I do whatever it takes to pleasure her, but she doesn't return the favor. Especially oral, I allways perform it on her and she never does it for me. Could it be that she is not attracted to me sexually anymore? It just seems like she is only in it for her pleasure, and she not really worried if I get any pleasure or not. What should I do?
2007-03-16 02:59:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
is this the only aspect of your realtionship where she is selfish?
I do what makes my man happy and it is returned
break out the chocolate syrup or whipped cream and play
2007-03-16 03:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by ann s 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it may be a confidence thing with her. Mastering the art of oral can be challenging for some women. If its that important to you then you need to teach her what pleases you. If she is unwilling to learn or it disgusts her you better find a new way to receive pleasure. It all a compromise my friend.
2007-03-16 03:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesn't know HOW to pleasure you? Has she ever done it before? She could be shy, embarrassed, not know what to do, etc. Do you say, "Hey honey, I would really like if you did .......". I'm all about pleasing my husband but I've read a lot, experimented a lot (on him) etc. Just help her realize she will also get pleasure from pleasuring you!
2007-03-16 03:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some women don't choose to perform oral sex on a man. Neither should they be expected to, if it's not something they choose to do. If you are doing this to your wife, that's your choice. You can stop anytime you want to, especially if you're doing it to get something in return.
And don't try that crap about, "Could it be that she is not attracted to me sexually anymore?" Your wife doesn't choose to do that, so stop acting like you don't understand.
2007-03-16 03:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha,ha,ha,ha,ha,ha,ha,ha,ha,
Welcome to marriage big guy. Remember all that great love, sex and adventure you used to have. Well its over.
You have been hooked there is no more need to offer the lure.
How do you deal with a self absorbed woman who has turned your marriage into a " its all about me" thing? If you come up with a method which does not cause argument
find a publisher and write that book because it will be a best seller.
It will eventually come down to your doing the inventory of "what I do for you" vs." what you do for me".
Never an easy discussion.
2007-03-16 03:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually it's the other way around! Not fun is it?!! Tell her that while you love her you feel there is a problem in the "loving'" area. Tell her that you only feel it is fair that since you do oral on a regular basis, that she reciprocate. Definitely consider laying off until she gets the picture. Fair is fair!
2007-03-16 03:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women really find it disgusting. Some wives and/or husbands are unimaginative. Some are just plain lazy. But fair is fair. If she gets it, she should give it back. I would suggest letting her know how important it is that she give you at least some oral stimulation during sex. If she loves you, she will want to please you. And if she really is selfish and says, no, I wouldn't do it for her then.
2007-03-16 03:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with gunga, stop going down on her until she returns the favor, she really is self centered. I don't agree with everyone who said that she doesn't know how, if she loves you she would at least try. Something is really wrong here.
2007-03-16 03:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is self centered because you have taught her to be.
Start taking what you want. She's a big girl, she can stop you or say no if she's not comfortable with it. Stop doing what you think she wants then pouting because she doesn't magically do what you want. You're probably turning her off by doing that.
2007-03-16 04:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always deny it to her, if it means that much to you. Plus, oral on a guy....is..sorry to inform...kind of disgusting. Most girls probably wanted to gag the first time they did it, it was definitely an "aquired" taste, I mean seriously...without doing it a few times..who really wants to insert that thing in their mouth.
P.S. It doesn't make her self-centered.....if the roles were reversed that would be normal, as sad as that is, most guys don't put out in that way, so it is unfortunate for you
2007-03-16 03:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by kurious kat 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋