don't want to accept that we still want to be part of each others life as friens , ofcourse....am i wrong thinking that this should be ok with my now or is he right on getting so jealous about this frienship??? what should i do??
2007-03-16 02:59:30 · 18 answers · asked by nica mami74 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is immature behavior on your current boyfriends part. tell him to grow up. there is nothing wrong with being friends with your ex, your life, your choice. Don't let someone else inflict you with their insecurities and beliefs.
2007-03-16 03:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Question you have to ask yourself is "would it bother you if it were the other way around?" Would it bother you if your boyfriend is really good friends with another woman in general? If not, find someone that you are more compatible with. Its not always the fact that he is jealous, he may just want to be your only male friend if in fact he doesn't have any female friends. As far as your ex, again, he's an ex for a reason. IT DID NOT WORK OUT,TIME TO LET GO. You can never have a future holding on to yesterday. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Be reasonable and play fair. The two of you (current boyfriend) met for a reason, if you can make it work, do so. If not, it will only get worse trying to make someone understand your behavior that's not a problem for you.
2007-03-16 03:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by Iwannanewcar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very good friends with my ex. Alot of people had a problem with it, especially his new gf's but they got over it. I think its assumed that the two of you should dislike one another because u r divorced or divorcing. Not the case and I think its better when its ended on a good note instead of a bad one.
I always told my new bf's up front about how my ex and i interact. I told them not to think anything other than what it is, but that they will have to accept it. If they couldnt, they needed to move on because i wont choose between anyone and me and the ex had a long history. I wont give up his friendship and any bf of mine needs to be more secure than to have that be a problem. There is nothing wrong with being friends and I would tell the new bf that he needs to accept it. That is unless u r willing to give up the ex as a friend and do what your bf wants. I personally wouldnt. Thats just insecurity on his part and he needs to grow up.
Good luck to u.
2007-03-16 03:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it's serious with your boyfriend.....your loyalty is with the boyfriend. You need to respect him. Do you have kids with your soon to be ex husband? Coming from a stepmom....it's hard enough knowing that my fiance is in contact with someone he's had sex with in the past....your friendship with your ex and your love for your new boyfriend will cause you a lot of headache. Can you truly move on when you haven't left the past?
2007-03-16 04:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by missjazeeboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I are friends also. My now husband did not understand at first because he hates his ex. Talk to your ex and let him know that your current is having issues with it and give it a little space for a while. let them get to know each other and if you are really important to your current in time he will see that there is just friendship and he'll be ok.
2007-03-16 03:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was best friends with my ex until his death. Of course they didn't quite get along, they were so much a like. You just have to remember to put your new BO first. Remain friends with your ex, call and chat with him when your alone, just don't rub it in your new bf face, it could destroy your relationship. Men don't like jealous women, yet they get jealous and insecure. Just do it wisely, so as not to offend your new bf. No one says that you have to tell your new bf everything, some things are better unsaid
2007-03-16 03:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are no kids or other ties that require a close relationship with your ex I would be curious as to why the closeness needs to exist. If your divorce was because he did something terrible to you then I can understand why you new boyfriend would be resentful. But he knew your situation when he became involved with you I assume.
2007-03-16 03:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you divorcing him if you still want to be in each others lives. Do you have any children or something? The only reason I even speak ot my ex-husband is because of our son. I think your boyfriend is right. Why are you trying to make him jealous with your ex.
2007-03-16 03:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by angie a 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well being on the other side of things I am the new wife and my husband and his ex- wife are still friends and know me and her are actually better friends then they are your boyfriend just has to have trust that's all.
2007-03-16 03:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by mistywoods27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he should be jealous, sine you were in marrage with this guy, and since you are still "friends" to him that means that there is still hope for you two, i would say, he has every right to be jealous, confident or not, reverse it, how would u feel if him and his ex wife were still close friends, unless your ex is friends with the both of you, and only your new bf goes and hangs out with you two, and its never just you and your ex alone EVER, then he should learn to except it, but of course it is going to be tough for him, just NEVER go out with your ex without him.
2007-03-16 03:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Replace your name with your "new boyfriend" and put the shoe on the other foot. First, you'd be pi$$$ed, second all the women who responded that the man was a jerk, or insecure, would be saying the EXACT SAME thing about him if HE did what you were doing..this poor bastard can't win.
How many of you women would be "OK" with your new boyfriend staying "friends" with his ex? Yeah RIGHT!!!!
2007-03-16 03:10:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋