when you are the boss you should have the talent to control your suborditates if that is not possible then you simply avoid controlling them.

Answer 6

Sit them down, no TV, no snacks, no distractions and tell them how you feel, if that doesn't work I suggest Blackmail

Answer 7

why should they listen to you, you're not their mom. whenever i watch my brother he's usually good because he's scared of me.